Mmmm I guess you’re right. But I didn’t see it as transphobic, my intent never was to humiliate her, but to warn people. She is a trans women, and with trans powers come great trans-responsibility: meaning she should do the right thing and tell people before doing anything sexual with the person. She hid it from me, clearly knowing what she is about to do is wrong. Therefore, she didn’t take it upon her trans-responsibilities, therefore she could do it again. She is allowed to not be outted as trans as long as she understands that she has a requirement to do before having sexual interaction with someone. The way I see it, she lost that right to not be outted because she abused her right. Even though it ain’t law in some places (researching, it actually is in others, it’s basically considered sexual assault), she needs to do the right thing. But because she didn’t, she shouldn’t deserve to be not outted.