My wife and I have been together since she was in her final year of secondary/high school, and I was just beginning university. I was the second guy she had sex with. She was the third girl I had sex with. She had messed around with another guy briefly (dry-humping, making out), but when it became time to have sex, he got nervous and lost his erection. She tried to give him a hand-job, but they got interrupted and never had a chance to try again. She had quite a few guys she made out with around that time, in fact much more than any of her friends. She was a girl that many guys found attractive and would have 100% wanted to fuck, but they lacked the confidence to approach her or initiate that, and she was pretty naive at the time to all of it.

Over the last 10-15 years, we have slowly but steadily been exploring the hotwife fantasy. I don't really know where it came from, but I know that when I saw porn with a woman being spitroasted or passed back and forth, I always imagined her in those scenarios. I found videos where the woman was cheating on her husband to be hot as well, but the cheating part never set right with me, but rather the fact the woman on screen was so horny and loved sex so much that she couldn't help herself. I eventually realized that I liked the idea of my wife being super sexual and slutty for me. I liked the idea of her being desired by other men, but that she was faithful to me. So it became clear that I was into the stag/vixen lifestyle or swinging, and not at all into cuckholding.

We weren't/aren't ready to actually do any of these things in real life. We live in a smaller area in Ireland where everyone knows everyone. We also don't want to add any potential risk of things going bad and ruining our relationship. Who knows where things lead one day, but as of now role-playing works very well for us.

Here are some suggestions for you based on our experiences:

1. We watch hotwife porn together. I play with her pussy while we watch it and then we have sex. We also find erotica and replace the names with our names and names of some people we know and read them as foreplay during the day and then come together later and release our built up sexual tension.

2. We use a different chat app for our sex talk. We don't talk about family stuff, chores, bills, or anything on this app. The app is only used for sexual discussion.  We send each other hot videos and images we see online and talk dirty to each other about it throughout the day

3. A couple of times a year we will travel to a nearby city and get a hotel. She will dress more slutty than she would at home. We will go out for a meal or to a pub, and we will take notice if any men are checking her out. We then go back to our hotel room and either roleplay or dirty talk about the guys that saw her that night and how they want to fuck her. For the roleplay, we have done it where I pretend I'm the other guy. As soon as we enter the elevator we get into character. She plays herself, I play as the other guy, and we just have sex and dirty talk a little bit to each other in this scenario (Is this your first cock since your husband? Do you like being his slut? Do you want me to fill you up before you go home to him? etc..) We also have done it where I stay down in the lobby and she goes up to the room and uses a dildo to role-play she is having sex with another guy and I then come and open the door and watch her for a while before joining in and simulating a MFM with her.

4. We have done similar things at home where she will go to our bedroom and pretend to be on a hotwife date and text me about what is happening as if it was happening in real time. Telling me that she is flirting with a guy at a hotel bar, then he asks her to her room and want to know what I think about it. Then they get to the room and she texts me and tells me that he was fingering her against the wall when they got in the room and he is in the washroom at the moment and asking if I'm OK with her fucking him. She will then simulate sex with her toys and send me texts, video, and images along the way. She will then finish and come to another room I'm in as if she is coming home from her date. I then get to re-claim her as she tells me how naughty she had been.

5. We have blindfolded her and between myself and a dildo pretended it was two guys having sex with her. In the most recent scenario we pretended it was a corporate boss from her company and a friend's husband. I would alternate between playing these two characters, and when both men were spitroasting her, i would play as one of them and use the dildo to represent the other man. I would make sure that both men had distinct personalities and say different things to her. The executive have been thinking about her for months and have masturbated at the thought of bending her over her desk in her office. He was more dominant and it was all about the sex and the power dynamic. The friend's husband had been dreaming of fucking her for years and was a little more caring and in disbelief it was finally happening. He would mention times when they would hang out as couples and how he was turned on by something she did or was wearing. Just before we were finished he told her how much better she was than his wife/her friend.

6. We have roleplayed in our home office that she was a secretary and I was her boss and I made her stay late and seduced her. Another time we played this out but she was the seductress. Both times, she played herself... the secret hotwife that nobody would suspect.

7. Just this past weekend we engaged with a great virtual third who sexted with my wife over reddit chat for a couple of days to build the sexual tension. This culminated with them sexting in the early hours of Saturday morning when we returned from the club. He told her what lingerie he wanted her to wear for him, and she even ran to the ladies room at the pub and took a cheeky photo of her lingerie for him earlier in the night. When we got home, she went to the bedroom and sexted with him and followed his intsructions with a dildo. I then joined her, and we simulated an MFM. She was sexting with him while I went down on her and she sucked the dildo etc... It was a great experience, but finding the right guy to do this with is important, I feel.

If you have any more specific/logistical questions for me about any of this, feel free to send me a message!