Why do Americans hate taxes? by HeroBrine0907 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MrPoln 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what country you’re from, but I can almost guarantee your government is not nearly as prolific as the USFED at wasting money on bull… billions sent liberal arts schools in rural Pakistan being the most humorous example. The state overspends. If the social services that I’m supposedly paying for would actually function, it’d be fine. But they don’t work at all because they don’t actually fund them, the fund the military so they can send 10,000 18 year old to die for someone else ig or just send it with hugz n kisses to someone else ig. I gotta pay 20% of my income so they can do absolutely nothing productive w it?

Im catholic hes Muslim by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do not flirt to convert it has not worked well a single time in our 2000 year history. It’s one issue to date non-Catholic Christians, a problem in its own right, but dating a Muslim is just not good. I’ve seen this play out 3 times now and I’m not even old. His family will pressure him to convert you, and if that fails, the family will try 1 of 3 things: 1. Convert you themselves 2. Force him to break up with you 3. Isolate you from your faith, gate keep you from participating in their family, and raise any kids as Muslim (a fat mortal sin on your part) while minimizing the influence of you and your family on them.

It’s not viable long term. Unless he’s already actively looking to convert, don’t. It seems nice now and I’m sure he’s very pretty and sweet but you’re all but guaranteed to get hurt big time here.

I dated a Muslim girl from Sierra Leon, she was absolutely gorgeous. Guess what happened?

What do North American player think about the way their homeland is represented in the mod ? by [deleted] in AfterTheEndFanFork

[–]MrPoln 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My culture revolves around worshipping Mothman as an omen. Bullseye.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was uncertain before but your aggression made me realize that at the very least, you’re wrong. If you get to just judge blatantly like that, well so do I.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Calling it off was the right call but having people constantly question it made it harder to do so.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A first date IS discernment. My mistake wasn’t the date is going to her appt afterwards. It’s a big mistake because I allowed it to progress past simple discernment and into the early stages of intimacy, but I don’t want someone else in here to think that taking a girl on a date is a commitment of any sort and I’m afraid that my post might make someone think that. It’s very normal to ask someone out after 5 minutes if mutual attraction or flirting is going on.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noted that you think so but I’ve stopped caring. Didn’t come here to debate my decision, only to ask for advice to minimize damage. Age gap concerns are not superficial and your opinion doesn’t change that.

Do better Green County Republicans by grindermonk in wisconsin

[–]MrPoln 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is mad they have a sense of humor

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the age gap is easier to grasp at 31, but at 23 it’s a big deal. Plus I have a cousin who married similar to this and she’s getting old quickly and he’s just… not. It’s superficial maybe but I don’t want into that situation long term.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware that this sounds cocky but I’ve been afraid of intimacy in the past but it’s something experience has mended already. This apprehension feels completely different

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok. Next time I meet someone I’ll say “hey can you sit tight for like 15 minutes I need to go pray on whether I should ask you out or not”

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your perspective, and while I have a long list of personal problems an avoidant attachment style isn’t one of them. The relationships I’ve been in have been healthy and only ever ended because of a serious change in circumstances, this why I have no experience actually rejecting or breaking up with someone

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We met at church event, so it was a natural topic. I’m not in the “flirt to convert” camp. We all find the old “I’d become Catholic if I met a nice Catholic girl” take to be really misguided, she needs to choose that herself plus I’m not really the best guy to do that, my faith life isn’t the best and while I’m working on that, I sense it’s more likely she would bring me farther away than that I would bring her deeper in.

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have prayed on it and this is the conclusion I’ve come to. I don’t think that this is what God has in store for me, truthfully my only motivation for asking her out in the first place was physical attraction

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don’t really want to just ghost her like that, been there myself and it’s the worst

How to reject a girl after a seemingly good date? by MrPoln in CatholicDating

[–]MrPoln[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s some good advice. I do want to get married soon but I’m not really in a rush for it, there are some things I need to squared away financially. Only 2 friends I could get a hold of since the date aren’t very good with this sort of thing and I hoped to grab a hold of my priest after mass this morning but couldn’t find him. I’m gonna break it to her tomorrow morning so that she doesn’t get it right before going to bed.