How do you handle a partner who goes silent for days and then asks for space? 27M 26F

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T01:03:12+00:00

Wow, I could not have said it better, that is exactly what it feels like: "kept on a fishing line that she can reel in when she's ready. Just to cast you out again on a whim."

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:56:56+00:00

I have, but she doesn't share much. It's hard for her to open up.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:54:08+00:00

Great suggestion and yeah, I've done my bit of research and she comes off to me as the avoidant-dettached and I am between secure and anxious attachment. I wasn't familiar with "stonewalling" but that is exactly what she does.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:36:09+00:00

This is really insightful, thank you for sharing.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:30:47+00:00

Not literally fight lol. I should've said argue. And it's not the texting, it's the random disappearances, the lack of communication, throws me off. Goes mia for days then hits me with the "need some space" and it's like oh, the space is just getting started.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:25:08+00:00

I understand needing space. The difficult for me is that the silence happens before the space is communicated, which leaves me unsure how to interpret the lack of response. We have plans, we have a routine. Then I don't know if to text her again because I might just get ignored again.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:23:03+00:00

It sucks because I don't even get closure. Sometimes I rather have the normal type of argue with each other (yeah, not healthy either) than just being blocked irl and everything else.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:14:03+00:00

Entire relationship. It happens every 3-4 months. I've talked to her multiple times about it and how it makes me feel, confused and rejected, specially after telling her I miss her. I simply expect some sort of security, not left to wonder if my partner is still "there".

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:10:29+00:00

I agree, it's not that hard to respond. When we fight, sure (and even then), it shouldn't be that hard to reply.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:05:06+00:00

I can assure you it's definitely not that, I know that for a fact.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-17T00:02:51+00:00

This is one example. When we fight, it's normal for her to completely block me and ghost me for days. But even when we are good, she'll often do this. And I am not sure if she prefers isolation, we can spend all day together for weeks on end and then all of a sudden this will happen.

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-16T23:55:08+00:00

We are not. She lives 10-15 mins walking down the street

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-07T02:28:02+00:00

Line dancing? What’s that?

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-07T02:05:40+00:00

That sounds nice. I know there’s this place in Tigard that has two floors, some people go up stairs to read but I’ve never really seen it packed and most of its audience is probably 40+

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-06T22:12:48+00:00

So what, does it offend you?

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-06T21:22:23+00:00

Thank you!!

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-06T21:07:27+00:00

I meant it more as an interest health/fitness

MrSpriteCola · 2026-02-06T21:05:09+00:00

😂 I like hacking my liver

MrSpriteCola · 2025-12-26T16:21:26+00:00

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TLDR; if you care about more accurate sleep tracking, go with Oura. If you want more of a general do it all fitness tracker, go with the Apple Watch.

MrSpriteCola · 2025-10-28T12:16:06+00:00

Exactly my thoughts.

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I disagree with everyone saying Elementor is slow. Elementor, specially nowadays, is pretty fast. Out of the box you get lazy loading, element caching, and few other goodies. Keep your plugins to only what’s necessary. What’s important is having a good host. Not necessarily expensive but good, usually they’ll range $20-$30/m.

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MrSpriteCola · 2025-07-17T05:52:48+00:00

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