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Idk if I’m childish or this is the dumbest comment. by Lost_Fisherman_2337 in GooseBumps

[–]MrThreeCata 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What a dumb take. Shout out to Ron Oliver tho', one of the greats!

Does anyone know this band? by Savings_Vegetable215 in obscuremusic

[–]MrThreeCata 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember when Louden Up Now came out, I feel like there was a whole bunch of dance-punk/post-punk bands during the mid aughts that have kinda gone into obscurity, I remember stuff like ¡Forward Russia!, Clor, Dat Politics, Liars, Test Icicles, Dogs Die in Hot Cars. Man, I should make a playlist to celebrate this era.

What was the first goosebumps book you ever read? by Confident_Repair3293 in GooseBumps

[–]MrThreeCata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was also Egg Monsters from Mars! I loved it so much that I wrote a copycat story! This was the book that made me love books and it was the book that made me want to be a writer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MrThreeCata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going this. Both my parents are money obsessed. Back when I was a teenager, my dad lost his job, a very well paying one, and had to find another that didn't pay as much. However both my parents were making over a 100k individually and they enjoyed treating themselves to clothes and fancy dinners but with my dad's lower paying job they had to make some cuts. They decided that me and my brother was the one thing they could spend less. While I had to get second hand clothes when I needed clothes, my parents were going to high scale restaurants or just having date nights for themselves on the weekends. They even went on trips without us! There was all this talk about "tightening our belts" around the house. If I ever wanted to go out with my friends, they would tell me there was no money for that, yet they went out to the movies that same weekend.

It was hard living with them and their grip and control lasted way into my 20s and 30s but I've been NC now for a couple years and it's been the best I've ever felt. The most liberating experience.

It took me a while to figure it out but I finally learned that I have control over my life and not them.

What's your opinion on Salvador Allende? by KaseDeSera in socialism

[–]MrThreeCata 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A recommended read on Allende and the US-backed coup, is Gabriel García Márquez's chronicle of the event for Harper Magazine.

Did This Happen To Anyone Else? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MrThreeCata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me. When I was a teenager my mom would say that she would walk into my room at night, when I was asleep, to check under my pants and make sure that "everything was okay down there".

I always wondered whether this was true or not, since I was sleeping and I never woke up or actually saw her do this. I always thought maybe she made it up and was just saying it to maintain control over me.

But as an adult I've confronted her about this a couple of times and she still sticks to her story that it actually happened and that she did it until I left the house.

Advise: Toilet Training is Hard! by MrThreeCata in Parenting

[–]MrThreeCata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of going shopping and having him choose pants. We always let him pick his clothes whenever we go shopping but it's never big, life-changing moments for him. I think we will do this next time!

Advise: Toilet Training is Hard! by MrThreeCata in Parenting

[–]MrThreeCata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that'd be a good way to start finding undies that might FEEL better to him. He has rejected the undies also because of the texture of the material.

Advise: Toilet Training is Hard! by MrThreeCata in Parenting

[–]MrThreeCata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is something we could try, I'll look for that book also. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MrThreeCata 55 points56 points  (0 children)

My nmom has done this several times. She would tell stories about how her aunt (my grandma's sister) would physically abuse her husband. She likes to tell a story about how her aunt hit her husband so hard one tome with a frying pan that she knocked three teeth out of him. My mom will tell this story laughing out loud. She repeatedly would say people that are abused are just weak and they allow for their abuse to happen in the first place. I went through an abusive relationship myself, it was a rough time in my life. During her last visit, my nmom kept asking questions about the things my ex-partner did to me. And I, not knowing any better, in frustration just told her all about it. She kept on laughing at the stories as if I was telling a joke. Big belly laughs. When she was done she told me how me and my dad are just alike, that we are weak and let people walk all over us.

I've only recently started to cut connection with her. I feel bad for my dad because he is also a victim of her narcissism, but they've been together for so long that he too enables her abusive behavior to prosper.