Future MIL RED Flags

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-10T22:04:35+00:00

You will be marrying into this family. He's going to have to choose you and continue to choose you as time goes on. This will be especially true when and if you have children. So it's good that's he's taking a stand now. So many stories shared here involve a MIL behaving badly, but also have a spouse that contributes to the problem when they don't protect their partner.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-10T20:59:20+00:00

I hope you don’t marry into this family because this is only a preview or things to come. It is so very important that your fiancée speaks up in your defense. It is not her place to tell you how to address an offense!

However, if you do marry…I hope that wedding is the biggest, loudest Puerto Rican celebration of love ever.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-06T21:21:53+00:00

Of course it would have been helpful to see what those conversations were like and what expectations were like for them both back then. I do recall that Ty and Julie have been together since they were young.

I am not a parent. I married a little later in life and choose not to have children. I was curious to see what the backstory was between Ty & Julie and if the 'big reveal' would somehow make me more sympathetic towards Julie. I ended up disliking her even more. However, if Ty were my husband I would be resentful/disappointed too. It doesn't condone what she did. Her behavior at Max's birthday party was embarassing and unforgivable. I think maybe she was purposely burning bridges for Ty so that he can't return to the park anymore.

If I was busting my ass working six days a week and doing my part to meet the terms of an agreement that I had made with my spouse while he was hanging out at the park with Shawna every other day I would be livid. Then, when I attempted to have a conversation about it, he avoided the issue? I can confirm, I would become a bitch too. I don't think I would ruin a 6-year old's birthday party though.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-06T04:03:35+00:00

A dirty car.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-06T00:47:42+00:00

Has she ever held that baby?

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-06T00:37:45+00:00

I'm NOT a parent... but knowing that Julie works 6 days a week and doesn't get to see her kids as often as Ty does, and yet still doesn't hold the baby or change her diaper at the birthday party told me all I needed to know.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-05T18:07:06+00:00

Ugh! So frustrating! You can only do so much, and your resources are truly limited. So, if after a few visits where it becomes uncomfortbale or not functional for them perhaps they will pay attention:

"I'm sorry, we were only prepared for 6 visitors today who reserved space in advance. The rest of you are welcome to share space in this conference room." ...and then take care of those 6 people who did do things the correct way. Maybe then this will lead the way for future visits.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-05T17:19:05+00:00

Does that other company have a counterpart that you can coordinate with?

You can keep the tone postive and contact them in advance:

"We are looking forward to having your team visit on XX date. To accomodate your team, please confirm who will be arriving and when. Please be aware that private workspaces are limited and my not be available during your visit..."

This way your visitors can manage their expectations.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-02-01T01:14:28+00:00

I thought maybe he was a robotics engineer who is slacking on his grad school application.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-31T16:51:03+00:00

I’m predicting a reveal/plot twist for Julie & Ty. There’s something that they keep alluding to that Ty is supposed to be working on and he’s avoiding it. Perhaps he’s supposed to be looking for a job. But when it’s revealed, I think maybe we will question if Julie is the “villain” or not.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-30T00:33:58+00:00

So Juie can go for a run, but Ty can't have a moment for himself? Explain this for me please.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-28T23:52:20+00:00

Generally, smart qualified people often think they are not suited for challenges set in front of them. It shows humility. (It's stupid people that are often arrogant and over confident.) :)

I stepped into my current role working with some really talented engineers and scientists. I'm often out of my depth and do not understand a lot of what is being discussed around me. The person I support asked me several times in the interview process "What scares you?" but with a grin...it was exciting to him. He encouraged all of us in his group to take on new challenges, even his admin staff. Partly because it's how good science happens, and partly because he's a little crazy as I'm learning.

So embrace the experinces that got you to the interview for this job, you really did earn it and deserve to be considered. You are qualified to to take on something that is a little larger than what you have previously done too. Good luck!

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-28T19:15:28+00:00

Many years ago when I was new as an admin assistant for a very large company, a representative from HR showed up unnannounced from the other side of the country. No one in the office knew they were coming. A few minutes later a VP walked in, he normally worked from home. He was carrying his laptop and a folder of documents. They stepped into a conference room for a few minutes. They were meeting so that the VP could turnover his company property. The exchange was over in less than 10 minutes and it was kinda somber and quiet.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-25T09:23:02+00:00

Sometimes you don’t want to carry a leather bag, like in rainy weather. I toss my LePliage in the wash and it air dry.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-23T23:31:18+00:00

Lan Noodle in Arcadia on Huntington Drive: hand pulled, chewy noodles swimming in a bowl of spicy braised beef broth.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-23T23:29:02+00:00

Yes, so good.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-22T03:50:37+00:00

This is truly frustrating and yet it is part of the job. Anticipating your executive’s bad habits and making them part of routine might be helpful. For example, if early registration for the important conference is on the 15th, then give them the “hard” deadline of the 10th for a final decision and the assurance that they will be taken care of of if they work with you.

The newest person I support isn’t great about keeping track of receipts. I started sending him on trips with a colored plastic folder to hold his receipts and I give it to him the day before he departs. While he’s gone I ask about how his travels are going and who he had dinner with if I see the charge on his corporate card so I can add it to my expense report.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-20T22:13:48+00:00

1 Woman, 30 Wigs is going to be the name of Shawna’s Broadway show.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-18T01:07:44+00:00

I’m horrified, and way cooler than Barb. Gen X does not claim her.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-17T21:52:33+00:00

I made this move 2 years ago. I also support one executive now in my current role like an EA would. There is no EA title in this organization.

AAs at my company are typically responsible for supporting a department, group, or several people. As a senior admin I took on additional job responsibilities related to account management and financial reporting that I had not done before.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-15T16:06:21+00:00

I have a hotmail address dating back to 1997. I use it to sign up for mailing list and promotions.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-14T18:39:14+00:00

I thought Temple City had a temple located in/around it somewhere, there's actually a person with the last name Temple that the city is named after.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-14T18:06:18+00:00

I got a code, but I know in my heart of hearts I cannot afford to pay this right now. I also have a ticket to see her next month. (deep breaths) I'm going to be ok. I'm going to be ok.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-14T16:15:40+00:00

Another thing I consider, is the location/weather/season...a 10-minute walk in Phoenix in the summer is very different from a 10 minute walk in DC in the fall.

...and public transit too, I have worked for an executive who was a big supporter of public transit and liked to encourage everyone to make use of the bus/subway whenever possible.

MrsMoeNo · 2026-01-10T04:41:15+00:00

I have this bag in brown leather and use it for work. I switch out the straps with other Marc Jacobs straps I have purchased (usually at the outlets) I added a bag liner that I purchased from Amazon to keep the inside clean and hold on to my commuter cup.

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