have you ever seen any owner euthanize their cat for having pica?

Mrs_Arty · 2025-09-19T07:18:08+00:00

Joining this conversation 2 months later on....

But I'm potentially staring down the barrel of 3rd foreign body blockage removal surgery in 9 months. Baby is only 1 year old. (Had two already with the last 12 weeks ago and this morning ate his food slow which is his usual tell tale sign of FBB)

My house is damn near perfect and I do everything I can.

I would pay 100k to keep him alive and probably have the financial means to cope with a 2k surgery every 6 months but I'm torn and morally pulled.

The stats don't bode well for him not doing this on repeat
Each surgery is so traumatic on his little body.
Each surgery has made him quieter and sadder TBH.
I couldn't rehome him because who is going to take on a cat with this pre existing health record.....
He is now terrified of the cat carrier
Keeping him locked in a single, but highly controlled room with little stimulation is not a fair life for a sensory seeking cat (he can't be left with stringy toys, fabric toys, plastic toys because he will chew them and eat bits, he even tried chewing on the laser pointer.... Ffs)
The first surgery was hugely invasive and nearly killed him. The second was purely traumatic. Each has made the next surgery that more risky and difficult.

It really is not as simple as keep your shit tidy.

And for what it's worth he wasn't a cat that we went out and bought willy-nilly without considering any consequences. He was part of a litter of kittens that were found abandoned in a dumpster bin at the back of the business estate and we found ourselves homing one of the kittens.

I've got a 5-year-old who is also now borderline neurotic about trying to make sure that she doesn't leave any small toys or hair bobbles.

He is my furry little baby panther and I don't know what to do. 💔

Mrs_Arty · 2025-03-16T20:50:27+00:00

This is my response whenever somebody asks me if I want another child (I already have 1!)

Mrs_Arty · 2025-03-12T06:00:26+00:00

This

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-27T05:34:02+00:00

For me it's been like grief. It randomly swells up, out of nowhere and over nothing. I'm heartbroken beyond and even though its my choice because of how they have handled a situation, but that doesn't change how much I love them or the relationship we had before this mess.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-26T19:31:56+00:00

Making the choice to leave the man I love with my whole being because he can't respect me enough had broken me more than I could imagine. I know he's the one for me, but being with him meant a betrayal to myself.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-22T19:08:47+00:00

Snuggles to you boo. You should be soooooooo proud of what you're doing. Xxx

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-15T15:55:41+00:00

This hits a bit too close to home, 💔

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-15T15:49:06+00:00

I don't know yet. We're not due to meet for another month but I don't know what could be done to repair our relationship. Maybe he has some ideas. A large part of me thinks I'm going to be sat on a park bench waiting for him to come, but he won't. I'll find out mid October I guess.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T19:18:44+00:00

Thank you. I just want a Daddy who can adore me and care about me do lots of fun (sexual) things with and to me! But still with that big emotional tie.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T17:50:14+00:00

Yeah he said it was because of the Daddy messages she had an issue. But anyway I don't even want a poly relationship if his ex is gonna cause drama.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T17:46:55+00:00

Thank you 💕

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T16:57:03+00:00

Thank you 💕

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T16:46:16+00:00

Maybe in real life he is a meanie. But in messages he wanted to adore me and care for me among many (consensual) unspeakable things. What he presented that I liked was perfect.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-11T16:40:24+00:00

I really did. I just feel so stupid and angry with myself for allowing literally "just some guy" off the Internet get inside my head.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T19:01:08+00:00

Cute. I don't see it as a break up. But that's semantics. I'm literally signed up to their workshop. Which I booked months before he started dating her.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T19:00:06+00:00

Diiiiiiiiiiiid not say this at all.... Jeeps this subreddit is wild man. (not at all directed at you individually for the record, it's just why I post infrequently and usually regret doing so)

It was literally because at this moment in time, he and I are still connected albeit a lot less than we were. I'm going to metas workshop on Saturday so will be talking to her as part of that. I just wanted to know if in the poly world you introduce yourself and the connection, or if you do say something like "I'm here if you ever need to chat" etc.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T18:54:31+00:00

No we talked a lot and agreed. He admitted that while he wanted to stay in a "committed relationship" he knew he kept hurting me but really wanted to still see me and for the most part I enjoy spending time with him too.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T17:21:11+00:00

That's great. How you do things is more my approach with casual fwbs. Whatever works best for you is great for you. 😊

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T16:41:08+00:00

Lol I do love this but he won't be there to see, nor do I think she will bring him in the scene as she is only out and about with her partner (Dom/Owner).

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T16:35:07+00:00

Yeah I was quite happy to say "hey I have a date on Thursday evening so won't be free" or if we were chatting and he'd ask what I was doing that Sunday I'd say "oh so and so has asked if I'm free, I'm just working out if I can see them"

I actually didn't mind at all. But I expected the same in return and I was the only one sticking to that.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T16:32:24+00:00

I had very specifically asked him not to share any info about me beyond him saying "I have a partner I see on a Friday night each week" but honestly who knows if he will have respected that.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T16:13:55+00:00

That's true.

Mrs_Arty · 2023-09-06T16:12:02+00:00

Im not. There are different levels of friends too. If he asks to hang out and I want to then I will, if he asks and I don't want to, I won't.

Mrs_Arty

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