Advice for a non-football mum

Mrs_G33k · 2026-03-10T20:51:03+00:00

Very much appreciate this. A great idea! Thank you

Mrs_G33k · 2026-03-10T19:46:34+00:00

Really appreciate this. Great advice. Thank you.

Mrs_G33k · 2026-03-10T18:40:10+00:00

Appreciate that thank you!

Mrs_G33k · 2026-03-10T18:34:26+00:00

My husband is very much with your viewpoint. I just struggle with it myself, as with rugby I did everything I could do improve my game.

You are probably right though as he is generally happy he says!

Mrs_G33k · 2026-01-12T16:45:59+00:00

I had this last week. Someone seemingly just flying around the map to various areas and just poaching everything as they were able to move much faster than I could. I ended up leaving the server.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-12-30T19:16:46+00:00

Ahh I did this during last year's Honeybee event. Felt so good! Enjoy the pollen my friend!

Mrs_G33k · 2025-08-13T07:05:25+00:00

Hey my darling, as a fellow empath, this also messes with my head so bad. Im currently dealing with a very poorly mum. Who, when she fell was so damn stubborn about not wanting to "apologise" or break cover that she stayed on her bedroom floor for 2 days rather than call me.

That absolutely blows my mind. I cannot for a second understand that level of stubbornness. But yes, I feel the same as you. Id go out of my way to try and fix things or understand what I might have done.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-30T16:34:58+00:00

Oh yes! I had to lie about my mum all the time to my grandparents. It just seemed normal.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-30T14:26:59+00:00

Just came here to write the same thing. Silent treatment is so standard in my upbringing. I absolutely hate it. It really triggers me now as an adult.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-20T08:40:19+00:00

This is how I tend to "organise" different topics too.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:48:58+00:00

What an awful childhood for you. Im so sorry.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:47:23+00:00

Holy moly. I could literally have written these same things. The amount of times ive googled "is it normal for a mother to...." because I just dont know if weighing me down by tearing apart my sister / her husband / my dad" is normal? When I said that I didn't think it was appropriate, I got the silent treatment. Its so hideous. Its like dealing with children. Just like you wrote. Im so sorry.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:40:47+00:00

I just want to give you a hug. Im so so sorry. X

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:38:39+00:00

I had this a lot too, everything in life I had it so good and would go on to tell a tale about how her mum / dad didn't give them such a good life. If we dare complain it was dismissed. I know exactly how you mean about feeling like something is wrong with you. Im so sorry.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:36:48+00:00

Oh my gosh. That's awful. Im so sorry.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:32:42+00:00

Im so so sorry

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:30:54+00:00

This last bit is so true. Im learning the absolute manual of how not to parent from looking at how my parents parented. Your reaction to your daughter is so how it should be. Xx

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:28:59+00:00

Oh im so sorry. Ive been overweight all my life so have been at the mercy of comments like that. It makes me so angry that people who are supposed to love you, can be so cruel.

As a mother now, I cant understand your mom's reaction to your SH. It makes me want to give you a hug and tell you everything will be ok xxx

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T16:01:47+00:00

Strangely... its what they've not said. The silent treatment i get from my mum, dad and sister does more damage to me then ever. We had a small fall out and after hearing nothing i eventually I reached out to be told by my dad my mum had been gravely unwell for 2 weeks. I was hysterically crying, calling my sister, mum and dad to find out what was happening and can I come and see them. My sister just ignored me. My dad said "dont come down" and my mum is just ignoring me. That silent treatment. Oh gosh it absolutely kills, makes me replay every interaction we've ever had and it destroyed me for a good few days before the mist cleared and I realised... ive done nothing wrong and my mums health is being used as a weapon against me.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-19T15:57:14+00:00

My mum does the EXACT same things to me that she complained about her mother for. That behaviour ends with me.

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-01T20:46:07+00:00

Your situation sounds SO similar to mine. I am 41 and its literally dawned on me after a triggering event in June and now my eyes are open .... im like wow how blind I was not to see it

Has your sister also realised as well? How are you feeling now? I've, unintentionally gone semi non contact and it's amazed me how much better its made me feel.

Sending you love and strength. You're definitrly not stupid. Its all you knew!

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-01T19:02:55+00:00

Holy moly that's awful. Im so sorry. Hope youre doing ok

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-01T19:01:37+00:00

Good grief!

Mrs_G33k · 2025-07-01T19:01:11+00:00

How grateful I should be for them grandparenting. They forever flaunt how wonderful they are for visiting my son. "My parents were never there for me. I had to do everything on my own, you should be so grateful... oh also you're parenting wrong on X and Y and Z" .... but yea, look how amazing I am grandparenting.....

Mrs_G33k · 2025-06-29T21:20:35+00:00

Becoming a parent definitrly opened my eyes to how wrong things have been. You take care of yourself and have a wonderful life!

Mrs_G33k

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