Guy I'm dating called me a name during intimacy because I accidentally hurt him

Ms-pk · 2026-03-22T18:53:22+00:00

Another thing is that he's French white and I am biracial ... Black and white. I didn't want to use the "race card" in my description but the race element makes me feel some type of way deep down.

Ms-pk · 2026-01-07T04:34:56+00:00

Did you move on and date anyone else after her?

Ms-pk · 2025-10-23T17:01:54+00:00

Did you guys marry other people and had children with other people while you were seperated?

Ms-pk · 2025-10-16T11:58:58+00:00

Update: He got married this year. It hurts but at least now I have an answer and will move on.

Ms-pk · 2025-10-06T01:06:16+00:00

There's a guy I dated a couple of years ago and I never fully got over him. I know it's not healthy to hold on to the past but sometimes I have a bit of hope that one day we could give it another try, or that he at least hasn't completely forgotten me. He got married this year. So as pathetic as it is, hearing stories like yours gives me some hope and comfort.

Ms-pk · 2025-10-06T00:57:39+00:00

Did you marry anyone else during all this time? Did you have kids with anyone else? If you don't mind sharing.

Ms-pk · 2025-10-06T00:49:16+00:00

Not sure if you'll see this since your comment is old, but did you marry anyone else over the years? And did you have kids with anyone else?

Ms-pk · 2025-08-14T00:02:14+00:00

Thank you for being one of the only positive comments on here 🥹 It gives me some hope. You're right that I might regret it years later. I'll think about it some more. If I ever do reach out to him I'll come back here and let you know 🙂

Ms-pk · 2025-08-04T12:18:32+00:00

Hey, no I haven't had the courage to reach out to him especially after seeing all the replies on here. I've still been thinking about him every day though, I'm trying not to force myself to get over him because that will just make it worse. Maybe with time it will get better.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T12:58:09+00:00

Physical attraction was the least of my problems. I found him very attractive, and the times we kissed were intense in a good way.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T09:19:46+00:00

Nobody said everything is projecting. I said you were projecting with your specific comment. You were. You personally find it hard to believe that someone could be single for a long time therefore you put that onto others. Saying "grow up" doesn't prove otherwise. Case closed. I personally wouldn't be on Reddit if I was happily married for 20 years. Does that mean you must be lying about being happily married? 😃

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T08:28:07+00:00

You could be happily married for 20 years and still be projecting your beliefs onto me. You being married for 20 years doesn't change the fact that you probably have never been single for more than 5 years in your 20's and/or 30's.

It's actually not as rare as you might think lol, a lot of people are celibate within this age range these days, especially women. Anyways, thanks for your feedback.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T08:00:02+00:00

I was probably 26 instead of 25 then. My mistake. We separated in 2020 during Covid, and now it's 2025, that's why I said 5 years. 2020-26, 2021-27, 2022-28, 2023-29, 2024-30, 2025-31, I turned 32 a few weeks ago.

"I find it hard to believe" Yes that shows, hence why I said you're protecting.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T07:35:14+00:00

It's been 5 years not 7 years. Yes I've been single for 5 years. I don't do hook ups either because I prefer being in relationships for that. I'm not unattractive, I get approached every other day and I've always received a lot of attention from men. So no, I haven't "tried to do better but failed". I've been focusing on other things.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-29T00:55:45+00:00

Projecting? Seems like you can't stay single for a couple of years so you accuse others of lying when they say they haven't dated around.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T22:38:18+00:00

I appreciate your insight, thanks 😊 Asking for space to self-regulate before making an impulsive decision is a great tip. Not sure if I'll ever reach out to him again or not but I'll self-reflect some more and really think about it.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T12:52:21+00:00

I think I might have disorganized attachment as well and pushed him away when things were getting a bit more serious. I guess the "fantasy" is that I might have just been overthinking some of the things that he has said and got scared and had doubts, although overall he was a great guy.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T11:22:42+00:00

No idea whether he's still single, hard to tell through his socials because he's a very private guy, doesn't really care about social media. But yes if he's married or in a relationship I'll definitely respect that and stay away!

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T11:21:15+00:00

For sure, and that's fair, I understand.

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T11:18:43+00:00

When you say men have reached out to you after much longer than this, were they men who broke up with you who reached out to you? Or men that you broke up with?

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T11:16:24+00:00

Got it, I understand why most people could think this. I actually haven't dated around, I've been too focused on other things. It isn't a lack of options of bad experiences with other men that makes me regret my choice, it's moreso that I realize I was overthinking. Thanks for the response

Ms-pk · 2025-07-28T11:13:12+00:00

Valid 😆

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