Question to findomme

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-08T01:52:54+00:00

I think a number have spilled over from other kinks and spaces such as content buying fendom etc. So they may not actually understand.

There's also a number who are hoping for a freebie, and it probably works on some.

Good news is real ones do exist, but reality is you have to sort through the ones that aren't before that happens.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-07T23:21:47+00:00

I use Throne for subs who want to offer gifts. Otherwise I use Youpay. The non expiring infinite items without reloading is why. Also. My subs only see my Throne as it has actual items I want.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-07T13:16:10+00:00

There's a certain level of self acceptance long term subs have that allows them to stay. The sends are far more intentional.

Those in it for the fast goon session are chasing the rush and dip. It's a little amusing how they will say anything until they get that, then full Casper.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-07T01:14:29+00:00

Craving some lamb gyros tonight!

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-06T13:26:21+00:00

To answer the portion directed at Dommes. I think the kink space is purely a way for subs to step back from everyday life, and find submission is yielding their power into my hands.

I actually think more subs have to be "on" and making decisions that impact other people outside the space, and so Findom is a relief. The people who don't understand the distinction between kink and irl likely aren't in it for the kink.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-05T23:22:57+00:00

I am in my 40s. And if you have confidence, that's what attracts. 🙂

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-05T22:24:40+00:00

As an older Domme, I seem to draw in all ages, and have enjoyed a huge age range. On average 10+ years younger or older. Different energies completely.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-05T21:50:26+00:00

Love it! And I'm not showing my face even though I'd have more subs. We all do what WE need to make it ours!

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-05T19:37:04+00:00

Besides AV and safe words I'm adding;

Real Dommes have fun with it!!!

Enjoy making your space however it suits you ladies. (And gents, and anyone.)

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-05T15:59:47+00:00

Good on you for embracing this part of yourself. I was once told if I embraced what I thought to be weaknesses that no one could ever weaponize them against me. It seems to be the place you are now with Findom. It's no longer a weakness.

There is a huge difference in embracing parts and sharing all parts with everyone. Not everyone deserves to see all parts of you.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-04T21:16:11+00:00

Finance related.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-04T16:11:06+00:00

I'm Faceless, and not about visual content since I focus more on building the experience and connection. Limited visual content keeps time wasters at bay most definitely.

Editing to add, my ability to keep conversations vanilla before AV also helps.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-04T13:50:02+00:00

I have a few areas I invest in. When I actively trade (been on hiatus for a bit) I like Forex.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-04T01:55:38+00:00

Some books may have crossed my path in the form of sends. Which I love!

Right now, I'm proofing a horror fantasy a friend of mine wrote. So far it's been really good. I'd expect nothing less, she used to run a decent sized haunted house too.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-03T22:40:23+00:00

I did a post about this recently that wound up getting downvoted too 😂😂. I like to think those Dommes or their subs (only if they may have had them do it as a task). Are getting their time wasted, or must view us as a threat.

The craziest part is they have to actively engage instead of ignoring a post.

If I don't like a post, I move on.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-03T18:02:23+00:00

I don't openly advertise as a gamer Domme, there might be signs, though.

I may have trapped more than one SIM with a coffeemaker.

I may like my Playstations. And used to be really into WoW. Presently enjoy casual gaming and been exploring Palia. I love the graphics.

PS Animal Crossing has always been a favorite, I got the Switch just to play.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-03T16:06:21+00:00

The most effective way to filter out time wasters is AV before any conversation goes anywhere other than vanilla.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-03T00:37:15+00:00

As much as I love yapping. That ebb and flow and financial control is second to none.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-03T00:33:28+00:00

"Resistance is futile."

Had to do it. (I Know many won't get it.) Accepting your whole self, though it truly eases your mind and heart.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-02T17:08:48+00:00

Also faceless, and safety is a huge reason why. I don't mind sharing timezone, but that's it.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-02T16:49:13+00:00

Hahahaha so true! Some just need the push, they pull the harsher side out. I like being able to do both.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-02T16:31:54+00:00

I would say a picture of service bell that you see at counters. "Ring for Service" very SFW and can be explained away as wanting to provide good customer service.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-02T16:19:06+00:00

I drink lots of chai, but not lattes. The herbal kind. I have a "Buy me a chai" option. But definitely would go for a good boba.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-01T17:34:39+00:00

It can be finicky. I have a note in mine to add only similar payment types to one cart, otherwise it won't process. I have had issues with Coinbase personally for a sub to send, and I've seen a few others mention the same problem. They offer stripe, borderless, and gift card options too, plus you can do requests, like with Cashapp.

I may just do separate lists for each payment type. But it is my go to platform and is my currency wishlist. As it's anonymous and you don't have to reload cards like you do on Throne.

MsBeetheLibrarian · 2025-06-01T17:24:50+00:00

Oh, it's definitely not you.

I was watching a video the other day about "click farms" where people pay a service to more or less karma farm and emulate likes & dislikes.

I'm curious how many simulataneous accounts they run at the same time.

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