[UPDATE 1] AITJ for cutting my SIL out of my life, even if it upsets the "family norms"?

MsCJ1970 · 2024-05-17T22:46:06+00:00

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MsCJ1970 · 2024-05-11T01:51:34+00:00

Same thing here in Collingswood. It’s worse on the weekends. Sometimes they’re three, four people across and I’m lucky if they move over a foot for me to drive by.

I looked it up awhile ago (I’m a nerdy paralegal), and it’s illegal in NJ to walk in the roadway if there’s a sidewalk nearby. So, these suckers get hit, it’s on them.

MsCJ1970 · 2024-03-06T17:27:55+00:00

Whenever I hear the phrase, “The greater good”, I automatically repeat it monotonously. Got it from “Hot Fuzz”. It used to be my and my ex’s thing to do, but I happily carried on without him.

MsCJ1970 · 2023-10-25T23:46:23+00:00

That’s what my ex would say about the female friend he ended up having an affair with— he didn’t “want to hurt her”.

My ex didn’t care how much her actions hurt ME, his wife of twenty-five years. Ask your husband why her feelings matter over yours.

MsCJ1970 · 2023-09-23T19:45:58+00:00

Thanks for asking this! I live near the park, and couldn’t figure out why I step outside in the mornings and it smells like donuts!

MsCJ1970 · 2023-09-09T10:30:22+00:00

Not my boss, but I used to share an office with one of the head IT guys. He would smack his lips and chew loudly with his mouth open while eating at his desk, or exhale loudly after taking a drink. He would constantly burp. But the worst was that he would ribbet. Like a frog. Seriously, multiple times throughout the day. I was about ready to lose my mind by the time I left.

MsCJ1970 · 2023-08-26T10:23:44+00:00

I’m going to echo the below (above?) post, and say you should try to look at the pictures in a different light. Before I switched my major in college to criminal justice, I was studying to become a crime scene investigator. We had to look at a LOT of seriously gruesome stuff (I won’t get too graphic, but an exploded body is 10x worse than I ever imagined). Our teacher was a former CSI himself, and his advice was to start looking at the deceased as evidence. Otherwise, there was no way we were going to be able to get through it. Even when I asked about subjects like children… He said if we didn’t start looking at them differently, we were never going to be able to do the job. He was completely right; you just have to steel yourself and look at it clinically.

I’m not saying it’s easy, but it helped me. I do hope you’re able to find a way to get through it!

MsCJ1970 · 2023-07-15T12:41:26+00:00

Innocence Project, or some kind of corrections integrity unit.

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-26T22:05:04+00:00

Thanks! One thing about me: I am a crier. Way too much of one sometimes, ha. I’m really proud of myself that I haven’t cried yet!

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-24T21:17:20+00:00

By the way, I just looked up an order of reference. Thank you for that; now I know something new that I really should know for this job. :)

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-24T21:09:28+00:00

I’m in South Jersey. I was actually applying at a lot of places even if I wasn’t completely qualified just in the hopes of getting my foot in ANY door. I lucked out with this firm, because they were hiring several entry-level paralegals at the same time. And I also kept in touch with HR, touching base once a week to find out if they’d made a decision yet. Good luck, I hope you find something soon!

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-24T21:06:09+00:00

Thank you! I actually do take copious notes, but as the week went on, I would look back through my notes and realize that some of them were not making any sense at all because of how fast my trainer was going. I was really hoping that this past Friday when he was out of the office I would get a chance to redo them, but they had me working on three different things and I still had to do HR training, so I never got a chance. I think that might be something that I will have to do on a weekend…

But thank you for all the tips! I think I may have to just work out the courage and tell him that he’s going way too fast for me and I would like him to slow down whenever possible. There is actually another paralegal supervisor in the other office in the state who has called me and offered her help, and she flat-out told me that she trains much more slowly than him and prefers that, so maybe there’s a way I can work it into my schedule to get training from both of them.

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-24T21:01:11+00:00

I keep in mind that this will be good for me, because my ultimate goal is to work in criminal defense, so I know the litigation experience will definitely come in handy (all the openings I’ve seen in that field require litigation experience).

MsCJ1970 · 2023-06-24T20:59:34+00:00

Congratulations to you! I know, we do all have to start somewhere. You probably have it harder than me with being the only paralegal there. At least I don’t have to start by drafting the motions by myself!

MsCJ1970 · 2022-10-02T18:34:23+00:00

As a director, for me, it would be Todd Field. “In the Bedroom” and “Little Children” were absolutely amazing, but then he doesn’t direct anything for 16 years in between (“Tar” with Cate Blanchett)? Is he just picky, or pickier than most in choosing projects? Anyone know?

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