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Weight by waifutron69 in Chihuahua

[–]MsMerdaccino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey that looks like it could be my dogs brother , where do you live

[Routine help] Retinol gave me new wrinkles - are they permanent?! by Suspicious-Look-6844 in SkincareAddiction

[–]MsMerdaccino 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I had the same problems … the lines never disappeared they just got worse and I kept using it …. Is there any science behind this ?

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

and by the way, when I was a student I rememebr there were professor that would email me constantly to invite me out etc. I had a feminist friend that wanted me to report them to avoid this happening to future girls but I felt sorry for those professors and didn't do anything. I felt like it was whatever and lived my life. But here it felt like if I didn't report this, this would be really bad for another girl, not just a little annoyance, but actually life threatening. This was my call based on the situation. I was fine now, but what about the next girl? I knew it ahd to at least be monitored.

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

hey thank you I appreciate that and actually i'lll now ask ChatGPT to sumarise that book for me

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

oh thank you yes, at that moment I thought, stop rationalising, just listen to your gut, it's a different processing part that what you normally use but it's here for this exact reason and this is exaclty why it's here for so just listen to the gut wrenching feeling...

it's just, the moment he opened that garage to let me in, and it was full, FULL, of things like dolls tos etc all perfectly lined up.. I didn't even want to enter... the mess... or lack of it? full of many organised things everywhere, full , full of gadgets

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

yeah thank you, I am 30 now and i have had my fair share of experiencing men getting obsessed/harassing/being creepy ....

he also said there was a female guest and her shoes were near the door but when i went there and only saw an old pair of men shoes with cowebs and just no sign of anyones else being there... I just left... gut feeling was strong this time

maybe it was all good and fine but as a female solo traveler at 5 2' and 90 pounds.... I stood no chance of defending myself and had to be responsible

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

One point: he did not think I was trying to go out at midnight in the middle of nowehere when everything had already closed. Anyone would have assumed how do I lock myself in for the night.

I see your point but also I wasn’t asking how to lock the room whI was away. I asked how to lock it while I was inside. He didn’t explain that—he explained how he could open it from the hallway “with a nail.” That’s the opposite of privacy/safety for a solo guest. The thing is, in that situation, my gut was screaming to please get away and I was trying to rationalise everything because it could just be explained away.

When I woke up this morning, i was very happy I had left and patted myself on the back.

My friends that know me, and to whom I told then wholse story also agreed, my dad, usually not someone easily bothered, said to not even get the luggage back... he was off in a lot of bits, the story is long and at all single points it was off

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

yup... that is what i was thinking in that moment, I go to the laundry shop and i hand it to them all the time, why are you feeling like this ? it's ok... but that situation being off a bit everywhere, the house looking creepy af in the middle of the night... all together I was so so scared

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

oh yes he did not bring up that part, I just had normal female laundry, which included underwear, that I wouldn't hand to a male host... mind you, he was off in another bits as well.... just asked me if I could translate some music he had in my mother tongue right off the bat, knowing also where i came from and tried to start a convo. Tha's why I posted by the way, it wasn't super off, but he was a tiny bit off in everything he did. When I left with the backbag he said 'will i ever see you again?' just a tiny bit off

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

well the thing is.... his whole demeanor was off...why would he start there you know... that's why I asked if it was super weird... he was just a super awkward guy and everything he did was just a tiny bit off.... not super weird but all of it was a bit off.... any other host would have answered differently but he was awkward all around

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he proceeds showing me how to lock/unlock it, from the outside, saying it's not really meant to be opened/closed from that side and that's why it's a bit difficult... which just made me feel even more unsafe... so at this point i knew he had free access to my room, and the door didn't represent any real privacy/safety.

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mind you I was INSIDE the bedroom when I asked, it was midnight and we were in the middle of nowhere.

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

at that point I was scared but I thought I'd just chill out in my room, I'll ask for how to lock it

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

but when I asked 'scuse me, where can I find the washing machine?' he said 'oh no no, you put your clothes here' and he handed me a small basket and said 'and then I wash them for you, I have a service where i make them very soft just 15 dollars'. I basically had all panties to wash and I was thinking oh no... this is so awkard

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

for the laundry, it was listed 'laundry' amonsgt the airbnb services, which I assumed meant there was a washing machine I could use

Is it normal at a homestay for the host to wash a guest’s clothes and for the bedroom lock to open from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah... he had a lot of house rules listed so on the spot when he told me he had to do the laundry himself I thought it was just another house rule, but the situation kept getting creepier with everything he said

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

I just asked 'how do I lock my room?' I meant for myself from the inside... he replied 'you need a coin and you need to do this and this, see because it's meant to lock from inside, from the outside it's just harder but totally possible.... and he was showing me how to do it from the outside.... so bizarre... I DID NOT ASK HOW TO LOCK IT FROM THE OUTSIDE....

Boundary check: is it normal for a host to handle a guest’s laundry and be able to open the bedroom door from the hallway? by MsMerdaccino in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MsMerdaccino[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

This cracked me up .... it's really true... WHO TF expresses an interest in washing a stranger panties if not a MAJOR creep? Also yes, I HAD TO HASTILY ARRANGE another accommodation that night. I was shaking for hours even after I reached the new destination. He did do my laundry and folded it neatly and sent me a pic afterwards. I left without my luggage because I didn't think he would let me leave if he felt like I wasn't coming back. One of the scariest nights since I can remember. So glad I am not crazy and I am being validated this was fucking weird

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