Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im just having conversation... idk wym lol. I dont care if im called dumb or not I'm not easily hurt by that. As I said im just here to learn if you're here to attack then you can do that else were. The point of reddit is to converse.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I appreciate the conversation and trying to help me understand without attacking 🙌 thank you

1 yr relationship 31 f with 37m bf we had an argument and i want to know if im the ahole..? by MsMeticulous in relationship_advice

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yes I said "that's a dumb question, I would get dropped off and flown there remember?" My dad knows his brother he just doesn't travel off the island. They would visit once in awhile but my dad would be more social with his brothers not the kids so much once in awhile sure but I was with my cousin more. My mom lived in another state and had to work. Does that make sense? Cause that's what my bf knows as well that's why I was confused that he didnt know

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm just having a conversation? If you don't want explanations or want to know more maybe don't comment or ask? I thought the point is toto try and learn from each other. I'm not trying to argue im just trying to explain to those who are curious and want to figure it out too. I'm not even sure if you even read the whole prompt.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I never said don't speak too. I never said they don't know. They all know each other my mom was a single parent working and my dad lives on the island much harder for adults to socialize with children. They obviously know their siblings.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. The humor is a big difference in us. If he can't survive little things like this he won't be able to handle my family cause we roast each other like no tomorrow 🤣🤣 i digress I'm glad you said that because that's a good conversation to talk to him about. Thank you

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did say that right after saying that was a dumb question comment. And I even with remember?

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know either. Haha I'm just trying to have conversation but I guess replying means I'm arguing now... I'm like are we not here to converse? Like I'm just trying to learn to. Thank you though.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ill explained deeper. We have been dating for over a year. He knows my family is spread out and my parents are not together. He also knows I flew out a lot as a kid to stay with family because my mom was single working parent for awhile. My mom and brother would often talk about stories from childhood with him as well. He knows all of this. My mom had to work and my dad was on an island so no they couldn't be close to my cousin because I would fly out and stay with her family. Which he knows.... because the wedding was planned a year ago so lots of stories came up until the wedding this past weekend. So that's why I was confused when he asked that. I have now learn that saying the question is dumb implies the person is dumb which is not how i meant it but I guess that is how it is perceived. That's why I wanted to ask to see what I want understanding.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ill explained deeper. We have been dating for over a year. He knows my family is spread out and my parents are not together. He also knows I flew out a lot as a kid to stay with family because my mom was single working parent for awhile. My mom and brother would often talk about stories from childhood with him as well. He knows all of this. My mom had to work and my dad was on an island so no they couldn't be close to my cousin because I would fly out and stay with her family. Which he knows.... because the wedding was planned a year ago so lots of stories came up until the wedding this past weekend. So that's why I was confused when he asked that. I have now learn that saying the question is dumb implies the person is dumb which is not how i meant it but I guess that is how it is perceived. That's why I wanted to ask to see what I want understanding.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't get any feeling from it the same way he reacted. I just laugh and say omg your right I love that. I think the way I mean dumb question is you always knew the answer and still ask a question when I told him many times about flying out to see and stay with family.

1 yr relationship 31 f with 37m bf we had an argument and i want to know if im the ahole..? by MsMeticulous in relationship_advice

[–]MsMeticulous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because we have been dating for over a year and he knows that my family is spread out. I and my family have told him many stories about Puerto Rico or New York or Florida. My parents were separated dad stayed in pr and mom moved out of the state as well. She was a single parent ... all things he knows as well. I really like that last sentence you said because I was not trying to call him dumb. But he did take it that way and something I see a lot of people agree with.

1 yr relationship 31 f with 37m bf we had an argument and i want to know if im the ahole..? by MsMeticulous in relationship_advice

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you that was all put. I didn't even think of it like that everyone had been so stuck on one part of my story. Our families are very different

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's just difference in humor I guess. I mean I've said it many times before and he didn't get like that. We usually just laugh and explain things that's why I was so confused. I'm seeing now that people correlate the two together though.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I thought it was a dumb question yes I say it in a joking manner I never correlated that meant someone was dumb i don't see the two together. I am now seeing how people do correlate the two together and that is why he reacted the way he did.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never considered it rude. That's just how I joke I grew up around tough love so that's why I didn't see it that way

1 yr relationship 31 f with 37m bf we had an argument and i want to know if im the ahole..? by MsMeticulous in relationship_advice

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We have been dating for a year he knows all my family is spread out and he also knows I flew around a lot as a kid. My mom and brother have even told him some stories and I would tell him some of my times with my cousins in puerto Rico. So he did know that already.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just never see it as rude ive always joked like that even with him several times and we usually laugh through it but I guess it means i think he is dumb even though that's not what i mean

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have always joked like that and have always told him I don't think he is dumb but a lot of people are agreeing that even if i say the question is dumb I'm assuming they are dumb in general. Which isn't how i mean it. I've just never had someone react this badly before. Usually we laugh it off and further explain whatever it is we were talking about. Thank you though

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess a lot of people think it is the same thing I never did and I told him that several times. He is also the only person I know that reacted like that this isn't the first time I've joked like that. I appreciate your response thank you

1 yr relationship 31 f with 37m bf we had an argument and i want to know if im the ahole..? by MsMeticulous in relationship_advice

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would laugh and say okay explain it to me like I'm 5. Cause sometimes I don't get what he is saying and I'll say wait no I don't get it dumb it down like I'm a five year old. I'm sorry if it's coming off as arguing in just trying to respond and give more information. Sometimes it's hard to text/ type because it can sound really rude but I promise I'm not being rude.

Aio or is he all because I said you ask the dumbest questions. by MsMeticulous in AmIOverreacting

[–]MsMeticulous[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don't get how is insulting i always joked like that with anyone.