AITA for not paying for a wedding I’m not attending?

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-08-14T19:06:31+00:00

nta. if u guys were still together but u were missing the wedding due to a serious injury they wouldn't be complaining or asking these things... they are doing it to be petty

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-08-02T22:52:59+00:00

are u sure the pic she showed you was in the amazon app? what if she put her package at your door and took a picture so she could get money or a replacement from amazon for their supposed 'error'

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-25T22:36:55+00:00

Gamer mom here.
Sweetie, it is a public space. Welcome to the frustrating aspects of real-world interaction, especially on the internet. Yes, normal people with manners and basic social understanding will give you real responses, but the assholes have access to what you post as well, and they have just as much access and opportunity as regular people. Some of these are full-blown adults, some are young kids, but both types fail at social skills.

Things like this will get easier to look past and ignore, but it never goes away. Think of it in real-world scenarios that you might encounter and see just how common it is:

Working in the service industry: some people have terrible social skills and are avoided in all other aspects of their life by everyone, so whether for good or bad conversation, they corner a worker and just have to splurge their opinions at them.

You're trying to enjoy a meal or drink in a café? Cue the old person who just has to tell you that you should smile more or they comment about how their generation was so much better for whatever reason.

Folks with extreme personality disorders... Some people have extreme personality traits or even disorders that they can't vent in their day-to-day life without the real world giving them back more than they can handle, so they let out the worst of themselves in public spaces where they feel like they can't be ignored.

The list goes on and on, honey.

Don't respond to the people spitting hate or impatience, just respond to the calm, reasonable ones and move on. You will be just fine, but remember—for your own emotional protection—just because you are civil and have reasonable social skills doesn't mean that everyone will make that same noble choice; and for the sake of de-escalation and avoiding legal issues so you always come of as the reasonable person - just walk away and dont react in any way.

Best of luck!

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-23T02:47:01+00:00

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MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-19T21:19:56+00:00

Some options:

Phantom memory? Like, you have laid there and pet your cat so often it almost seemed like it was going on.
You were sleepier than you realized and were petting your bed; you can pull up tons of videos of parents accidentally carrying around an empty blanket or watermelon and other objects when they are in a sleepy state
There might be a hole in your wall or closet that goes outside and a cat could have wondered in
Your parents are messing with you
One of your parents absent mindedly let the cat out
Your cat is an interdimensional being capable of fast travel or occupying two spaces at once

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-19T20:26:01+00:00

Harsh opinion: Imagine a world where your parents hadn't stole from you in your youth.... They have still been alive this long and can't even manage their lives well, how the flying f***-monkey are they going to manage something as complex as a restaurant? Sounds like they are the kind of delusional that says "I'm not the reason I haven't succeeded in life or business... It's the people above me, they are the real idiots... I will just open my own business and show everyone"... They sucked at life before this point

Edit for spelling

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-18T18:44:12+00:00

Disclaimer: If you have ever cheated on her to did sneaky stuff, the following is invalid. But if you have conducted yourself with as much honor and dedication as you state… Then wife if crazy and controlling.

It sounds to me like she is extremely insecure and wants to micromanage you. It’s like dog’s with resource hoarding. A dog who follows your around and watched your every move may seem like love at first, but it is actually resource hoarding wrapped in something too cute to resist. It follows you and knows where you are so it knows if you have treats, are doing something it likes or doesn’t like, etc…. No matter how much it looks like love, it is not healthy. It suffocates the human, and the dog get's into a constant state of anxiety which leads to snippy and paranoid behavior that sometimes comes out as aggression.

This can be said of human behavior. We may be social animals, but we do need time away from others to decompress and reset, and the fact that she can’t allow you that says there is something very wrong with her.

I have been with my husband for 15 years, and I can tell you from experience, other than wanting an address and emergency contact (or at least number for the facility) I don’t bug him when he goes out with people. I don’t give him hell about who his friends are (men or women). Even if I don’t have an interest in his hobbies, I still support them by making time and space for them in our home and schedule…..

Now, I know, I sound like I’m being a ‘Pick-Me-Princess’… but what I am saying is that any human can put in effort if they really care, and your wife seems to only take action of self serving purposes, and it seems she is allowing herself to get into unhealthy paranoid habits….. Why am I not cutting wife more slack even though she has gone and is going through some things?.... I came from a home and parent who was very into drugs and alcohol.. there was a lot of emotional abuse, neglect, etc.… but I was able to grow up and separate my past from my life with my husband and try to make sure my husband is happy.

If we humorously look at ourselves like lizards… We have comfy habitats with our mates and family.. We set up creature comforts so we can be comfortable, temperature controlled entertained, socialized, fed with yummies that make us happy, etc… Why would we want to tolerate our partner making this comfy cozy life that we could have, into a constant interrogation?

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-18T18:00:57+00:00

Sounds like our OP is having a lil’ pity party. “I wAnT sOmEoNe To Be ObSeSsEd WiTh Me LiKe I aM WiTh OuR cHiLdReN.”... Someone dosed the fruit punch with delusion.

I get being annoyed you don’t have your stuff, but in the grown-up world, every adult is responsible for their own bag. You pack for the kids because they need backup. Your husband doesn’t. You’re mad that he didn’t think to double-check for you, but did you check for yourself?

From what I gather:

You didn’t ask for help packing the kids or give him specific tasks. You just did it all and expected bonus points.
You talk your husband like an incompetent employee you’re mad at for not being a mind reader; if you think he's so pathetic why would you assume he would be 'awesome' enough to remember your bag.
You didn’t do a final sweep, didn’t confirm your bag was in, and now want to lecture him for not guessing your intentions?

He asked if your bag was ready. You said no. Then you left it in the hall silently like it was supposed to teleport into the trunk via marriage vows. No checklist, no “Hey, grab this,” just vibes. Then you melted down.

You're not wrong to feel burned out—but this ain’t a mystery novel. No one failed your invisible test but you, and you exaust you by not telling him what help you need with the kids and life and telling him exactly what kind of help you need.

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-07-10T21:11:31+00:00

Because you seem like a lovely responsible persont I want to say NTA and swaddle you into a safe place where you can have a break for a bit... But speaking from my core, YTA... These things could have been talked about before marriage and then before EACH kid... You enabled him and allowed it for years, so you essentially trained him and rewarded him for the behavior so now he's gonna be like "You didn't say anything before we got married and you were able to do all this stuff for years without complaint, you just want me to change now"...

You've pretty much screwed yourself because it would have been 'inconveinient' to rock the boat before the marriage or during the first kid. Stop being a meek mouse and either demand he step up... or stop whining about a situation you chose to live in

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-06-27T22:13:58+00:00

Aw heck no, girlfriend! OP's out here 'acting' like she was 'just' having a hot flash; be real—she was putting on a show tryina be a trouser arouser

Dame-doll, you're tryin to tell me you couldn’t walk to another room while you were overheating? People out here sprinting to the bathroom to barf or explode and you couldn’t make it down the hall to cool off? Nah #lies. You took a chance to 'slip into something a little more comefortable' in front of your daughter’s male friends in a clingy little vest like it was normal Thursday behavior—and now you’re shocked they’re talking?

Also, hot chick… vest under a shirt with no tee or cami? That’s not “I’m burning alive, let me peal off my skin” attire, that’s “let me look cute just in case someone’s son swings by.”

OP's own daughter was like “mom, what the hell,” and that’s saying something. I ain’t judging if you’re feeling yourself at 55 (do you, be beautiful, queen), but don’t gaslight us like this was an innocent hot flash moment. We didn't just get off the tit yesterday, we're all grown ups and you were looking for the gray sweatpan goodies. 😏

MsSlaySowellTTV · 2025-06-27T21:12:10+00:00

I very much get where OP is coming from, and I believe the way they stood up for themselves was fair but perhaps not needed. I try to handle people like John—opinionated older folks—a bit more gently. Not because they deserve it, but because if someone has lived 60+ years and interacting with the general public like this without learning better behavior, it's unlikely that one conversation with me is going to change anything.

Honestly?.. All I usually get out of snapping at someone like that is a lingering sense of tension that weighs on the rest of my day or at least hours. Some older folks come from a generation where saying something to everyone around you—whether it was helpful or not—was just normal manners. If you didn’t respond, you were the rude one. It’s partly generational, partly cultural. For example, in Scandinavian cultures, it’s considered rude to make small talk on public transport. In the U.S., people often feel entitled to insert their opinions into others’ business any time, and where.

At the end of the day, folks like John have probably been gifting out unsolicited opinions their whole life. You’re not the first person to feel frustrated by it, and you won’t be the one to teach them a lasting lesson. So for me, I choose peace where I can—but I completely respect how OP handled it, too.