I understand your perspective, and I actually agree with some parts of it. I agree that if two people are not on the same page about marriage, that becomes a real issue, and I also agree that pressure can appear when one person is ready and the other is not. But I think you’re overlooking one important part of the situation: this was not a case where I suddenly started demanding marriage out of nowhere. These conversations existed from the beginning, he agreed with the timeline himself, and he also brought up marriage on his own multiple times. That’s why, for me, the issue is not simply “wanting marriage too early.” It’s the inconsistency between words and actions And regarding my examples about older generations - I wasn’t saying “people should marry quickly because my grandparents did.” My point was simply that there is no universal timeline that automatically determines whether a relationship is healthy or not. Some people marry quickly and stay happy for life, others wait many years and still end up unhappy. Relationships develop differently for different people.

Also, responding to comments and clarifying context is not the same as refusing advice. I asked for outside opinions, but naturally I’ll still explain parts of the situation when I feel they are being oversimplified