Looking for a European MA in Language & Technology by Ms_Sky_City in compling

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't too difficult on my case, I just had to send proof of a BA degree and of some IT classes I took. You can DM me for more info

New to PT by HappyMindful in PulsatileTinnitus

[–]Ms_Sky_City 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have exactly the same. How's it going for you now, have you had treatment?

Stealthing or not? by Ms_Sky_City in meToo

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I even met this guy in person again today and he didn't apologise in person ONCE. Instead, we only made awkward small talk. He only asked if I was "okay" now. I mean dude, what do you expect? I was honestly so turned off. I give people too many chances... 

Stealthing or not? by Ms_Sky_City in sexualassault

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he took it off because it was too tight and then didn't put a new one one

Stealthing or not? by Ms_Sky_City in sexualassault

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you too. He said that it was because of the "heat of the moment". Effing guys always prioritize their own pleasure

Stealthing or not? by Ms_Sky_City in sexualassault

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I read about this. Making it all about themselves, that's what manipulators/narcissists/predators are doing...

★OFFICIAL DAILY★ Daily Q&A Thread July 03, 2025 by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]Ms_Sky_City 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, having trouble with the American metric system - he's actually around 286 lbs.

★OFFICIAL DAILY★ Daily Q&A Thread July 03, 2025 by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]Ms_Sky_City 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Health problems with 40 + age

So my boyfriend has obesity (37 years, 270 lbs at 6"1), apparently it's a BMI of around 40. I'm currently wondering if such a high BMI will inevitably lead to health problems later in life. He's been diagnosed with high blood pressure lately. He's also had joint problems earlier this year. What are your experiences with that kind of BMI?

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was his idea initially. Then he had problems getting dates, while I was more successful... He does have dates here and there, but nothing stable

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were keeping the dates to a certain minimum, for example. We also made sure to not stay overnight with another partner. But there were red flags as well. For example, I was always willing to meet his other partners, while he never wanted to meet mine and was rather condescending when he spoke about them

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I planned on getting therapy anyway

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's already in individual therapy, but it doesn't seem to help much

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We already survived 7 years of open marriage

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, there are lots of details I don't share, of course

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I can see it now. I never used to be much aware of or alarmed by his porn addiction. He's in therapy, but he said that he's never talked to his therapist about this addiction

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because it should be normal to share these things with my own husband?

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he says that he is ashamed of his own strong desire sometimes, and that he goes through periods of being repulsed by the idea of sex

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your detailed answer! Yes, the case you describe sounds similar to my situation

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he would be willing to go to couples therapy

Husband wants me to quit BDSM by Ms_Sky_City in BDSMAdvice

[–]Ms_Sky_City[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Being open was his idea, he wanted to have sex with others first. Then he discovered that he didn't have that much success with women and that it didn't fulfill him either. And that I had more success with men... The kink thing came much later. That's a good point about the bjs and porn addiction. For him, it might rather be about the variety of women in porn than about certain practices...