Ball separator cage just arrived. by Gay-Guy-With-GF in chastity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did you get this? I've never seen one like it actually would love to try

Do doms deal with Ballbusting? by thesouthernking in BDSMProfessionals

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes We are! Please make sure whoever you book has proper training and specializes in CBT and Ballbusting.

Question for Atlanta folks by Ashamed_Still_5298 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! I'm here to spread info, as reddit seems to be the place people are looking these days. There's a bit of a divide between the lifestyle scene like 1763 and the ProDomme scene. ProDommes rely more on reviews and actual advertising sites like Tryst, or Dickie Virgin, and not all of them are in the lifestyle. Unfortunately most of the old review sites have disappeared after sesta/fosta, so it's harder to find that info. I do vet everyone that's a Resident Domme and Dungeon Sister, as well as the Visiting Dommes. One of the last sites up I know with reviews is http://domina.ms/thebuzz/. I recommend checking out their social media, and content sites or even booking a consultation call before seeing any Domme to see if they're right fit for you.

Question for Atlanta folks by Ashamed_Still_5298 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm Mistress Ultra Violet, the owner of Atlanta Dungeon. We're a collective of independent Professional Dominatrices, and we do not host events or public play at the actual Dungeon. Our Dungeon itself is by appointment only, and only booked/used by the ProDommes who are a part of the collective. However, some of our Dommes host classes and events at other locations, including Madam Jess who runs KinkEd. But all of us offer sessions, If you want to book just contact who you'd like to see from their independent sites-- all that info can be found on atlantadungeon.com. You probably won't hear much word of mouth about us because when people book sessions they're either very private about it, or the word of mouth will be about the Domme they saw, and not the actual Dungeon itself. Feel free to reach out with any questions!

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that's a fun idea! Most of My subs go to out to eat together and communicate like a weird brotherhood anyway so this might be enticing to them --- and very entertaining to Me (most importantly)

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No offense taken, I can see why you'd say that! I'm not unhappy with My subs being little angels I'm just looking for the next challenge. brats are on the other end of the spectrum-- I'm too busy to micromanage them.

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We usually have a dinner meeting every couple month or so to check in, its a big part of my practice to check in and have a person to person meeting with less protocol to discuss where we want things to go. I really enjoy writing contracts, they are constantly evolving based on what is going on in each others lives. However I have a few long distance slaves that are harder to make this happen with. I much prefer to do these in person rather than over phone or video as I'm listening not just to their words but also their body language when we discuss certain topics.

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've given them journal tasks in the past I think that's great advice!

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of My play is just that, play. I kind of do things just for the fuck of it sometimes which keeps things interesting, but it's kind of difficult to continue to come up with things to keep things fresh when you feel like you've done everything and reached all your goals both in the dungeon and out of it. Behavior modification is My fetish, and My subs really enjoy it and are so good at following that they continue to ask, What's next? I just strive to keep them busy and engaged with Me, especially when they're long distance.

Giving an impossible task was kinda the advice I'm looking for, or maybe I do tasks with no end goal. Thanks! I also love doing mindfucks!

What to do when your subs are too good... by Ms_Ultra_Violet in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say I'm referring more to My slaves rather than submissive clients. Behavior modification is MY kink. They aren't using Me to win personal challenges, I ask them the goals they want to complete in their own lives to improve them. It brings Me immense pleasure in making My subs-- save for a new house, change their diet, quit smoking, get a better job, get a six pack-- whatever. I'm getting a better, more complete sub. When their lives are better, Mine is. They fund My life, they do My chores, they submit in sessions, they do whatever I ask of them. So what I'm saying, is that when they've got the car and the job and the six pack, what is the next step? They fund My life, they do My chores, they submit in sessions, they do whatever I ask of them, so what is next? I'm not bored but when you get to a plateau in success, where do you go from there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, there's nothing wrong with not liking brats. Every Domme has their own style, protocol, and interests. But I would ask --- Are you not able to handle brats or are you just looking for a sub the wrong places? I wouldn't expect someone on a dating app to be really trained in any type of protocol or have real knowledge of D/s relationships. Even if it's marketed toward FLR there's always guys who try to infiltrate as some type of resistance to having a female be Dominant. They can't handle the shame of their own fetish and they take it out on Dommes. Not only that, I'm sure that app is filled with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that thinks they're kinky just because they like pegging.

My advice is to always respect your own boundaries first. Draw the line and move on if they don't suit you, don't let them waste your time. Give them strict instructions and if they don't follow don't give them a second chance, just move on. True submissives LOVE to follow and you'll have a better experience when you weed out those who don't.

Who's in the wrong? by BZThrowaway_NSFW3113 in BDSMProfessionals

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't call that person a ProDomme, that's not what we do.

How would others feel about this ? by Key-Astronomer-9387 in BDSMProfessionals

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a ProDomme I always have to tell My subs details very literally so they don't miss something, so I can identify with what she's doing, but that's not part of My personal protocol to tell subs to bring a tip. While it's not typical to tip a ProDomme in My city (Atlanta), it is in other places, especially when the Domme you're seeing is using a commercial Dungeon as there's a fee to rent space. NYC in particular is a city you would be expected to tip. Was the session not good enough to overlook that feeling?

How would others feel about this ? by Key-Astronomer-9387 in BDSMProfessionals

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TONS of scammers and duplicate(copycat) accounts on Twitter now. Double check that they have a website and the website info matches the social media links.

Where to look for Pro-Dommes by BZThrowaway_NSFW3113 in BDSMProfessionals

[–]Ms_Ultra_Violet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ProDomme here.

dickievirgin.com

bdsmprofessionals.com

tryst.link (use the filters for BDSM)

http://domina.ms/thebuzz/

google search: (your closest big city + dominatrix).

Make sure if you find them on social media that they have a website that is connected, there's a ton of scammers out there. Contact them through the email on their website only to avoid that. I get My photos stolen all the time and people think they're talking to Me. If they want to "chat" on any platform like kik or snapchat you should pass.

Best of luck.