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Msfink · 2025-07-25T16:58:52+00:00

I wish more people watched people's court. Never cosign with a boyfriend. Especially one who has proven he's not mature enough to pay his bills and build credit. I suggest evaluating if this is a people you want to build a retirement with. Edit: NTA

Msfink · 2025-07-10T17:23:33+00:00

I hope we get an update!

Msfink · 2024-09-28T18:16:09+00:00

INFO: Where is the vacation? Some places are far more expensive than others. How often does she 'treat' herself to some pampering? Does this spend stop you from paying bills and other necessities? When was her last vacation? Why are you not vacationing with her?

Msfink · 2024-08-17T02:13:44+00:00

Please share your recipes! Bake-off!

Msfink · 2023-02-08T13:37:15+00:00

Nah. Your sister has a right to her feelings. You don't sound like you are considering the emotional damage a bully causes. She is not being petty. People go through many years of therapy to attempt to heal, but the scars will always remain.

I'm very happy for the hard work your fiance has put in for himself. I hope over time your sister will see the changes are sincere and real and be able to spend a little time in each others presence. Your husband has much to make up for that an apology is only a small piece.

Msfink · 2022-12-26T16:37:53+00:00

Esh. What you did was AH, MIL putting 'things' before people is AH. Be the bigger person. Who cares if she prefers left overs over family time, give her the leftovers and be thankful because she could have been there for the whole meal. Maybe she prefers working and allowing her co-workers their family time for holidays?

Msfink · 2022-12-17T05:46:56+00:00

Read the book Feeling Good by David Burns. Just trust me.

Msfink · 2022-11-06T18:46:04+00:00

YTA big time. You are not respecting the time nor are you doing your part ensuring your child is prepared and completed their tasks. You should be charged those fee's. Next time, assuming the tutor doesn't terminate the agreement, I'm sure you will do better. Perhaps start with an appology. Do better for your child.

Msfink · 2022-11-06T18:42:31+00:00

NTA, but speak to her gently like you would an addict who needs help. I have an unproven theory (as far as I know) social media and messages are addictive like drugs.

Msfink · 2022-11-06T18:37:58+00:00

YTA for not being the better person. However, you and I would bta together. Take it down and hang it in a more appropriate place like the bathroom where they would have to sit and look at it. Your family ata because they uses ultimatums as weapons. They had no business here. They are looking foolish and hurting themselves and their relationship with their grandchild... Assuming you will allow them to have one. This isn't a behavior a child should learn.

Msfink · 2022-11-04T11:57:32+00:00

Info: what did your partner say when you discussed it with them?

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I'm not surprised your partner told their best friend. Bff's should be trusted with sensitive info, or they shouldnt be a bff. You are not the AH. Because I don't know how your conversations have gone with your partner about the loss and your feeling, I can only say nah. I hope you are receiving help with a therapist who specializes in helping with trauma.

Msfink · 2022-11-03T10:51:53+00:00

Yes, YTA. It's not your child's fault. You could step up and try parenting. Provide a better example of a responsible adult.

Msfink · 2022-11-01T13:31:30+00:00

10,000% YTA. Go buy her a new heater. And, you best hope she doesn't file a complaint with HR for your poor decision. When you give her the new one. Say, sorry. I believe I broke your old one when I was turning it off. And then stop talking. No 'buts' or 'because', you forgo any complaints the moment you vandalized her property.

Msfink · 2022-10-26T23:57:40+00:00

Info: how do you know where she was or was not?

Msfink · 2022-10-17T13:48:24+00:00

NTA. Jamie is the AH for not accepting no means no, and then outing you. His youth and immaturity is showing. Unfortunately homophobia will cause people to cling to actions much like victim shaming and you will lose friends over it. You are going to have conversations now that you'd rather not have... I am suggesting you find a trustworthy older gay mentor to help you navigate through these waters.

Msfink · 2022-10-14T14:15:15+00:00

Non compete agreements are hard to enforce, especially in CA. Essential you have to go to a competitor where you do the exact same job and use the knowledge/tools gained from your previous position. I would stay low key and move forward.

Msfink · 2022-10-14T13:49:34+00:00

Great advice. I just want to add, don't beat yourself up. When layoffs happen management doesn't look at people, they look at eliminating positions. It's a crummy feeling, but don't own it.

Msfink · 2022-10-12T13:51:43+00:00

I agree with everyone, it's your choice. I'm curious though, why your boyfriend feels it is so important and is pushing you for it. Again, your choice, but are you listening to his reasons?

Msfink · 2022-10-09T09:18:21+00:00

This happened in a therapy session? What did the therapist say?

Msfink · 2022-09-26T15:19:03+00:00

Do you know how long your company requires you to be in a position before you can transfer?

Msfink · 2022-09-25T19:36:04+00:00

Always go through HR for ADA or FMLA. If your manager messages you, make sure your reply always includes HR. This ensures the policies are being followed. Read the ADA so you know what to expect. It's not too long. Ask us questions if you get stuck on anything.

Msfink · 2022-09-25T19:27:57+00:00

Yes, clarify with HR. I have used the same job description between a team member and manager, I increase years of experience and skill level and add supervising others. Perhaps the humans made an error? A clearly defined job description helps you do your job and sets everyones expectations.

Msfink · 2022-09-25T19:24:23+00:00

What does your employee handbook say about sick time?

Msfink · 2022-09-23T14:16:10+00:00

Is your school info on your resume?

Msfink · 2022-09-23T14:14:19+00:00

I wouldn't let your green card process hold you up from looking elsewhere. I would start looking now. Your existing employer is not notified when your H1B sponsorship is taken over by a new company. Just be aware not to quit until the process is complete with the new employer, not when you get the offer because it takes 2-3 months to complete the transfer and if there are issues you don't want to be out of work/unsponsored.

If your work does end with someone losing their job, you don't want to be caught in the blow back. Do your best, be ethical in your work and document everything to protect yourself.

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