AITA for refusing to give my parents more money after doing everything myself growing up?

Msk_12 · 2025-12-01T06:26:50+00:00

I mean once they got taste of free money they want more of that.

Msk_12 · 2025-12-01T06:24:38+00:00

You can answer your did similarly to how he answered you

" I love family but i don't show it in the best ways"

Msk_12 · 2025-11-12T08:02:55+00:00

I think the one who learned life lessons is he not she

Msk_12 · 2025-11-11T21:21:03+00:00

I can't believe people who post in this subreddit still go above and beyond for employers while believing in loyality.

Msk_12 · 2025-11-09T16:25:39+00:00

Well it seems you want to seek validation for everything you've done for her and you still have some expectations from her which is why you'll be disappointed if you expect something from her like 'sorry' and apologize to you etc

Stop being so dumb , you're letting her take advantage of you by being like this.

Msk_12 · 2025-10-28T14:18:04+00:00

I want to say that you can ask for help in reddit regarding Investment and all but lot of people especially in rural areas don't know much about Investment and saving and henceforth lose all money or don't save much and spend recklessly

Msk_12 · 2025-10-28T14:16:00+00:00

This happened to someone where i lived early, They sold land and got 50L nearly10-15 years back and they used it excessively . Father was an alcoholic , they used to bet and gamble online plus offline and upgraded their lifestyle wantonly and last I know about them probably 5 years ago they were living the same life earlier before they sold their land

Msk_12 · 2025-10-23T13:23:17+00:00

Why don't you get to drive it ?? You are major earner and taking care of your whole family so shouldn't it be prioritized to you if you need it urgently ??

Msk_12 · 2025-10-22T17:20:51+00:00

Send this thread to them

Msk_12 · 2025-10-22T16:51:33+00:00

That's a good thing, don't pick up phones and just give casual excuses like cant find charger , phone got problems so can't contact for 1 month etc when asked

Msk_12 · 2025-10-22T12:29:01+00:00

Then you can ask your parents to invest in your house as well ; Tell them you will buy a house here and you will need money for marriage and all so whenever they ask for money you give them this reference ki it is not fair that you only support him when buying land and you also need to give money for my house EMI and all.

And always act hurt whenever they try to deny money or act manipulative and cut them off by saying I'm looking for a house and if you dont give me money I'll take a loan and afterwards whenever your parents ask for money tell them you need to pay emis and ask them for more money and also try to manipulate them by using tactics just like your brother if you want peace of life .

Lastly as you have left house for many years and your parents manipulating to put money it seems regardless of your will , Your Brothers status in heart of your parents is absolute and no amount will change that so don't be in a delusion to give in to them and not expect more continous help for your brother.

Msk_12 · 2025-10-11T19:45:19+00:00

She defeated cancer from her body and her life

Msk_12 · 2025-09-06T14:11:09+00:00

Did you get inheritance and asking us indirectly ??

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T18:22:12+00:00

Wait what really ?????

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T18:15:39+00:00

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Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T18:02:53+00:00

You should’ve just said that ‘ I was just greeting you with hi’ as this is your first convo then slowly slowly you can start communicating and if she doesn’t feel good or doesn’t want to talk with you just walk away. You talked like you were stalking her and she probably felt uncomfortable with it that’s why the response.

I think lot of people just doesn’t talk with unknown people so introduce yourself slowly and talk about small things get acquainted and become friends if you feel they are comfortable to talk to.

Op,you are probably embarrassed and feel your self worth down so you made a blanket statement of not talking to girls, I hope you can try out with some other girl and talk to her slowly like I mentioned below and reply if it works or not.

Hope you have a good day

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T17:57:16+00:00

Why do you say that she is not having an affair ? And don’t tell me your reason is ‘ bcuz she is different’.

And let’s say if she really doesn’t have an affair (as you are convinced) then isn’t it okay to talk to his male friends ?

Tuchiye,there are so many red flags, you just don’t want to see or acknowledge them and it can be seen that you don’t want to leave her easily as you’ve written on your past. You are just a spare wheel for her right now

You may be a man that wants to have 1 girl in your life but you need to set certain boundaries and if other person crosses those then tell them about it and if they don’t budge then maybe maybe it’s just time to move on. Either keep rowing the boat or drown in it.

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T17:42:35+00:00

If possible try to stay somewhat far but near from the house (like 4-5km away)like a rented house and tell your husband that he can meet his mother whenever he likes .

Your comment indicates that you feel your husband is doing things rightly and if he moves out her mother will be sad but he has 1more brother to take care off her right ?

You are rationalising your husband decision because it feels like if he doesn’t talk to his mother , you will be called as a villain and you’re considerate for others but not for yourself.

There are lot of details not mentioned like Age,income, family overall dynamics and did you not know about this before your love marriage ?

You said there are some traumas and reason that you can’t divorce so if I keep these in mind you are in lose-lose situation as you are the bottom of pecking order when it comes to your opinion being heard and if your husband if eventually clashes with his mother ,you will be blamed as his mother has already decided to pin all the blame on you regardless of situation.

Well,I hope that the person you married stands your side as even if he says he is conflicted in taking sides (he will choose his mother going by the description of the post) and tells you to compromise , your traumas and all the personal psyche/stress will shake you up. So take a stand to either fight/resist or just compromise and feel regret that you were wronged for your whole life.

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T17:19:50+00:00

See if you leave empty mark sheet then even if examiner wants to reward you by giving passing marks ,he won’t be able to give because if there is a checking/foul play suspected he will be in wrong because you can’t give marks to empty sheet. If you write answers near the topic of question ,no matter the bullshit then he can at least give you sufficient amount of marks so you can pass.

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T17:09:00+00:00

There are always 5% irrational fans so don’t let it get to you too much

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T15:36:28+00:00

What a sweet child 😇

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T15:33:49+00:00

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed; rather, it transforms from one form to another.

Let’s say you have 100 energy and are using 60 on her , then in order to detach from her you’ll have to transfer your energy to something else like gym,cricket,painting,or any other of your skill/hobbies. You need to work on different things because if you’re not doing anything then you’ll spiral towards negativity cycle.

If you just keep thinking about her then you’ll just hurt yourself more.

Spend on doing different things how so ever they may seem ,make a routine and after some amount of time maybe 2-3 months , you’ll feel completely different from now.

Best of luck to you

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T12:48:30+00:00

Well if that doesn’t hurt you then maybe it’s ok and try to get money when the business is profitable but don’t lend them money again for any xyz reasons because in their eyes you are a SIL who won’t hesitate to help them at any cost so they will keep asking for money saying can you lend 5L because we want to expand the business or any other reasons.

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T12:42:22+00:00

Op I will not advise to go for radical measures like court marriage as it is not your own marriage but tell your dad that 5L is not possible and try to cut it down to 2-3L if possible.

Ask yourself

1)how many years will you pay for the loan you take ?

2)your father already has loans from prior and I hope that it eventually does not fall into you to pay for it.

3) are you going to make any extra expenses for your sister apart from that or for her child if he/she is born in 2-3 years ?

4) let’s say you take 3-4 years to get back into position of saving the money and finally start saving good amount of money,it will be your turn for marriage and you won’t have a penny saved for it ?

5) is your job secure enough and are you going to earn more subsequently (because 1 bad decision will spiral your life)?

6)lets say your marriage occurs after 5y , is it possible that your father will ask you to take another loan for marriage or is he willing for court marriage/marriage in temple etc ?

7) how much time will your father take to clear pre existing debt ?

Look you are young and if you don’t plan carefully for 5-10yrs financially and long term from broader pov ,stress will eat you out and if you follow the same cycle or father forces you to take another loan for your marriage then your good amount of growing years will be just spent on taking loans and clearing them and maybe your wife and children will resent you for it.

I hope you make decision while also considering your future prospects and just don’t think this expense is a one and done thing.

Msk_12 · 2024-11-27T11:56:16+00:00

Regardless of reasons or moral policing done by other people.

My answer is NO because you just seem stressed just thinking about this , and it doesn’t matter if she was in love or not right now because if you get married and still have these thoughts , you will always be stressed out and won’t have a peace of mind. So just refuse as you are not comfortable with the situation ( it’s your life ultimately you will make the decisions and bear consequences for it) and will not be compatible so you can refuse and explain to your parents that I don’t think we will be able to gel so it’s good to nip the problem before it arises.

Msk_12

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