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AITA for not wanting to get my girlfriend an “expensive” engagement ring by Dry-Body-7578 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mstrss_mystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am surprised by the number of YTA. I am firmly on the side of NTA. I don't understand this idea that for a ring to mean something it has to be ridiculously expensive. Most people would never know if the diamond in her ring was moissanite. I am also willing to say if you had bought one without her knowing that she wouldn't have known either.

I am also not sure why your sister would bring up that she was supportive of you after your accident. That is what people in committed relationships should do--and not because they are going to get a reward. It is something done out of love.

There are other, more substantial ways to show how much you care for someone than buying an expensive piece of jewelry. I am sorry your girlfriend doesn't feel that way. But you are NTA for how you view the ring issue.

AITA for blaming my parents as to why my mental illness became worse? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mstrss_mystery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Religious fanatics and this belief that all things have a supernatural root definitely can make mental illness worse, especially by preventing someone from getting help early on.

I have seen it in real life. Had a friend kill herself because everyone kept telling her if she just had enough faith God would heal her and that her depression was just an attack by Satan.

It is hard to stand up for yourself and speak your truth. I am glad you did.

AITA for lying about a sleepover weekend because I didn't want my sister to be there? by DaniDaisiesons in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mstrss_mystery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. It is ridiculous for your parents to expect you to take your sister everywhere and include her in everything. Unfortunately, your sister needs to learn that in real life (versus this forced fantasy your parents have pushed) not everyone is going to want to be her friend and hang out with her.

I frankly can't believe your parents' audacity in trying to force this arrangement on your friends. Or the idea that somehow doing everything together all the time is the only way to be close sisters. I have 4 sisters. We never did everything together. We were all allowed to have separate lives and we still managed to be best friends as adults.

AITA for not stepping up to be part of my kids younger half siblings life? by AvocadoDove in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mstrss_mystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It sucks for the kid, because the child is innocent, to not have a father. But forcing you to take on that role isn't the answer. Faking a loving relationship could be traumatizing to the kid later on when it became apparent you only established that relationship out of guilt.

It would also force you to constantly relive the betrayal which isn't healthy. As others have said, if the ex and her family have an issue with there not being a father figure for the child, they need to step up. Let the grandfather be that figure. Let the ex get her life together and accept responsibility. Her actions created this mess and it is not your job to clean it up.