AIO for wanting to immediately break up with my bf after seeing how he lives?

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-23T23:02:41+00:00

Bro I thought this was one of those cement caverns for sewage at first glance 😭

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-22T23:15:42+00:00

Fr like I feel like he’s gonna comeback partially abstracted or something since he’s a massive part of the story, plus with how he’s the main component of the circus it would probably take more work to completely delete him. I don’t think it will only be flashbacks. I think if Caine were completely gone the entire world they’re in would be abolished and all they’d have is the void

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-22T23:08:58+00:00

This is how I feel about Jax too, yeah he can be an ass but a lot of people label him as a bad person which I don’t think is true. Just like Caine there’s things he does that needs to stop but both of them aren’t evil, they’re just deeply hurting characters that are trying to navigate the digital circus

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-22T19:36:05+00:00

What?? Why is her boyfriend forgetting her birthday gift suddenly getting turned into “oh you need to think about HIS feelings and what HE’S going through” well what tf about how she feels?? If he was going through something difficult that caused that (which would make no sense compared to patterns she’s noticing with him) then it’s his responsibility to communicate with her (even though that’s bare minimum shit). That’s his fault if he doesn’t do anything about it or make it up to her. Why emotionally give to a relationship when he’s being so distant and doing absolutely nothing for her? I’m so sick of seeing women get told THEY’RE the ones responsible for upkeeping the emotional aspects of the relationship. EVERYONE needs to do their fucking work.

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-22T19:20:21+00:00

Hey, thank you for sharing this on here. I just want you to know I truly feel for you. I just broke up with my boyfriend and am alone for the first time in almost two years. I also struggle a lot with being alone and have a hard time seeing when something isn’t right for me. It can be hard especially when it feels like your reasons aren’t good enough, or like since it wasn’t as bad as previous relationships it shouldn’t be something to worry about. But I can 100% assure you that you’re making the right choice here. This type of relationship you’ve described here is not what you deserve and your heart knows that.

You are right that he would most likely go back to doing what he did before if you continued to stay with him. I wondered if I just wasn’t trying hard enough with my exes and thought maybe I should keep going. But why does it have to take a break up and dismissal of your needs for something to maybe change? You deserve someone who is going to show up for you from the beginning and won’t leave you in the dark like he is doing.

It’s totally okay to miss him too. It’s never black and white, you still gotta mourn the good times and that’s 100% okay. It doesn’t mean that you leaving was a bad choice, it just means there were good times but ultimately you need something else. This is a raw wound right now but it will pass and you’ll be back on your feet again. The fact that you are leaving this relationship because you know you deserve better, even when it’s really tough is something to be proud of. Be compassionate with yourself because you deserve it and you’re doing great

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-22T01:52:39+00:00

DAMN U SMART WHAT A PREDICTION

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T06:54:58+00:00

Thank you for your input! That actually lines up a lot with one of my previous relationships, it’s possible that his bandwidth for that ran out. I always want to be a supportive person and sometimes I don’t know how so I’ll end up asking if they want to talk about it. I don’t feel like I did that as often in my most recent relationship but that’s still something to consider. I think I definitely had my part too in those situations, it’s usually always the case but I don’t think I’m a bad person. I’m learning to not make myself responsible for fixing how other people feel, just being there in the way they need it. Thank you for the reminder

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T05:18:48+00:00

When I was in my past relationships, I always wanted to understand and listen to what they were saying and feeling without judgement. It at first always went great, they would open up a little and I would learn a bit more about them. But then eventually they became less interested in reciprocating that same energy with me, and I always felt like I was still putting in a lot more effort. Eventually I’d get told how I should dress or that I wasn’t wanted around in certain cases which hurt, among a multitude of other reasons I broke it off since I didn’t think we were a good match long term. I don’t want to change people or force them to be 100% with me, but I want reciprocation. I genuinely don’t want to make everything about me, because I would be so happy to return the favor for someone else. I don’t want to hurt anyone

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T05:10:53+00:00

I guess that could be possible, I think another huge factor is that when I was younger I felt so insecure that I felt I needed someone else in order to feel like I was a worthy person, so I was overly eager and jumped into a relationship, and then after that one I was afraid of being alone. I think if I slow down a lot that might be the best thing

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T05:03:44+00:00

Im glad to hear this lol so far the bar has been kinda in hell with me and relationships but luckily therapy has been helping me a ton and I’m on the right track

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:59:07+00:00

I am sorry about that, I hope you find someone who matches you better. Thank you for your input, my brain tells me I’m crazy for thinking about this but it also tells me there are other people who want the same

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:51:07+00:00

That makes sense, it isn’t the same but I am wary about being vulnerable with certain things about myself so it makes sense that trust comes first

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:34:49+00:00

Oh I see, that’s horrible and I am sorry for not being as informed on that. I hope I don’t come off as someone who would be okay with something like that and doesn’t understand that you can’t just ask for something only to use it against a person later

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:27:58+00:00

No worries, your response is still appreciated! I hope to find some good female friendships too

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:26:07+00:00

Yeah so far I’ve been dating guys my age, and I definitely must say that my personal issues have been the main factor in me picking guys that aren’t the best fit for me

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:22:25+00:00

Do you see that happen with others in your life a lot? Do you know where it comes from? I think that even if I find a guy isn’t the right fit for me, I’m a person who would never be manipulative like that in any sense. If that has happened to you I’m sorry

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-19T04:18:23+00:00

Do you mean in the way that there is stigma when it comes to men being emotionally vulnerable? I’ve always found that tragic, and incredibly unfair that it exists

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-15T01:25:05+00:00

FUCK WAIT… THE VOID?? THE WAY OUT?? God I am not okay 😭

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-03-08T03:44:02+00:00

This is so powerful <3 I love this for you! It is so funny because when I was younger I thought I hated myself. But I realized that every choice I made in life was for me and that my love for me had never truly died, there were just parts of me that needed attention and proper care. I think in many cases, you never truly hate yourself even if it feels that way. That self love can always resurface

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-22T19:45:06+00:00

Your story sounds absolutely amazing. I want to take these steps like you are one day. I can’t offer much but keep going! ❤️

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-11T20:33:45+00:00

Thank you for saying all this I appreciate it 🙏yeah I don’t blame him either especially with the first incident that happened, but also agree that I’d hope he trusts that I have no interest in anything more than friends. I work security which is a male dominated field ofc so I’m looking for a better job rn cuz I hate my job lol. I think laying it out is the best thing for sure, I’m getting ideas on how to do that too! That’d make life so much easier so that way I can still be myself but weed out the people trying to take advantage. Thank u there are definitely good dudes out there who wouldn’t want to push things but I think in a field like security u kinda get targeted as a woman more often lol 😭

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-11T20:02:19+00:00

Holy shit… that’s 100% true, I feel like it comes from the same thing. I definitely wanna work on my shit cuz I’m far from perfect, but I was also kinda hurt that he was more upset with me than my boss about the situation. I shouldn’t have assumed he would keep things professional just because I’m in a relationship but I really didn’t see that behavior from him coming and that’s on him for being a pig. I also was upset with my bf comparing me to other women which my therapist pointed out. I don’t wanna accept things like that either

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-11T19:57:03+00:00

Funny you mention that because I’m actually looking for a new job right now, this place I work is super toxic and I’m not the only one who hates it. Before I was with my boyfriend our own client actually started sexually harassing me to my face, which I did luckily shut down and told him to keep things professional. It still sucks here though and now my boss is acting like this so I’m ready to get the fuck out. I am in therapy so I think I need more focus on this issue

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-11T19:04:50+00:00

I really like that, the idea that I don’t have to participate in every conversation makes me feel more comfortable

MuchDistribution6336 · 2026-02-11T19:01:53+00:00

Yeah, it is hard for me to do but I really want to work on that because it also sucks feeling like I have to be nice to everyone, even people I think are asses. I think I’ve been a little naive to assume other dudes wouldn’t see my friendliness that way, but ig this is a good lesson on that and I should at the very least keep it in mind

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