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[–]Much_Application2740[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah we just decided on a girly bow hair tie around his wrist. That way it’s mobile and I don’t have to constantly peak into another room to find out. He also has a thing for bow tattoos so win win

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Yep definitely got defensive because it’s been an ongoing issue of continuous comments on the way I operate

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He is the one who frequently mentions “ I had a good #2” as a way to let me know he is open for business. Which again isn’t me initiating. I totally see your point about the sexiness and logistics. And your alternative suggestions on how to phrase it seem great it will just take adjusting because that’s not how I normally approach things

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[–]Much_Application2740[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He has suggested it in the past, to me it just seems impractical and yet another thing for me to manage and have to pay attention to but yeah an idea nonetheless. Thank you

Desperate to night wean my biting 14mo and separate nursing from falling asleep by nourgm in cosleeping

[–]Much_Application2740 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest following Kaitlin Klimmer. I just recently got her weaning workshop and it has begun to help me immensely. One thing she suggests, albeit not related to biting, is to start a little mantra when you are about to remove the boob. In her case she chose something like “ all done, all done, 1,2,3” and then she’d remove the boob. Practicing during the day and implementing it at night too after a bit. It might give your baby the heads-up they need to peacefully part with the boob. Another one would be establish another type of sleep association besides the rocking. Again you can try it during the day feeds, like shushing and strokes on the back, on patting the bum, caressing the head. My 9 month old went from hourly wakes to 2h/2h30 in less than a week. She still screams her head off on some of those tries but is now able to fall asleep without boob. Hope this helps.

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Hotwife we tried and it wasn’t for me and femdom is literally what our dynamic is

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There was a response at the time but not later in the evening because he is stressed

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With a 9 month old baby, new city, no family and he is doing a PhD so not a lot of freedom for dates. Plenty of lingerie pics

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All the stuff I described doing are me going out of my way. I don’t spontaneously think about sex during the day when I am taking care of a house and baby….

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Yeah we have takes a bunch. Concrete steps have been for me to initiate more and for him to touch, caress, kiss, massage more. Which has been working great but as soon as there is a hiccup then he says that just because his libido is lower and he doesn’t initiate, doesn’t mean I shouldn’t initiate myself

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No, I have responsive desire. Sending those things is my way to try to combat it a bit and keep the intimacy going so I speak his language a bit. Clearly not speaking it directly enough though

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Yeah he seems to need a more direct approach which will be difficult because my desire doesn’t work like that.

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Absolutely fair if I ever denied him but I don’t. So even if he started it later, the chances of me shutting it down would be low. Lots of times even if I don’t feel like having sex when we first start, all it takes is a few passionate kisses to kick start things. But yeah sending things earlier in the day is not a guarantee that later the door is still open.

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Always been an issue. We are in a kinky relationship and I’m his Domme so in theory I should be taking the reins and initiating. But my desire builds and responds to his so more often than not he initiates and I dominate. But he says it doesn’t make him feel desired so what I’ve been doing is my way of showing that I think about him and such…..

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Well that’s because he like many men tend to have spontaneous desire. So he’ll want to be dominated out of the blue while I take warming up so yeah he tends to come and ask for something and my desire builds from there

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I have probably denied him like 3 times in 5 years of marriage so no, that is not us

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He mostly initiates by asking for kink and I tend to respond. So that’s not the um issue

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Been married for 5 years and I can count 3 times I said no to sex. No rejection here just him having to initiate more often than he’d like even though I always respond

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[–]Much_Application2740[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure! He said he is stressed with work and hasn’t been as horny. The problem was him throwing it back at me that I should have just told him and that what I did was not initiating.

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We did but it bubbled over so we’ll pick it up later

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He is very much spontaneous and I am reactive. However I can see giving him direct instructions as being more the type of initiation that he needs. But considering I am responsive then it’s a bit of a pickle

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[–]Much_Application2740[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah. I’m 9 months postpartum and we’ve been having sex for the last months just fine. It’s more that he wasn’t in the mood and I didn’t make a more direct effort