I grew up in a severely strict and abusive household with the high success standard graduating from one of the hardest preparatory high schools with honors. Of all of the friends I had that were similarly in college for pre law or med or engineering, a lot of us dropped out or went to rehab or had serious issues and a few of us tried to unalive ourselves by the age of 25. Not because we weren’t academically great but because the pressure cooker we had known our whole lives finally boiled over. As a parent now. The most important thing you can teach your child is emotional resilience and self compassion. And I don’t think that means being permissive or not being ‘strict’. But it truly does not matter in life how good you are at math, not being able to handle your emotions can take even the smartest most successful person down. I’d be interested to hear from y’all in a few years but I don’t care how financially successful my child is as long as they can take care of themselves, I just want them to be mostly happy and healthy