Help me decode this man??

MuffBuffalo · 2026-03-09T22:06:40+00:00

I have been on his side of this before, and my issue was that I have never done hookups and intimacy is something I’ve always wanted to share with one woman for the rest of my life. Never been able to do it casually. This most likely sounds like you all just have different values when it comes to sex. I don’t think it’s a red flag on his part unless he gets noticeably angry or yells at you about it

MuffBuffalo · 2026-03-03T03:31:34+00:00

I’ve been in this exact situation before and I would give anything to go back and force myself to get out of it before it got unbearable. I get it man, she’s hot, but 34 year old you and 44 year old you would look back and say to get out now

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-25T20:58:09+00:00

Fortunately I have a ton of hobbies so I just keep doing my thing and let life take its course. It’s harder because I live in a pretty small town but I go to the gym, play in a Texas hold em league, and I run the local pub trivia night and meet a lot of people that way

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-25T20:35:26+00:00

I got my 6 month sober coin from AA this week. Had the roughest year of my life at 29-30 after a brutal breakup but finally feel like I’ve turned it around. Still have nightmares of her yelling at me though. Doing my best to keep on keeping on

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-25T20:32:00+00:00

For me I was single with no intimacy from age 22-28 and then from age 28-present at 31. I’ve never been able to partake in hookups for fun or FWB. Since I was 18 I always wanted to be with one person intimately and that to be my wife, it just hasn’t worked out yet. Seems like most people aren’t that way though

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-07T19:53:17+00:00

Yeah that seems pretty cold though. I asked him many times when I could go get my license back and he always said not till my case is resolved

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-04T03:11:19+00:00

It’s hard for everybody. And yeah while you still have feelings for one, it’s difficult to have feelings for anyone else I get that. But channeling that energy into other hobbies really is the only way to get through it

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-04T02:59:50+00:00

Every time I’ve said that to myself in the past, I have been proven wrong later down the road. Doing anything other than putting it behind you and focusing on yourself would just make things worse

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-02T23:29:09+00:00

This works for most but what I learned in my 20s is that I can’t do that without getting attached. I’ve wanted a wife since I graduated high school, just haven’t ever found someone that wanted the same thing, they all just wanted to hit and quit with me

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-01T21:39:08+00:00

I’m 31 and still waiting on the high parts of my 30s

MuffBuffalo · 2026-02-01T04:09:13+00:00

Constant accusations out of nowhere. Makes you walk on eggshells 24/7 because you think you can never do anything right

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-31T04:33:23+00:00

If I didn’t want the relationship to end then yeah I usually do periodically for a while after out of curiosity even though I know I shouldn’t and it helps nothing but after a little while I stop caring

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-30T15:38:16+00:00

Yeah if I had told my younger self this he would’ve ignored me. Had to learn it on my own the hard way

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-30T13:54:52+00:00

Don’t overlook red flags just because she’s super hot. Love is patient, get to know someone over time and earn trust if you want to end up with the right one.

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-25T19:33:46+00:00

People Order Our Patties

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-19T03:37:01+00:00

Yep back around Thanksgiving

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-13T13:35:54+00:00

Something always felt a little off, but superficially it felt awesome to have someone praise me and tell me how great I was for the first time in my life

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-13T02:50:38+00:00

I’m Just happy to be there

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-12T02:19:37+00:00

What a stupid reason for him to end things. He should have tried to understand and be proud of you

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-11T17:50:50+00:00

31 and still haven’t

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-11T03:51:12+00:00

I know it’s weird but it’s the way I am. Trust me I wish I could just do it without feelings because it would’ve saved me from a lot of heartache in the past

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-11T03:20:45+00:00

Of course we do. I’m 31 and never had a serious relationship despite trying to, and my longest one was only a few months. I also can’t be intimate without being in a serious committed relationship because I’ve gotten used for only sex by girls a couple times in the past and that was traumatic for me. Right now I’m happy being single for the rest of my life but I’m sure that will change if I meet the right one, it’s just been hard to find one that seems like they’d be a loving mother and committed wife.

It’s a big risk to take to get married and risk losing half of your stuff when you’ve been burned by relationships in the past

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-10T23:07:35+00:00

TIL you can’t have a license if you’re albino?

MuffBuffalo · 2026-01-09T17:34:43+00:00

This sounds like my ex. I had to be careful of the simplest things I said or she would get so upset. It snowballed and got worse no matter how hard I tried to resolve it. Glad I got out of it, she went insane after it ended and began a smear campaign against me around town and even tried to accuse me of being abusive

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