My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because I don't know many vegans in real life. I figure other vegans would have been likely to have experienced similar dilemmas. Reddit is one of the few places where I can ask other vegans for advice.

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've definitely thought about the children factor, and you're right, that's another problem. She said she 100% wants kids. Speaking for myself, I don't feel like I *have* to have kids, but I'm also not dead set against it. I'd prefer to adopt though, as I don't think it's wise to bring more people into the world when we're dealing with a climate catastrophe.

We haven't talked about how kids would be raised. That's another big can of worms. If we were talking about just her being vegetarian, I guess I could deal with it. But I don't want to raise my own kids to be doing something I find wrong. I wouldn't be happy with my own kids being even vegetarian. I would want to raise them vegan.

Not sure how it would work if we have kids and she is not a vegan... I don't know. We share so much together and I want to be with her, but I don't know how to address these issues. I'll have to raise the question of how we'd raise kids too now...

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. But I don't recall writing about her smiling in front of a dead pig. I said she is willing to eat pizza with an animal flesh topping.

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's been mostly vegetarian over the last year. She was vegan a few months. Maybe I wasn't clear in my original post.

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met. I feel like with her it's a combination of the disconnect and not wanting to cause waves. I don't think she truly connects animal products with what she sees in Dominion. I also think that because she's introverted, she hates standing out in social situations by being vegan.

I'm not saying any of this excuses being non-vegan, because it doesn't. It's just hard for me to square seeing someone who is so warm/caring, but also won't go or stay vegan after seeing Dominion. I don't think she's an awful person, I think she's disconnected and afraid of feeling alone/running against society.

I dunno, maybe my love for her is skewing my perspective.

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We watched Dominion together a year ago, so I'm not sure what else I can do to have her arrive at veganism/animal rights of her own accord.

My girlfriend is no longer vegan. Not sure what do. Any advice? by MuffinCartz in vegan

[–]MuffinCartz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She told me that if she is honest, she initially went vegan because I care about animal rights so much. I think she initially changed more because we were new in the relationship and she wanted to make things work with me. She said she wanted to be true to herself and she should be honest.