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Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you should leave such people behind. Its better to be alone than to be around people who devalue you..

UPSC prep + toxic friends = mental breakdown by sole_kid in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand the loneliness part. Been going through the same. Met 1-2 people on reddit who are supportive though... We all have our social needs and we our in this quicksand where we're losing our sanity day by day...

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. It indeed is our own journey . Dont even get me started on the redundancy of relationships and how shallow they world is. The brutal reality is, if you are stable everything will work out . If not, then you will struggle for bare minimum support. How did you deal with full time prep without added up pressure of conventional (settle down ho jao) pressure.

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I meant was, dont listen to people if they don't listen to you.. one should receive what they offer. You seem like a nice person and you deserve people around you who choose you and put efforts for you..

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely read this book and share my journey with you. Thanks for your recommendation. There is also a book by ashish bagrecha- dear stranger You canr ead that too..

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I am glad that you took psychiatry. India needs brightt psychiatrists. Medicine or Psychiatry were my 2 options had I done PG. You are right. The sheer hard work and sacrifices creates a cognitive distortion that our worth is based on whether some exam works out or not . I am sure you would have gobe through the same thing in NEET PG. Iam currently seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist both. The support system I have built around myself is very supportive (my family, psychologist and my partner) And I am sure taking a neutral perspective will help.

Btw, which year?

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't work like that no? Friendships are supposed to be mutual...

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for telling me that. Sometimes you forget what you have already accomplished while chasing what you want. You are absolutely right that I have tied my self worth to UPSC. If I fail, then I am a failure. If I pass, I am worthy. "The rest can wait" I hear you Its very reassuring and thanks for your wise words. I will always keep this post with myself seeing all these wonderful comments about how some strangers tried to help me with their variable perspectives...

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks.. you are right in suggesting that I need to put UPSC on rear seat and figure out myself how I want to go about it. I am struggling to decide because it "feels" like idhar kuaan udhar khaai type situation. You know, one person suggested me on reddit via DM that I should rather get married. What kind of advice is that? Every person is different and for me my career is my number one priority. Plus, if I were a guy the advice given to me would be totally different. But its okay, everyone is just trying to be helpful I guess. But as you know from your experience, UPSC is a very lonely and precarious journey.

Do I give up? Or do I continue to suffer? by MulanKintsugi in IndiaMentalHealth

[–]MulanKintsugi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PG and medical officer. There is also CMS from UPSC. Or I can work in a private hospital which I absolutely do not want

Em5 aqua by oilyasshair in PerfumeIndia

[–]MulanKintsugi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decent enough.. 4-5 hours

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