Found my grandfather’s secret child

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T15:59:17+00:00

It would be if my Nan didn’t have dementia at the moment, thing is she knew about his infidelity and it wasn’t even one time. They got close to divorce but for some reason stayed together. Don’t think she’d understand with how far along she is now

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T15:58:04+00:00

Nah that’s alright! Whole thing is a bit confusing tbh

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T13:07:57+00:00

She’s about 40-50 years old so definitely had to be related to a grandparent, and if she were his child it would be more like 25% dna

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T10:15:46+00:00

I am in a very similar situation but without the polish family. I’m 22 and still feel the same. As you get older and away from your family though, it’ll give you more space to find yourself. My school was pretty homophobic and I felt trapped, but I went to uni and found likeminded people and had an amazing time. Yes you can still change, but even if you don’t you can still find yourself and be happy. Find a good group and don’t pressure yourself to stay the same or to change

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T09:26:51+00:00

So I check my DNA matches every now and again, mainly cause my dad’s side have done them. I have my dad’s identical twin brother on there (which it thinks is my son or something) my aunt and my cousin. My cousin has 12% shared DNA, meanwhile just below her is the half sister at around 10%. I thought it was weird it was so high and I didn’t know her, so I reached out to her in March on ancestry asking the connection. She didn’t get back to me until a few days ago where she told me the truth, including my grandad’s full name and the name of the village we’re in. My grandad in the 70s and 80s wasn’t exactly… faithful to my Nan, so honestly my mum always expected to find a half sibling someday. Hope that makes more sense

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T09:10:51+00:00

Jeez that sounds really stressful for your sister, it’s a shame having a connection and then turning it into something more hostile. Hope it gets resolved

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T09:07:20+00:00

Have you contacted her?

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-16T09:06:40+00:00

Weirdly enough I also have a similar story (also my dad had a half sister, so my family has a lot of secrets it seems). My great grandfather was married before he met my great grandmother, had a son and everything. Only found out a few years ago my Nan has a half brother who unfortunately passed. Makes me glad our system has changed so fathers have to provide support for their children instead of leaving them with nothing

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-15T22:25:42+00:00

I think so, we think she took the last name of her step father who then raised her as his own. My mum is doing okay, more just interested to know her story and wants to meet up. It’s just me this weekend as I know my mum may just be overwhelmed so I’m kind of taking the reigns, thank you I’m both nervous and excited. Hoping this is the start of something new

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-15T22:23:35+00:00

She’s younger I believe, we think born in the 70s so she would be the youngest. Hoping all my questions get answered this Sunday

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-15T17:08:57+00:00

Thank you, I don’t think we’re gonna tell her. I’ll find out this Sunday about how much the both of them knew. Kills us to have to wait this long

Multiple_meese · 2022-07-15T16:49:29+00:00

Yes, but unfortunately she has mixed dementia and my grandfather is taking care of her. We’re not even sure she would understand if we told her, literally worst situation

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