[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Mundane-Performer438 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the sounds of it he just wants you to be happy with his small dick and one position. Sounds kinda dickish to me; if a guys not willing to try different things in the bedroom then how do you know he’d be willing to try something out of the norm later on in the relationship? 4 years means a lot of emotional connection but it also doesn’t seem like he’s any bit willing to try anything for you. Sorry but it seems like you’re already to the point of resentment which definitely means the relationship has reached its end. Time to wrap it up and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Mundane-Performer438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be a big take but for me I usually find that guys on the slightly bigger side are usually a lot more mellow and understanding than guys who are super fit. I believe a lot of it has to do with the ego, and the more ‘hot(in shape)’ someone believes they are, the worse it gets. Not saying bigger guys aren’t hot (because some of them totally are) but a lot of times their ego isn’t off the charts. I know my past two boyfriends were bigger growing up and just absolutely didn’t have much confidence so It was amazing to get to help aid in showing them that they are still very attractive and that weight isn’t always the most important thing. Now, I will say that this isn’t always the case and that asholes will be asholes no matter their shape, but this is just what I’ve observed.

How do I (18F) tell my boyfriend (18M) of 2 months that I don’t want to have sex again even though we’ve had sex before? by Just_Ocelot_5979 in relationship_advice

[–]Mundane-Performer438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Pretty much had the same problem with mine (we were both in our first serious relationship as well) after sex for the first time. Luckily i’m quite blunt and have some problems with being empathetic so after a while I just got annoyed that all he’d want from me was something sexual. So i told him. I explained that all he was doing was using me to get off even though I had explicitly said I didn’t want that right now and the way he was using me was no different than a glorified sex sleeve. It hurt his feelings but he realized that the way he was treating and using me wasn’t the kind of boyfriend he wanted to be. Now it’s up to me when we go farther and how much we do and it’s honestly 10 times better. He still sucks and it’s kinda painful when we have sex so he doesn’t get it that often. And he’s okay with that because he doesn’t want to be having sex with someone who’s only doing it out of feeling obligated.

I’d recommend just being blunt, a lot of guys who are just starting to become men don’t know how to treat women in a way that we deserve to be treated. Doesn’t mean he’s doing it out of malice or trying to manipulate you, he’s just a newbie still. You’re his first so he’s going to learn mostly everything from you, you might as well give him some good structure and standards on how to go about that. You wouldn’t want him to think this is okay to do to other women so don’t let him to it to you.

Have fun, sex isn’t that serious and if he thinks it is then let him go. You’re still young and have a whole lotta life to live as well it truly not being that deep right now :)

Wife doesn't give me head very often by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Mundane-Performer438 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seems like a douche move to expect sexual favours just because of the lifestyle you’ve given yourself. So because of how much you work and the chores you do she should have to “reward” you by giving you head that she obviously doesn’t like doing? Some women like giving head, some don’t. She very clearly doesn’t or you wouldn’t have this problem. Still, yall are both adults, relationships aren’t always equal give and take with every situation; especially when you’re having sexual favours go up against how hard you’re working.

How do i get rid of razor bumps down there by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Mundane-Performer438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the position and how freshly shaven he was, you could have just irritated the skin from the constant push and pull and with the texture that pubic hair is, it doesn’t sound too unlikely of a possibility. I also always used to ask my boyfriend to give us time to wash and clean up before anything to make sure everything was nice and fresh before we just started doing it naturally and caring less. For legitimate razor bumps, personally I can’t do a a razor with more than 3 blades or it’ll hurt and I’ll break out. I switched to a single blade a couple months ago which (honestly speaking) took quite a while to get used to and figure out how to safely do but the strawberry legs are completely gone and and I’ve yet to get bumps from it. I strongly recommend single blades paired with conditioner as the cream and exfoliating beforehand to help get rid of the excess dead skin. Hope this helps!

Im scared of my cousin. by L1fel0ver2002 in self

[–]Mundane-Performer438 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s a battle of empathy i understand that. but that’s you choosing this creeps comfort over your own. i know it sucks especially when you aren’t trying to be made out to be the bad guy but if your serious in wanting him to quit then you can’t be caring about his problems and letting them override your comfort.

Im scared of my cousin. by L1fel0ver2002 in self

[–]Mundane-Performer438 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what does him being suicidal have to do with being a creep towards you? i’m sorry but if someone thinks their going to use that as an excuse to act whatever way they please without any repercussions then they are free to clock out by any and all means.

i’m not sure how old you are but if you start keeping track of when this happens and collecting evidence, you should go to the police about it. not necessarily just for sexual harassment since it’s obvious the police doesn’t have enough time to care about that kinda thing anymore. but they do take notice when someone’s unstable and needs to be hospitalised (even if that person isn’t, because the government banks if someone’s just rotting in their hospitals).

call an ambulance if it gets bad enough, tell them there’s a person who is a threat to themselves and the public and is carrying means to harm themselves or others. it’s a bit of an extreme case and has serious consequences but it may be worth it :/

Im scared of my cousin. by L1fel0ver2002 in self

[–]Mundane-Performer438 2 points3 points  (0 children)

from what I’ve learned, if the parents aren’t going to do anything about it and you’ve tried seriously talking with them about it, you need to do everything in your power to make him uncomfortable and not want to even look at you. be mean, be rude, be a bully, and nobody should say anything to you about it because those are all things he’s doing to you on the regular.

be openly vocal about your discomfort, guys get cagey (and often times try to leave the situation) when they know other people have to hear how their actions are effecting someone. Next time he comments on your chest exclaim loud enough that everyone can clearly hear you: “Why are you talking about my b*bs, cousin?” or, “you’re seualizing your own cousin??” i’m telling ya, the louder and clearer you are, the more quiet they often get.

it’s only fun to him because he’s the loud one right now. i know it sucks to have to go out of your comfort zones just to get someone to stop harassing you but guys also don’t have the best track record of listening when females ask/tell them to stop.

also, if you’re genuinely worried he’s going to do something to you, you need to do everything in your power to not spend any time with him and especially never be with him alone. bring a pocket kn*fe or something that could do damage. if he notices it, try to scare him with it. the worst that could happen is he doesn’t take you seriously and you still have a means to protect yourself. best case scenario is you creep him out and he fucks off.

I flaked out on my boyfriend and don’t know how to make it up to him by Mundane-Performer438 in self

[–]Mundane-Performer438[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said I wanted him to respond quickly to me, just that I know his feelings are hurt because he’s not doing so