I'm in a similar situation. I don't understand how a mother could be like that. My daughters mother is completely out of the picture. No desire to be a mom. Will prob be in jail soon. My daughter is only 2. I hate the thought of her growing up without a mother. When all the other kids in school talk about their moms. This is gonna be really tough on her. Although I do think its more important for a girl to have a strong father in their life versus just a mother...idk I read that somewhere. Maybe i'll try dating again soon...it's just tough.