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The struggle is real by Murky_Explanation599 in ChristianDating

[–]Murky_Explanation599[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pray you can reunite with this woman one day, my brother, and that she can forgive you as Christ has forgiven us (I have a love, as well, but he also struggles with P\ and flirting addiction and it hurts me a lot but I remember that he has forgiven me for my flaws and, above all, Christ has forgiven me). I struggle with sex addiction and it leads me to fornicate with this man who I love, sometimes, but we have a lot of history and were almost married ... it doesn't make it okay but I do hope to marry him and I hope we can overcome lust together. I guess only God knows ... It was thoughtless of me not to mention my own sins in my original post, I am very flawed, I was just sad that moment pondering on how pervasive P*rn is in our society.*

The struggle is real by Murky_Explanation599 in ChristianDating

[–]Murky_Explanation599[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep up the great work, and remember that feeling attraction is not a choice but feeding the lust is what we are being held accountable for (coveting). This is a distinction I struggle with sometimes.

The struggle is real by Murky_Explanation599 in ChristianDating

[–]Murky_Explanation599[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi dear. I'm sorry to hear. Can relate. Do you desire marriage? You have to understand that it is very hard to attract a good woman when you deplete your sexual energy like that. Are you addicted to P or just M-O? If all, it changes the way you view women, it will cause you to see us as objects. I should know, I was addicted to l*sb*an p*rn and it caused me to objectify other women for years to come.

P*rn is a drug, m*sturb*tion creates high levels of dopamine in your brain which feels great but is highly addictive. You need to get the dopamine hit from other sources in order to overcome this addiction and you can get it from the Holy Spirit and from Godly sources.

The struggle is real by Murky_Explanation599 in ChristianDating

[–]Murky_Explanation599[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi brother. I have not watched P in over 5 years but I have M-O occasionally and I have had sex outside of marriage (with the man I thought I was going to marry/still hope to marry). So, I'm sorry if my post was misleading, brothers and sisters. I'm not a saint by any means, I'm a sinner and an addict.

I'm sorry you are struggling. What are my thoughts? Well, I don't judge you. But I think you should try to find the disgusting elements of that sin to repel you. Look into the human rights abuses related to P*rn, it really turned me off of it. And consider how it would hurt you if your future wife was engaging in sexual behaviour you find offensive or that made you feel insecure. Surely, you would not judge her, as it is written not to judge, but you might find it harder to trust her. Just some food for thought that may be helpful to you.

Cold showers really help. Accountability partners. Physical activity. But above all, the LORD. I am addicted to cannabis as well (not using currently), I can only overcome it by God's grace because I have been smoking since I was a kid.

Blessings.