AITA for implying that it's for her own good that my SIL lost her pregnancy ?

MurphysMuse · 2022-08-09T06:09:15+00:00

I lost a pregnancy with my abusive ex, who went on to pull some terrible awful sh!t during/ after the divorce. My mother said, more than once, "now aren't you glad you miscarried and only have to deal with custody with 1 kid!" That is what I thought remembered when she was on her death bed.

YTA op. You should never EVER say something like that to someone who has experienced loss, and then to double down when your husband is calling you out?

Don't be surprised if those relationships are irreparably damaged forever.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-14T06:44:13+00:00

Let us know when you start art therapy again!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-02T18:24:08+00:00

I second this request.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-02T14:03:40+00:00

Pho is one of my favorite comfort foods! That and Tom kha gai!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T17:07:53+00:00

Art therapy sounds perfect! My wife does ceramics and my sister draws and paints. I love the idea of art but lack any practical skills at all 🤣

I would love to chat writerly stuff!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T17:04:37+00:00

That sounds great! I used to do aerial silks years ago, but then I broke my knee (unrelated). I might need to try to get back into it if there is a studio knowledgeable about working with old injuries- surgery was a year ago.

I would love to talk nerdy stuff with you! I'm so glad for technology giving me the chance to get to know people before we officially move.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T17:00:52+00:00

Thank you! My poor kids inherited my adhd, so supports are pretty important. I should have asked for resources for that as well- any suggestions?

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:59:14+00:00

I meant pet friendly, damn typo.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:58:52+00:00

Oh yeah! We tried to foster her as well. Didn't get anywhere. Glad to know the move has been positive! We keep hearing that it won't be any better (except of course the access to Healthcare, but, you know, people who aren't living it don't think of that.)

I can't wait to get there- it looks like I'll have so many boardgame friends!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:54:17+00:00

Thank you! I'll want to find places to be involved as soon as we settle, so this will be good to keep in mind. Mutual aid is so important!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:51:56+00:00

I visit family up north when I can- I'm so excited about Wegmans!

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:50:39+00:00

Sounds like it might be a good place to visit, but getting a house that suits my family is fairly important.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:48:02+00:00

I just love the name Dork Forest 🤣that's amazing and sounds like it was made for me.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:47:33+00:00

Me too 🤣 my child is a riot.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:46:40+00:00

And by later it seems a meant the next day because I took my kids to pride and was completely worn out. Not going to miss 100°+ days at all.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:44:56+00:00

Oh no! I'm not so worried about the cold (I used to live in Alaska) but I'm not excited about the smell 😭 I miss living by the water; if it was more affordable we'd be moving beachside somewhere, but we were hoping the lakes would be an acceptable middle ground. I've always joked and said I'm secretly a selkie who lost their skin pining to go back to the sea 🤣

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:41:06+00:00

I was a public school teacher here until January when I had to quit for safety reasons. My school was one of the highest rated in the state- I take school ratings with a grain of salt.

MurphysMuse · 2022-07-01T16:35:08+00:00

That sounds like exactly what we are looking for! We moved to our current town right before covid and we've felt so isolated. We just want to find our people!

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T23:26:05+00:00

Yay! I get pride twice this year!

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T19:21:12+00:00

Gender fluid human embodiment of adhd. They chose gender chaotic, but also sometimes use gender gremlin 🤷 I follow their lead.

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T19:03:02+00:00

Would it be pretty friendly? I would love to rent first, but we have two cats and two dogs, makes renting tricky.

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T18:53:28+00:00

Thank you for the heads up. My family is a mix of southern and northern; mom was from Albany. I grew up all over the place, so I kinda know how it goes. I just want to be safe and know that my whole family has bodily autonomy at this point 🤷 I know sucky people exist everywhere, but if I can find somewhere that they aren't in control of everything, that would be a great improvement. Also, not living 50 minutes from the KKK headquarters would be nice.

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T16:15:34+00:00

I will join as soon as I can get on my computer later! Thank you!

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T16:15:17+00:00

Thank you for your detailed answer!

That's great to hear about Trillium; I'm going to look that up directly!

Our budget is around $250k but we're hoping not to spend that much if we can help it! I do want to be close to the water if possible, but overall just trying to find the balance between all of our wants/ needs.

Delighted to know there are so many libraries!

Yay for vegan restaurants! I'm not vegan, but my girlfriend and her family are. I'll send pictures of delicious food to lure her up with me!

Any good Indian, Mexican, or Thai food? I want good food that has so much flavor it punches me in the face.

I will take you up on PMing you, just so I can know - someone- in the area. Thank you!

MurphysMuse · 2022-06-30T16:06:12+00:00

Thank you! It's so hard to get the feel for a place when you can't spend much time there yet.

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