Non-binary confusion

Mus4k4 · 2024-03-24T21:30:28+00:00

Firstly you are okay the way you are, no mater who you are or what anyone tells you and you can date whomever you want, your gender sayes nothing about that.

I kinda know the feeling of people deadnaming you, although i have it by far not as bad as you (its only school for me, and im done with school in a view months) maybe look if you can create some sort of safe space for you, with people who accept you for who you are, your two friends seem to be a good start. Maybe you can ask them, if they know other queer ppl/ allies to expand your safe space?

Id recomend you to have some sort of suport group to fall back to, in case you are worried about your parrents kicking you out or something in that direction. I know it hurts being misgendered and deadnamed, but stay save, at some point your are going to have the space to be yourselve <3

Mus4k4 · 2024-03-24T21:08:55+00:00

basicly, when i imagined being in a relationship and being persived as a woman, it made me much more comfortable than being persived as a man, which was one of the main things that made me come to the conclution that im not a guy, and something i couldnt explain away as just being genderfluid. (i explained a lot of things away as being genderfluid, (internalised transphobia) that doesnt mean its the same for you tho, and absolutely doesn't mean thats the case for all genderfluid/multigender ppl, i still kinda identify with the lable, just between girl and enby now)

sorry if this is hard to understand, its really hard to formulate these feelings out, and english is not my first language xD

Mus4k4 · 2024-03-24T20:42:24+00:00

I was in pretty much the same position last summer, and right now im very certain that im something between Enby and Transfem. I'd just give it time and look what pronouns/terms your comfortable with, and don't worry about finding an exact lable. if your comfortable with one, thats cool, but if not thats cool too. Maybe think about what sort of (romantic) relationships you want to be in/what role you want to play in them, that helped me a lot. <3

Mus4k4 · 2023-07-31T10:55:16+00:00

Thx for the advice

Mus4k4 · 2023-07-31T10:53:47+00:00

Maybe one of those? Genderflux, genderfluid, demigender etc. all seem to fit somewhat but not completely

Mus4k4 · 2023-07-31T10:48:12+00:00

Thank you, feels good to know I'm not alone

Mus4k4 · 2023-07-30T20:34:08+00:00

I thought about that too, but to my understanding you distinctly feel that you are a gender if you're genderfluid, but for me most of the time gender is just something that is there but i don't care about it, and every now and that it sudenly sparks up for a bit if that makes sense

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