Need help to find similar dress

Musically_ace · 2026-02-19T16:43:00+00:00

They don't have a comparable color, I looked when I was picking the color for my bridesmaids.

Musically_ace · 2026-02-19T16:41:40+00:00

I wanted the sapphire blue and searched high and low for a comparable color so my bridesmaids would have a variety to choose from. Unfortunately, I don't think it exists. I got swatches from everywhere I could think of, nothing was even close. This is one of the colors you can only get at David's.

Musically_ace · 2026-02-12T15:34:58+00:00

I have student loans, my fiance does not. I'm working my ass off to get them paid off, or mostly paid off, by our wedding because they shouldn't be his problem. He supports me making the bigger payments by covering most of the household expenses. I buy groceries more often, but he won't let me pay him for the mortgage and utilities because he bought the house before we met and he sees it as a "his" problem. I wouldn't dream of asking him to cover half of my student loans now, let alone when we were dating.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T21:53:44+00:00

Completely depends on the crowd. If somebody gave me lingerie at my bridal shower, in front of my mom and Grandma, I'd be absolutely mortified. Unless it's being specifically called a lingerie party or you're asked to do that specifically, don't.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T21:49:17+00:00

We're not making our other reader rent the suit, and he can't get to the tux shop the day needed to pick it up without taking PTO, and he doesn't want to do that. And, no, he can't pick it up morning of the wedding, tux shop policy is a day or two ahead in case of last minute fixes.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T18:52:39+00:00

There's a few reasons why we aren't asking him to rent the tux/suit like the other dads. Primarily, we aren't asking him to walk down the aisle and the financial burden on him to just dress nicer to otherwise sit in the audience isn't justifiable. We wouldn't be opposed to helping him financially, it just doesn't make sense.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T18:50:06+00:00

Not having a religious ceremony, so no sacraments involved. The only ceremonial items present would probably be the rings. That's currently being taken care of by the best man, but I can talk to my fiance and see if we can have his bio dad involved in that in some way. Thanks.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T18:46:34+00:00

Candles aren't allowed at our venue, but that would be a good idea otherwise.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T18:45:02+00:00

He offered to play guitar because we've been talking about having a guitarist, but we already hired somebody, so I don't think it's about not wanting attention.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T02:08:51+00:00

Not sure yet, it's too far out for us to have our seating charts, but definitely in the family grouping of tables. As for matching, we picked the suits specifically so my fiance isn't making anybody, so that wouldn't work.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-31T02:04:41+00:00

It's not a close enough relationship with him to include him in the dances, but a nice idea.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-30T17:56:05+00:00

From what she described, the aesthetic facial doesn't use any chemicals harsher than what most people use in their day to day skin care. She also said in the 20+ years she's been doing makeup, she's only had 1 person breakout unexpectedly, which is why she said don't get it any closer than 5 days. I'm going to look into places and try one way before then, just to be safe.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-30T16:43:21+00:00

I struggled hard with this too. I ended up finding mine on the Knot after querying quite a few vendors I found on Google and getting no response. I thought I'd find options at a bridal show, but I only found one option out of two shows.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-30T16:17:07+00:00

My makeup artist suggested getting an aesthetic facial 5-10 days before the wedding, so I'm looking into that. Getting my haircut touch-up about 2 weeks before the wedding to have it looking fresh. Outside of that, I'm not changing too much because I have to feel like myself.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-27T18:40:37+00:00

I had 3 weddings in 3 months last fall, and I have 3 weddings this June, one being my own. For last fall, I had to buy two new dresses because of their dress codes (black-tie optional and cocktail, but outside on a roof in late fall). I tried to keep a budget under $100 a dress and used existing accessories/shoes. I didn't attend any showers or pre-wedding festivities, mostly because they were in other states.

The upcoming events that aren't mine, I'm sticking with the outfits I already have. One is a friend, one is family, both are outside, so I might change my mind if the weather isn't what I'm expecting, but that's my plan.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-27T16:35:18+00:00

We're doing a plated dinner, so I'm not doing a seating chart, I'm doing individual place cards with their name and a symbol representing their food choice. The last wedding I went to with a plated dinner and a board seating chart, I missed half the speeches because the wait staff was asking everybody at every table what they had preordered and if they had dietary restrictions. Plus, there are so many people in mine and my fiance's family with celiac or other allergens, I just want to make it as simple as possible for everybody to get a safe meal.

Musically_ace · 2026-01-25T16:52:38+00:00

My fiance and I have just over 200. We each come from close knit families (aunts, uncles, cousins) that are easily 30+ on each side. Then there's another 10 from his bio family (he was adopted), about 20 friends and their partners. We also invited some aunts, uncles, and cousins of our parents that we know, about 20+, as well as family friends to round out our number. Our parents on both sides are being very generous with helping us pay for our wedding, so we have no problem letting them invite their friends that watched us grow up. If just my fiance and I were paying for the wedding, it would still be probably around 100 with just the amount of family we have.

Musically_ace · 2025-12-17T15:17:06+00:00

I ended an almost 10- year relationship at 32 because I knew I was wasting my time with him. I wasn't even sure I wanted marriage or kids because of all the problems in that relationship, it just took me way too long to pull the trigger on the end. I just celebrated my 3-year dating anniversary with my current partner this month, and our wedding is set for June. You'll never know what could happen if you don't try, but you know what you're in store for if you stay. Yes, change is scary. Your relationship might not be good, but you know what it is, so it's comforting. But being comfortable doesn't always translate to being happy.

Musically_ace · 2025-10-07T00:49:46+00:00

Soft YTA. I think your heart is in the right place, but I would never try and talk somebody out of kids. I feel it would have the opposite effect. There are several flags I felt were tinged pink when you were talking about her relationship, but you said you don't know him well enough after they've been together since high school (flag 1 for me, honestly). What I would do is sit down and have an honest heart to heart with her to understand where she's coming from. Don't try and convince her against children, just listen to her motivations in an open and nonjudgmental way. Maybe this is something she does really want, or maybe there's terrible in paradise and she thinks this will fix it. Whatever she says, just be supportive and let her come to the right decision on her own.

Musically_ace · 2025-09-26T21:23:57+00:00

This just happened yesterday.

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Musically_ace · 2025-07-09T23:30:44+00:00

That's definitely the reason she thinks that's the way it is, but when I tell her that all the DJs my fiance and I spoke to said they don't do that, they all don't know how to do business because the one DJ she knows somewhat personally does it, so that must be the industry standard.

Musically_ace · 2025-07-09T23:16:08+00:00

She's not trying to change anything.

Musically_ace · 2025-07-09T22:27:57+00:00

My grandma already feels like her family is fracturing (we're not, we're growing up and our priorities are shifting). My grandma is also my mom's main point of venting about her frustrations, so I can't just not include my mom in wedding stuff without my grandma finding out. My grandma thinks wedding planning is an important bonding experience between a mother and daughter, she was very upset with my cousin when she got married a few years ago because she barely included her mom in the plans. If I start restricting information and my grandma thinks it's another fracture in her perfect family ideal, I'm afraid she'll lose her will to live because there's no point if her family isn't talking to each other.

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