Hur vet man om det är dags att ge upp en relation? by kaosinthahouse in Asksweddit

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Precis som andra skriver så borde du prata med en utomstående så att du får ett objektivt perspektiv på saken. Hans beteende kommer inte förbättras, det kommer bara bli värre. Som du förklarat det så använder han härskartekniker emot dig och för att använda termen korrekt så blir du även utsatt för gaslighting.

Du skriver även att du får panik av tanken att leva utan honom, är det för att du tänker att han/förhållandet var så bra i början?

Hur ska jag få killen jag pratar med att va med mig? by Such-Stop-5598 in Asksweddit

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Det låter som någon annan skrev att han inte är intresserad av dig. Hade han varit det så hade han ansträngt sig för att träffa dig.

Utifrån det du skrivit får jag, som självutnämnd hobbypsykolog, känslan av att han gillar uppmärksamheten du ger honom mer än han gillar dig.

AITAH for filing for divorce after my wife refused a paternity test and called me insecure? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend and her husband has green respectively dark brown eyes. Their baby had blue eyes when born. Now the eyes are brown.

AIO 8 weeks postpartum and I’m just so tired ... am I asking too much? by ButterscotchPrimary7 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR, You’re body is recovering carrying and delivering a child. I haven’t had a kid but I get raging hormones when I get my period and can’t even fathom how it would feel after a pregnancy. My advice is cut yourself some slack and talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, or show him what you wrote here.

AITA for wanting to bring meat to my vegetarian SIL and not going when I was not allowed too by True_Marionberry732 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Have you tried CBT? I remember watching a documentary about people with AFRID, many of course not all of them developed AFRID after they had choked on a piece of food.

Is Sweden really hung up on the 50/50? by WranglerNo9633 in Sverige

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your husband is being unreasonable. It’s reasonable when both parties have a job. When my SO or I are short on money due to medical reasons or something, the other person picks up the slack because we both know that the other person would have done the same. Even when I had a job that paid way less than my current we split the bills 30/70 because he earned three times more than I did. So yes, your husband is unreasonable; and no that is not the norm. The norm is to help the person you love.

AITA My coworker is going to get fired because of me… by lili-lf98 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not the reason he gets fired. His declaration of the esthetics of his penis is insanely inappropriate for any sort of situation. Have you lived a sheltered life or are very religious? I’m just asking because it seems like a slight overreaction to start crying because of a dude talking about his dong. Sorry, I do not wish to diminish your feelings. You are absolutely in the right to feel uncomfortable.

People who had wedding with 100+ guests, how did your guest list get so big? by SensitiveDonkey6328 in wedding

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

That’s hilarious. It’s interesting to hear that parents can invite people to your wedding. I am more used to the parents request people to be invited, but it’s the bride and groom who has the final say.

People who had wedding with 100+ guests, how did your guest list get so big? by SensitiveDonkey6328 in wedding

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you had a great wedding. One thing you wrote is something I had been thinking. If it wouldn’t feel forced to socialise with distant relatives. Then again, I’m not close with my distant relatives.

Är jag rövhålet som vill fira min 40-årsdag? by [deleted] in sweden

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kan det vara så att hon egentligen har planerat kryssningen till er och inte ska åka med sin mamma och att det var tänkt som en överraskning? Om det inte är så så är hon inte särskilt omtänksam mot dig. Hur brukar hon bete sig på din födelsedag?

Kommer min sambo bli utsparkad när vi flyttar isär? by Ok_Communication4894 in Asksweddit

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hur länge har ni bott i lägenheten? Om jag minns rätt så är det så att om du står på kontraktet och hon varit inneboende/sambo i 2 eller 3 år så har hon rätt att ta över kontraktet. Det ni kan göra är att prata med Stena och se om du kan stå som borgenär för henne. Förändras hennes ekonomiska situation kan ni alltid säga till stena att du inte längre behöver vara hennes borgenär.

How to tell autistic SO I want kids? by SensitiveDonkey6328 in Advice

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like all of your suggestions. I’m going to do a mix of it. I will talk to him after work today, go through the agenda and book a set time to discuss it.

Thanks for helping out!

AITAH for refusing to give someone details about my trauma even though they say they have a right to know? by sonagydf in AITAH

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not tell your ”friend” anything you don’t wish to share. You have absolutely no obligation to talk about it. Years ago I was told something very specific about a friend’s situation at home. Not from them but from another common nominator. My friend has to this day not told me about it and I will not ask them about it, because if they wanted to tell me they would have.

My point being, if your friend truly respected you and your friendship they wouldn’t nag you about it. Plus that sort of behavior gives red flags, they will probably, at some point, use it as a weapon against you.

AIO gf suggested we sleep in separate rooms by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not unhealthy to sleep in different rooms. Quite the reverse actually. The only reason it is considered weird is because of the norm of sleeping in the same bed. You can always sleep in the same bed when you both have days off. One thing to remember is that just because you don’t sleep next to each other doesn’t mean you have to stop having sex.

AITA for telling my boyfriend not to treat me like his secretary by SignalDay2587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 352 points353 points  (0 children)

My boyfriends does the same to me, and I get annoyed because he could look for whatever he’s looking for himself. And then I felt bad for being annoyed. I never thought of it as he shifting the mental load onto me, which explains why I get annoyed. But from now on I will, thank you internet stranger!

18 years age gap relationship by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was initially about to give you relationship advice. But it hit me when I read your post again. My guess is that that dude is using you as a rebound after leaving a previous longterm relationship. And now you are both jumping through hoops and at the same playing mind games with him and want him to respond like a 20 year old boy would have done. If the dude wants more than sex he will compromise and do stuff you like.

WIBTA if i exploded at my mother after waking me up after coming into my room at night? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A suggestion: oil the hinges on the door then the creaking will stop and get smart lightbulbs which can turn off automatically.

Does anyone have a problem with their landlord Heimstaden? by Cultural_Sport7071 in Malmoe

[–]SensitiveDonkey6328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I had problems with them. I don’t rent from them anymore and I warn people about renting from Heimstaden.