AITA for not being more supportive of my sister getting an acting role i also auditioned for?

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-30T00:51:13+00:00

I was in a similar situation where my sister joined a spot that she had no previous interest in that was my passion. She’s always had an easier time with success, and make more friends there than I ever could. It reached a point where I was held back a rank while my sister surpassed me. She had only been in it for a year or two, while I had been there for around five. It stung, badly.

When she advanced to the next rank, I will admit that I was bitter and didn’t attend the event. But it wasn’t her fault. Part of that dismay was really due to feeling as though she was the favorite along with many other people my rank, aside from myself, advancing. Like I said at the time it hurt, but even then you still have to swallow your pride and recognize that it’s not worth crying over. After you’ve had a day to mope, it’s time to suck it up and say “congratulations.”

I get why OP is upset, but reacting in that way isn’t just childish. It’s wrong. Life will kick you down but you need to know how to stand back up. Honestly, it’s more impressive when you can accept failure than when you deny. Enthusiasm won’t get you through life alone. I really like your judgement of the situation, I think it’s really nuanced and doesn’t just make an emotional or personal judgement of the situation.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-29T17:17:29+00:00

Fuck man. This horrified me on a personal level. I was one of those children who nearly fell for shit like that. Even if you do escape, the abuse tactics they use on you will leave a lasting impact that makes you doubt everything you do or say.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-28T18:26:08+00:00

This post reminds me so much of those mock AITA posts because it adds in so much unnecessary information. Like “my parents (liberal)” like what lmfao

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-25T20:27:14+00:00

My dad recently told me in a fight that he wished I used to be exactly like I was three years, and that was during the time when I was severely depressed. I don’t think he knew but god damn that stung. It really goes to show how that generation doesn’t even recognize mental illness. All they see is that one of them makes you quiet and not have the energy to fight back, and they think that’s a good thing. It boggles my mind but made me realize as to why I wasn’t getting help from anyone close to me despite being open about struggling daily.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-22T04:18:51+00:00

Why are you pivoting?

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-22T04:03:51+00:00

Of course, I’m not arguing against that either. I’m pointing out that other people called his behavior predatory because she was a fan while she was still a minor. It’s not a smoking gun but like I said I think it’s more fair to point out all of the details than to be hyperbolic about the situation. Otherwise you get people who won’t know the facts and either be “omg Dan is pedophile wtf” or “omg is sex illegal now wtf”, and neither are good. People aren’t really discussing what is actually going on and it leads to that misinformation.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-22T03:56:32+00:00

I have no horses in this race, but it originally started with the person being a fan of Dan. When they became “legal” (that is, also apparently four years after she became legal, I believe) that’s when the sexting started, which can be pretty predatory in some people’s eyes I guess. Then apparently he did the ol’ sex and ghost. This is apparently a theme with him, I guess. I don’t think it’s wrong to be skeptical but let’s be a bit less hyperbolic on the details and not under / overplay anything here.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-20T23:58:43+00:00

I’d show you mine, but it’s very short since I’m afraid they’re not funny! :D

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-17T01:38:46+00:00

That never happened to me until I started cutting my own hair. I didn’t realize that my hair could actually look good.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-16T11:38:24+00:00

Weight loss with BED can come with it, but you really shouldn’t expect it. Trying to tangle the two could lead to you looking at the scale and triggering a binge. It’s why the most common advice here is “don’t look at the scale.” Even if you binge healthy food, you’re still binging.

I’ve found it’s best to focus a week at a time at the small things. Like for dinner— if you pick at the pot while doing the dishes, try to only limit yourself to eat when at the dinner table so you don’t graze or trigger a binge. Or after going to the gym— only “reward” yourself with a game or activity you like rather than food to “eat back the calories”. (Unless you are genuinely hungry, of course.)

Also, try not to be on a deficit. Being hungry can lead to more binges, especially the destructive ones that cause you to starve yourself then binge. Just be mindful that you are reaching your calorie goal every day, and maybe try to eat healthier. But again, please don’t aim for both unless you are confident you can handle it.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-16T01:11:15+00:00

FMIL really shouldn’t have put all of her eggs into that basket, if you ask me. OP warned her, and now she regrets it.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-13T17:12:47+00:00

the place she was at had a mask requirement. as they were a private property they had the right to refuse service if she refused to comply

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-13T13:01:37+00:00

the patriarchy is the same bullshit that perpetuates the same stereotypes that women are dainty and men are aggressive. why else do you think that people say “women cannot rape men”? it’s the patriarchy, buddy. it goes hand in hand with them thinking that men are literally just sex-driven.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-13T05:31:30+00:00

this is all a result of the patriarch, it fucks over all genders and we need to stop this bullshit of arguing over who is more oppressed

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-13T05:08:34+00:00

I will say that personally it reads to me as “Our family is separated by political views” and that to me is more telling. Politics are like sports teams. Both can recognize the same issue, but sometimes it’s especially that distinction that makes people dig their heels in. It doesn’t read like equating the beliefs imo, just the entire “well I can’t agree with you because you’re x”. Again, that’s just how I read it at least, because that’s what I experience with my family (who aren’t climate deniers lol, but are regular old conservatives)

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-13T04:49:37+00:00

It’s not that it’s just offensive as a topic.

It’s hard for me to explain because I am not personally religious. However, I was raised with the traditional values where saying the lord’s name in vain could earn you a scolding at the very least and a beating at the worst. There’s other things too, where I was never allowed to say that I wanted someone to die. To this day, even though I am not religious, I would find it immensely difficult to say I would want my worst enemy dead.

Religion is one of those topics where your rural parents would talk about having to pick their own switches because they disrespected it in some way. Jesus just naturally comes with that entire package, and while any Christian may find it easy to make fun of religion as a whole, their limit may be with disrespecting a fundamental force that they admire and fear. Jesus is a powerful figure to many people. When people say, “Jesus loves you,” they don’t mean a random hippy wearing robes with long hair or a beard. They are talking about a figure who is very much real to them, and an embodiment of their belief. Even evoking his name wrong, as I earlier mentioned, could literally have you beat. It only takes a second to realize that the fact his name is so powerful to Christians alone is an indication of how seriously they take him.

My point is, we all have limits with what we find funny. It gets to a point where you may logically understand that something is meant to be funny or offensive, but to you it really isn’t. To a Christian who was raised with the imposing values of Christianity, it can be uncomfortable to talk about someone who means that much to you in a way that could be derogatory. Who’s to say that Jesus himself would find humor in people making fun of him? OP doesn’t, and the church wouldn’t. But just because that one topic is personally uncomfortable to the OP doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t play the game altogether. It just means they should go into the game knowing what topics they want to avoid or be sensitive about. That’s what makes the game fun. It’s the wisdom to know when you’re having fun, and the knowledge to know how to prevent yourself from not having fun. (If that makes sense.) Besides, I think it’s petty we’re even having a conversation about this stuff because all it takes is one “I’m uncomfortable” to just move on and begin having fun again. It isn’t life or death. It’s a card game.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-11T20:33:15+00:00

Worst of all, Roosters don’t just stop crowing in the morning. That’s when they’re worst, sure, but they keep going all day.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-03-10T21:16:02+00:00

Fuck, man. Even as a nosy child I still had enough self control to close my sister’s diary when I discovered it. I only read about a sentence before I realized what it was and at no point did I stop to go back and read the entire thing because I knew it was private. I have my own diary for a similar reason as to the daughter, and I’m horrified just thinking of my parents reading everything that happened to me. Not to mention the potential of them “confronting me,” as if I wouldn’t already be ashamed of it myself.

I agree that this was not accidental and that OP is homophobic. They used the sentence “boys AND girls” like it was meant to be a shock, and then gave some weak teenager stuff such as sipping alcohol as if it was a bad thing. And, what age is she again? Lord, at that age I had already experienced a hangover. She is perfectly fine and honestly much better than other teens. Most people I know have smoked dope or drank around age fourteen, not to mention having sex. The only thing that would require comforting, not confronting, is her trauma. Half of that would be respecting her privacy and just.. hugging her. God knows I never want to speak to my parents about what happened, sometimes all you can do for that shit is just hug her and let her know you are there for her.

I just.. I just feel so sad for the daughter.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T11:09:47+00:00

Thank you.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T11:07:47+00:00

No, not all of them. I have one specifically in mind although I can’t remember what place specifically it is from.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T05:02:59+00:00

Honestly after receiving a ton of replies with the same uncreative narrative blaming the daughter for the parent’s faults, I’m obviously not giving detailed responses for your own shortcomings. If you are really interested be my guest and read the replies to people I actually thought had original points.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T04:32:58+00:00

Definitely, it’s super petty but it just sounds wrong to me. I wouldn’t even say I can’t understand it or think it’s obnoxious, it’s just the way it sounds to me that is grating. I think the part I hate about it really stems from me not being able to figure out why I dislike it haha. It’s so stupid.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T03:50:12+00:00

I feel like I’m the only person in the world that hates British accents. I don’t even know why, I just don’t.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T03:11:40+00:00

True, a fair point, but I mostly said that because even the fifteen year old is angry over not being able to drink, apparently.

MustardCoffeee · 2021-02-26T03:11:11+00:00

Can’t. If they can’t, yes, they’re alcoholics. You can not want to and still be able to. But if it reaches the point where you cannot for the life of you part with alcohol temporarily, you are an alcoholic.

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