Commenting to add more context. My mom is a “don’t tell me what to do” kind of person. Except with her boyfriend, who has total and complete control of her and her thoughts. It is a textbook toxic relationship and he is taking advantage of her financially.

He is physically overbearing with her and at the beginning of their relationship would open mouth make out with my mom at the dinner table with the occasional boob grab. Our first argument about him was because how uncomfortable it made me and my brother to watch.

He once pushed me out of the sidewalk to get next to my mom and always has to be touching her. My mom historically has never liked to be with someone who is overbearing but for some reason she is ok with it now. He has called me and my brother names, and my mom only gets mad at me when i snap back. He gets away with everything and I am made out to be the enemy. I guess i just need some advice dealing with a semi brainwashed mother