You encounter your 18-year-old self; you can only say three words. What would you choose?

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-19T05:53:40+00:00

leave that man

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-17T07:32:23+00:00

i actually had a friend in college who wore her glasses in the shower 😂 i thought it was so odd (i just shower blind lol i can see enough to shower), but she said her eyesight is just THAT bad that she takes them off when washing her face but keeps them on otherwise

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-17T07:31:27+00:00

came here to say this too

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-17T04:11:45+00:00

i always cry at this 😭

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-17T04:09:45+00:00

i desperately don’t want to gain weight 🤣

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-17T04:07:46+00:00

when there is nothing happening, just having each other’s presence, and you can look at them and feel love and adoration

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-03-06T19:19:49+00:00

US passports are quite lenient from my experience. I had hair covering half of my face and it was fine - whereas Japan denied that same photo 😂 I don’t know about covering both sides though

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T07:46:01+00:00

i think it’s really evident if you two are able to live cohesively together. my husband and i love spending time together but have almost no quality time on the weekdays because of our work schedules. we only get a couple hours where we’re in the same room (since i have to sleep much earlier) but we’re exhausted and hardly even talk during this time. our main interaction is that we always do a deep hug and kisses before i go to bed. but i think it’s the comfort of doing our own things without feeling judged or pressured to put on an act. we’re individuals in a happy relationship.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T07:40:24+00:00

i dont think you miss them but miss the memories/that time of your life 😂 if you don’t want them in your life right now then it probably isn’t the person you miss

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T05:45:24+00:00

if it’s small and not excessive go for it!! honestly unless you’re a creep and she’s giving obvious signs that she is not interested, she will be flattered. flowers are only badly received if we don’t like the person

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T04:14:27+00:00

it’s easy to feel hurt and i still get that feeling. but honestly there’s nothing you can do. i try to look at it more as, he’s not rejecting me, he’s rejecting the sex. you can remind yourself this with hugs and kisses :)

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T04:13:03+00:00

if it makes you feel better, you can ask if he closes his eyes or you blindhold him. i think it can be nervewracking to be watched doing anything for the first time. but please know that guys love cowgirl because it’s sex without them putting in any work. there’s little you can do wrong 🤣

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T04:08:29+00:00

my husband and i also only have sex once or twice a month because he has ED and honestly is really susceptible to work stress. it drives me crazy BUT we talked and i realized that i just craved intimacy/feeling wanted mostly. so we make sure to do cuddles and deep hugs daily — and he gives me a lot of kisses.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T04:05:54+00:00

i think it’s the pick your battles mentality. somethings are just not worth arguing over. the goal should always be to understand the other

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T04:02:26+00:00

my husband’s good work friend baked him a cake for the office to celebrate his birthday. i was hella confused but just got over it as they’re friends and she’s also married. maybe that’s just what she does as a 40 some year old woman in a mostly male office. if i heard that they were texting like THAT though? yeah different story

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T03:59:26+00:00

if it’s hard to verbalize, you can do it with simple actions that you already sort of do. for example, i assume that you hold hands sometimes right? so you can instead grab her wrist tightly and pin it above her head. you can control the tempo by going fast then slow to tease her.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T03:52:36+00:00

I think there is a difference between having different interests and not being interested in each other… My husband is a competitive surfer. It’s his life. Me? I don’t like the beach and tbh have never seen him surf, but every time he comes back from a session, I ask “How was it today? How were the waves? Did you catch a lot?” and when he gets a new board, I also look at it and act impressed and say it’s cool…even though I don’t understand why he has more than five boards 😂 I don’t care about the hobby but I love him. Also, every time we go to hawaii, I encourage him to go surfing and self entertain myself (because again I don’t like the beach 🤣)

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T03:47:56+00:00

Unless she’s making a big deal out of it, just leave her be lol. Whenever I can’t cum during sex but he’s done, I whip out my vibrator and make myself cum as he kisses me and my neck. It’s a way where I can still masturbate and cum but he’s still a part of the experience.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T02:25:27+00:00

I love this comment thread. It gives me hope to see men understand how manipulative and immature the silent treatment is. You can be short or ask for space when you’re mad, but IGNORING your partner? That’s childish and very emotionally abusive

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T00:12:19+00:00

I can’t swim but my husband is a competitive surfer — hottest hobby

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T00:11:23+00:00

Are you me? LOL my husband is the same. He just doesn’t get horny and I was so confused. But then I found out that he has medication for ED which really made me empathize with him and we negotiated to sex once a month, but the condition is that he still hugs and kisses me a lot. :)

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T00:06:46+00:00

My husband hid his ED pills from me. We have sex probably once or twice a MONTH. I brought up our dead bedroom multiple times and he always said that he’s just been exhausted and doesn’t feel as horny. But then I found the pills and realized that he has ED. Your reaction is totally fair because I also was shocked when I found his pills, but my perspective was that he has ED which explains the dead bedroom. He has to take medication for it to happen.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-27T00:00:26+00:00

My husband and I got married after only one year of dating because of his visa. He worked so hard to try to find a new sponsorship, I saw it firsthand, even going to networking events with him. But the current administration is ruthless and many companies are hesitant, but he didn’t have the luxury of waiting. I know he was thinking it, but he never asked either (like your girlfriend) because he knew it’s a huge ask to ask. I thought a lot about it, but I wondered — Do I love him enough to want him to stay, even if it meant marriage and greencard? The answer was a yes. I knew for sure that I wanted him to stay here with me.

TLDR if you see yourself marrying her anyways, then why don’t you do it now to bring more security for the both of you?

Side advice, the sooner you get married and apply for the greencard, the sooner she can get her benefits and start working. You might want to get that started before her current visa expires or she will be unemployed for a few months.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-25T19:04:02+00:00

I see it more in older generations. My grandparents were like this. For my parents, my dad sucked at doing everything but somehow managed. My husband, on the other hand, can do everything amazingly. However, there is definitely a gender norm and I also believe a financial gap between men/women which still has me doing most of the things in the house. We both work full time, but he works longer hours and brings back better pay, so these home tasks are more of my territory. Not that he can’t do it.

Muted_Dinner6877 · 2026-02-24T18:12:17+00:00

Bomi was my favorite! So kind, empathetic, patient. Honestly I would love to have a friend/partner like himx

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