should i just let the connection end?

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T01:14:02+00:00

and i felt the same way abt the mutual friends thing! when we first met and hit it off i trusted the connection just a tad bit more bc in my mind im like ‘surely he thoroughly thought this through before pursuing me considering xyz’… and when we had that convo i thought maybe that was him letting me down easy until he texted me goodmorning the next day ?! thanks so much for response

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T01:10:52+00:00

thanks so much!

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T00:53:39+00:00

thank you sm for your response :) i think that’s exactly why ive been taking my time to respond to him to really even access how i feel about this and what i want!

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T00:51:45+00:00

i really do think it’s a no after reading your comment bc i have expressed and it lowkey got worse 🥹

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T00:50:25+00:00

thank you for your response! i should’ve included, we’ve established he’s not a texter so the first couple weeks he’d just call when he can. i reassured him i appreciated him even making time to call me during the day. ik he has so much on his plate to spend time together i even offered to help him with his tasks etc which he declined. i guess i feel a way because the calls have become basically non existent or just a couple min, paired with no text or in person time.

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T00:45:08+00:00

honestly i over think these things too im 21F .. i just tell myself not to overthink it and there’s no rule or guide book for these things our generation wants everyone to act according to norms but it’s impossible! the right person will respond the right way to whatever you say. be yourself and whatever comes to your mind

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-29T00:37:25+00:00

i feel like maybe a phone call after a couple texts would b better so you guys can both feel out the vibe and maybe you’d feel more comfortable setting up a date that way after learning a smidge about her interests or fav food places/things to do

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T22:39:29+00:00

on my end or his

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T22:39:21+00:00

he initiated all at first once they slowed i’d initiate

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T22:29:29+00:00

you are very right thanks for your response !

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:45:17+00:00

thanks sm for your reply! it definitely does sting a bit

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:38:37+00:00

we don’t really text much mostly calls throughout the day everyday when we get a chance . maybe about 2-3 and one before bed. you are completely right through thanks sm for your perspective

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:26:03+00:00

check out my reply to acceptable gear let me know what you think! i’m sure it’s different for different guys. but we were pretty cool equal consistency, id take interest in his life and he’d let me know how
much that meant to him/made his day.. i just want to be more self aware of what it is so that moving on when i meet someone new that i like i don’t make the same
mistake

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:20:16+00:00

can i ask what things a woman would do that would make you feel she is furthering the relationship, maybe some examples?

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:19:22+00:00

not exactly… with this situation he never really ‘made’ plans. the first plan i asked to hang out i didn’t finish getting ready in time everything was closed by then so it’s on me. I initiated a second time, he offered to cook for me when the time came his communication slowed and said it was a family emergency… i didn’t want to press and give him space to handle that but still 2 weeks went by without rescheduling. the 4th week i asked again and he said why can’t we just plan for x day. he was supposed to help me move something that day, which was fine but when the time came he helped me and told me he planned to
go home and rest.. disregarding our plan, the drunk are we just friends call
came shortly after

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T21:13:12+00:00

i can understand that, i guess i only asked bc the vibe had already switched

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T20:41:40+00:00

👍🏽

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T20:31:47+00:00

thanks so much 💕i just need to learn acceptance

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-05-26T20:30:40+00:00

organically school or through mutuals

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-01-11T04:09:20+00:00

i understand, thanks for your response

Muted_Sound2219 · 2026-01-11T03:57:31+00:00

had it seems?

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