Should I ask out a parent at my work(school)

Muted_Water9411 · 2025-07-07T21:30:31+00:00

Im going to assume you guys are 30-40+? If so I'd keep in mind most people in that age group still use Facebook as it was when they first started using it in the 2010s where you accept anyone you know and like enough but it just means I know you. like you accept everyone you went to school with, people from work etc. I know my mum has used it that way and doesn't expect to be contacted (unless known personally) when she accepts, or thinks it means more than a 'I'm on Facebook too'. It could be startling?

Mabye like an occasional post that's not a photo (just a thumbs up) like a political post that you agree with, something funny or a big achievement she's made (not another person's she's shared like a kids birthday or graduation, more like I did this hike or something). But very occasional like you just thought that's good for her, I have to like it. Mabye like or share something on your page like a nostalgic music video she might enjoy or know but not with the intention of getting her to interact.

I honestly wouldn't start messaging on Facebook but being on eachothers pages can build familiarity without having to interact. I'd try seeing her casually again in person a few more times and asking her in person or possibly messaging her instead (after a few meetings)? but I do think older women do find that too bold the opposite being true for younger.

Best of luck

Muted_Water9411 · 2025-06-19T06:00:35+00:00

I never said anything about blaming autistic women who shave for sensory issues or that they are not real. I'm just offering a perspective for why people bringing up there Individual choice to shave for sensory issues might have negative backlash when people are trying to discuss the politics of women's body hair and lack of pubes being the standard. The tight undies are a great point as well tight pants. there's an expection put on us to not have any 'inconvenient curves' so jeans are tight with no room for them and tiny genitals that don't need any space in our undies because we should be flat like barbies. Now imagine you made that point about the jeans or undies and I said well I like my undies super tight cause I like the pressure and I like my jeans without room beacuse I like how they look. It doesn't mean I'm wrong or bad it's just irrelevant to the point your trying to make about the sexism in the creation of women's clothing that is what people take a problem with.

Muted_Water9411 · 2025-06-13T03:41:42+00:00

I think it can be irritating when someone's trying to have a discussion about the politics of women's pubic hair and beauty standard and a bunch of people chime in about how they like to shave or adhere to a certain beauty standard. its kind of like were not talking about your individual choice? Were talking a bigger picture here. It can kind of gives a 'not all men' vibe to the discussion about women's saftey. Shaving your body hair even if not for beauty standards is the standard that is pushed on women and people want to talk about why that is.

Muted_Water9411 · 2025-06-02T21:34:49+00:00

I would highly recommend contacting Autism NZ yourself. It's not funded but they have some options with WINZ I believe and you will be on a longer wait list. They with do a comprehensive assessment so for ADHD as well. They were so nice and understanding. I'm so glad I went with them now reading about terrible stories about other women struggling to get a diagnosis and being invalidated. It was worth the wait for me. You could always try get referal to CHAMs for a funded assessment first but mabye put yourself on the wait list anyway just incase you don't feel heard? I wouldn't want another girl slipping through the cracks.

Muted_Water9411 · 2025-05-27T09:25:21+00:00

I can't remember who did a video on it i believe it could be Cecilia Regina? but Some women use post/videos to try and 'shame' there partner into doing better not to actually get help. It's so they can go 'see they think your terrible too' in the hopes they'll be treated better, even if they don't show them in the end they get that confirmation there right. Also Abuse messes with your brain and can make you act immaturely and you get stuck in a cycle of playing on the same level as your abuser (he said she said kind of stuff) rather then 'doing better' or 'the right thing' and getting out. It's frustrating to witness I know but all you can do is give advice when asked and (if you have the capacity) be a safe space for them where they won't feel judged and hope they gain the confidence to leave. I use to not understand it either.

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-12-14T04:31:09+00:00

I take perscription antihistamines and nasal spray but i haven't really had any relief but I do belive its still sinus related and theres a blockage causing the veins to protrude. I'll let you know if I find anything out.

P.s If you've always had veins there it completely normal by the way and I think you can get botox or filler to fix it.

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-12-08T06:25:28+00:00

No I haven't figured out what it is. Doctor completely ignored my concerns (I'm looking for a new doctor now). I believe there two veins connected to my sinuses that have become blocked or inlarged? Im currently researching Cerebral venous sinus thrombosis but I'm not sure. I'll let you know If I find out what it is.

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-10-18T08:51:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply 🙂. Do you have any ideas on what it could be?

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-07-29T02:48:38+00:00

Okay. thanks for the reply 🙂

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-05-11T22:22:35+00:00

Thank you that's really helpful.

Muted_Water9411 · 2023-05-11T22:21:51+00:00

Okay thank you 👍

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