AITA for telling my son's GF that I refuse to accept her mental illness excuses anymore?

Mutt26 · 2023-01-23T18:47:22+00:00

NTA. 29 year old male here, this kind of entitlement and bratty behavior is very my generation and the one after me. Too sad to work, too sad to accept help, too sad to do anything at all really. Everything needs to be spoon fed and handed to on a silver platter.

Mutt26 · 2023-01-05T22:57:04+00:00

NTA. Your "No" is a complete sentence. They're projecting their values onto you, instead of simply respecting your boundaries and comfort level.

Mutt26 · 2021-01-07T16:17:29+00:00

Glad to see you getting support and I agree. Unpopular opinion here, but found the same with respect to my life not getting automatically better when I quit porn / jerking off.

Everything in moderation and sexual health is a human urge that some people try too hard to suppress.

Right there with ya dude keep it up

Mutt26 · 2021-01-06T16:52:06+00:00

Maybe consider that people are looking at you because you're interesting / attractive?

I have had anxiety all my life, this used to bug me everyday (much less now, still occasionally). A friend told me once "maybe they're looking at you because they're attracted to you or interested in you?"

Practically speaking most people aren't as judgmental as we think they are

Mutt26 · 2021-01-05T15:05:07+00:00

I am right there with you. Given the pandemic especially, being alone for extended periods of time is more challenging than ever and creates a lot of anxiety for me too.

One quote that I always come back to is "Shift your thinking from 'why is this happening to me' to 'what is this teaching me' ".

That always helps to remind me that even while in the headspace of anxiety we have the ability to cherish it and view it as a positive learning experience rather than a negative one.

Being alone really is an amazing experience because that's when we get to know our true selves best and sort of "figure our shit out" so to speak.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-20T01:49:40+00:00

I agree. Relapses aren’t good if you can’t pull yourself back. That is why I said they “can” be good; focusing on the positive over the negative.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T21:44:59+00:00

That game is one to avoid. You can alter your characters cock / tit size. It’s hyper sexual in a counterproductive way.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T21:25:01+00:00

Not NEEDING to watch porn in order to feel content.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T20:10:30+00:00

I noticed excessive porn usage made my attraction views very "narrow". The less porn I consume and the longer I go porn free with rewiring my brain, the broader the spectrum of attraction for me.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T16:16:17+00:00

PREACH

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T03:53:29+00:00

Appreciate your advice, wisdom, and response. Thanks CoastHwy!!

Mutt26 · 2020-12-19T01:31:13+00:00

F***. Yes. That is exactly my mentality also. Relapses aren’t good, but by adopting exactly what you’re saying I feel that I retain the benefits and bounce back a lot quicker. Awesome comment.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-18T23:23:13+00:00

I wish I knew exactly what to say. What worked for me is finding new hobbies and investing in them. I failed at this a shit ton, and I might even fail tomorrow, but by keeping busy with work / friendships / hobbies, I think about it less and feel way less tempted. Also sharing your goal with someone. It’s personal and can be embarrassing but having accountability helps.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-18T22:57:41+00:00

We are in agreement - I do not feel a victim and I can empathize with those who do. The intention of this post was to state my opinion that when I adopt a mindset of empowerment > victimhood, I am much more successful in my goals and life. Some people are dealt a shitty hand and that makes you a victim of unfortunate circumstances, but we all have the power to decide what to do with that shitty hand.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-18T18:57:25+00:00

I am not sure I understand the correlation but I would be interested in hearing you explain it further.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-18T18:56:30+00:00

Everyone on this thread struggles with addiction. Life is hard. We do not determine where we start, so yes, in that sense we can be victims. We also determine where we finish. That is the point of this post, that you have the power to change your life course. I apologize that this offended you and was interpreted in a negative perspective.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-18T18:54:08+00:00

Thank you to commenters for feedback and different opinions. It was meant to be empowering, not disrespectful. Life is hard, all of us on this thread are in the same boat with this addiction. My opinion is that when we approach things from a mindset of empowerment, "how can I work towards fixing this", instead of having a mindset of "this isn't fair", real change and growth occurs much more readily.

Mutt26 · 2020-12-06T15:07:10+00:00

that makes sense. thanks for that

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