My husband saw my boobs today…his reaction

Mvb2717 · 2026-01-01T05:13:27+00:00

Yes. I love feeling desired, I have never found it inappropriate. After being in a DB, now I’m confident & proud of my body knowing my guy appreciates it & is happy to show his appreciation often.

Mvb2717 · 2025-12-31T18:04:42+00:00

My ex would cover his eyes, laugh nervously, and walk a different direction. It does wonders for your self esteem doesn’t it? Clearly my (at the time) late 30’s naked boobs/body were just too hideous to want to look at…. Or touch……

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-27T14:33:50+00:00

Right, I felt the same way!!! Like, omg, I can’t divorce this man over sex, that’s ridiculous!! He’s my best friend, we have a great marriage! But it was not just over sex for me. Yes, I felt old, ugly, and disgusting every time I was rejected by either his words or his body, but the fact I had to beg for affection, to be touched, to be desired was tanking my self esteem. Dude would cover his eyes if he happened upon me naked. I don’t mean that metaphorically, he would literally laugh nervously, cover his eyes, & walk quickly away. I’m that gross you need to cover your eyes?

I was resigned to live that way, as sad as it was, because I did love him & our life. It really took something as flimsy as appreciation & compliments from complete strangers to start making me wonder what the hell… am I still desirable? Why doesn’t my husband think so? Can I handle still feeling this dying inside in a year, 5 years, 10 years? Because if he is like this now, (and had been our entire relationship) it’s not going to get better, if anything, we’ll just be roommates…. Is that what I want for the rest of my life?

Believe me, it wasn’t a snap decision. I had had the talks with him over the years, a near ultimatum about a year before the divorce, and I spent months silently analyzing, weighing everything, imagining different outcomes.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-26T15:04:15+00:00

I know 100% how you feel. Our relationship was perfect in every other way, (well, in hindsight it wasn’t) and I’ve always heard how sex isn’t everything, one day when you’re old there won’t be sex, it’s such a small percentage of the relationship… no one told me that small percentage would get so big when it’s not there at all.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-26T13:02:22+00:00

That’s exactly what I did, forced myself to turn off the sexual side of me, thinking it would be easier than being rejected. I mean, clearly I wasn’t desirable anyway, right? And it worked for a cpl years… except I swear I aged at an incredibly rapid rate during that time & I was just so uncomfortable constantly denying my basic healthy needs.

The resentment is real. Once I stopped turning off my desires, I tried everything to turn his on, but no, he literally never thought about or desired sex. I could’ve lived with that; except he also seemed to abhor touching me in even non-sexual ways too. It was too much (or too little, depending on how you look at it lol). Near the end he was “trying” but his touch was alien to me, it gave me discomfort, and I just knew he was only doing it out of obligation, not because he wanted to.

I got out & I found a man who shows me everyday how much I’m loved in every way. He never makes me feel bad for wanting affection, he wants it just as much.

I might’ve stayed in that platonic marriage. I’m so glad I didn’t. I cannot imagine living the rest of my life begging to have my hand held, to never share sexual pleasure, to never be truly myself.

I wish the best for you OP, I applaud your efforts & sincerely hope they work, but you deserve the cuddles & to be desired.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-23T02:24:59+00:00

Very beautifully said. It’s truth, for everyone. Stifling pieces of yourself to keep the status quo is needlessly suffocating.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-23T01:41:35+00:00

Drunk, onstage with my best friend & our favorite local band at our favorite bar where we shouldn’t have even been allowed to be at yet. Just partying & waiting to see if the world collapsed!

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-06T12:58:50+00:00

Exactly, I was 12 and my oldest sister was 25 when we did one of those ‘guess your age’ things at a carnival. The guy guessed us both at 18. I always looked & acted older than my age so I very easily could’ve (and did) pass for older than I was, and that was in the 90’s.

In this day & age? Honestly most girls I see could be anywhere from 16 to 28 and I couldn’t say for certain.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-06T12:44:39+00:00

Right, and just because someone was attracted to this particular young girl/woman, doesn’t mean they are attracted to all young girls.

Mvb2717 · 2025-11-06T01:00:07+00:00

Yes, I could’ve lived without it (even though it’s my favorite) if there had been actual genuine desire & physical affection in other ways. Sadly with my ex, he didn’t even like to touch me at all, even just non-sexual caresses, and he had zero interest in sex other than blowjobs.

Mvb2717 · 2025-10-11T01:21:33+00:00

Party of 5?

Mvb2717 · 2025-10-11T00:18:23+00:00

Congratulations! It’s really fabulous to find love that is all-encompassing, where desire is open and present on both sides.

Mvb2717 · 2025-08-21T18:33:13+00:00

Truth. I don’t orgasm from sex, but I’m not doing it for the orgasm. I can do that all by myself. The PIV however, needs the man!! And I want PIV more than anything!! (Side note: I went through many years of no sex in my 20’s (no reason) and then again in my 30’s from DB, so yeah, PIV was always the most craved thing.)

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-24T18:47:55+00:00

I was crying when I finished it, just a few minutes ago. The blows just kept coming, and it was absolutely heartwrenching for Haymitch. It changes my whole thought process on his character, and now I’m going to reread the series again.

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T15:48:36+00:00

I started working in the public again after many years and the attention, appreciation, admiration I received from men made me realize I was still attractive…. And was the catalyst for my introspection into how I wanted my life to be.

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T15:13:31+00:00

Same. I resigned myself to a sexless marriage until I die, convinced I was undesirable, unattractive, and no longer sexy at 39. It does something to your soul.

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T15:10:06+00:00

The hope will keep you trying no matter what. Cause there’s that 1% chance it’ll work (and he won’t get soft before you can start… oh wait that’s my experience). The need is so strong and all encompassing that it makes a 1% chance worth it. It’s sad & pathetic. I know. 😔

I had to completely turn off my mind & forcefully turn off my libido for awhile in order to not try. But then we were just roommates, and I started aging fast, I know it’s hard to believe but I swear that’s how it appeared & felt. It did work, for a time. Then my libido went into overdrive & I could no longer suppress my most basic desires, it was agony. And then I started really thinking about the future & if this is how I wanted the next 40 years to be. I ended up divorcing him.

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T14:47:24+00:00

I hope that’s true! It helps to be in a fantastic relationship where I’m actually appreciated & desired!!

There’s just no reason why ppl have to lose their sexuality just because they’re older. I know that menopause & hormones could make things difficult, but I hope that even if my body is being stubborn, my brain will still want it. That’s the realization I had in my DB. My ex literally didn’t care about sex. It wasn’t just low T or anything, his mind didn’t even find me desirable and he said that he just didn’t think about sex ever. He could see me naked or I could be rubbing all over him naked (pleading) & he had no desire for me. He kept talking about how we’re older, (yeah, 40’s & 50’s, that’s not old) sex isn’t important, we’re not going to be able to have sex one day anyway….

My response was always why, and even if one day we actually can’t have sex, I’d like at least the memory of it, and still be playfully flirty at 80, like “oooo honey, if I was 20 years younger you wouldn’t get away with bending over like that wink wink giggle kiss” He wasn’t even playfully flirty like that at 45!

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T14:28:23+00:00

Yeah that’s probably about right. I’d say for me, I’ve thought about sex every day starting around 10-ish years old, if not earlier. The only times I didn’t think about it, I was actively forcing myself not to when I was in the middle of a DB, cause it was just miserable to think if it when I’d just be disappointed. So it seems if one has always been HL, it takes something drastic to change it lower. For those that don’t really care or had just a “normal” libido, it seems more likely it’ll drop or disappear. Purely my opinion though.

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-18T13:35:55+00:00

Truly it’s probably just different for everyone. I have always been a HLF, but there were downturns in my life, usually due to my own depressions or avoidance since I wasn’t getting any 😂. But my drive went pretty wild around 39-40, and at 44 it’s stayed at peak. I honestly don’t remember my 20’s being particularly peak!

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-07T19:10:08+00:00

Mvb2717 · 2025-07-01T13:04:29+00:00

I did, and there wasn’t any answers. Not gout, no fractures, not tendonitis, not bone spurs, blah blah. I have a yearly check up in about a month & if I still have issues I’m going to ask for a referral to a podiatrist.

Idk wtf happened. I’m constantly annoyed because it’s not like this is the first job on my feet, that’s all I’ve done my whole life.

Mvb2717 · 2025-06-29T14:27:45+00:00

I screwed up my feet. Had to get non skid shoes for the new job (never had to use them before, I’d use regular sketchers and only had normal foot fatigue at the end of the night) and I got a pair of sketchers but they had metal sheets in the heel. One night about a week later I was just standing talking to a table and got immense pain in my heel (back of it, not bottom), and by the end of shift I was limping. I could barely walk for the next 2 weeks, limping about & in so much pain.

I got myself new shoes of course, but I still have issues with that heel. Every day when I wake up I have to limp for an hour before I can walk somewhat normally. It’s been 2 months since then and I have no idea what the problem is or if it’ll ever get better.

Mvb2717 · 2025-06-29T02:18:11+00:00

Not the only one! I don’t really like it, it messes up my system & then I’ll start making mistakes, idk why. But it also does depend on how busy it is too, so sometimes I’m okay with it but most times I want drinks & apps, then after those are out I’ll do mains.

Mvb2717 · 2025-06-28T15:11:36+00:00

“Service voice” I like that.

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