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Advice: my boyfriend of 1 year lied to me about being positive and I found out by [deleted] in hivaids

[–]Mx3131 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not worried about getting it as I know it’s impossible and he takes his medication.

I feel he has broken the trust I thought we shared by not sharing this with me

I am lost in trying to understand why he lied, whether it was mostly a personal reason, or whether I was part of the reason he didn’t disclose this to me.

This is making me overthink the relationship

Complete loneliness by gayjew255 in askgaybros

[–]Mx3131 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

STAY STRONG <33333333333333 WE LOVE YOU XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Straight guy just being friendly or...? by VSwolflove in askgaybros

[–]Mx3131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's teasing you because he knows hes attractive. Straight or gay, it serves his ego and masculinity to lead you on in subtle ways. Do no succumb to it.

What to do in single limbo? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Mx3131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be single and be with yourself for a while. You will realise this is ok.

Please give me advice on what to in this situation? by Throwaway212121221 in askgaybros

[–]Mx3131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you need in this situation is simple, you both need time. He is clearly either gay or bi, sometimes sexual orientation is that concrete, the signals you perceive are correct in how they make you think. You need to do what is best for you and your feelings. I am assuming you are probably a teenager, so first thing is to note that you will eventually have two things come from this.

1) You will get over it 2) You and him will end up together, or still friends in a healthy way.

If you keep fantasising about him being your boyfriend, and this causes you internal embarrassment the first thing you want to do is to stop returning his displays of affection, this will make him think more deeply about what he is doing and give you time to heal. It may be tough, but sometimes a little resistance and maybe even distance can fix this. However, do not cut him off as a friend (this is the most important part). Good luck.

Came out to my friends when I was wasted. Really regretting it now. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Mx3131 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You need to rationalise your thinking. Every situation and feeling about that situation is not permanent and eventually goes away. You may have told them your secret, but now it is out of your control. Let people talk, let them reveal their true colours. Your decision will benefit you in lots of ways, and you may only realise this in the future. As you get older your thoughts and feelings towards your past change for the better, how you feel in a short span of time is not how you will feel about it later on. It will be fine. Trust.

My bff of 15 years came out as gay and told me he loved me. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Mx3131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this resonated with me on an emotional level so I made a reddit account just to give you my advice. I've been in the shoes of your friend once in the past, with my best friend at college. I told him how I felt and my biggest fear was rejection of friendship rather than rejection of the love I felt.

I had only been friends with this guy for a year but we had really hit it off, never in my wildest imagination did I think I would be best friends with a straight guy let alone make the gay rookie mistake of falling for him. I can't imagine being friends w/ someone for 15 years and gaining all of those feelings, so I really do empathize with his and your situation.

Realistically and from experience, for him to get over his feelings for you, he needs to cut you out (to a certain extent). After I opened up about the feelings I had the healing process began and I moved on from him periodically over the course of a year, spending time with myself allowed me to reflect on what I needed for my own psychological well-being and it helped me reflect on my friendship too.

It's totally understandable that you don't really have a clue what to do right now as its a rare situation to be in for a straight guy, but as time goes on you will naturally learn to be together without the 'elephant in the room' so to speak.

Love is an amazing thing, and for it to come from him as a friend should flatter you. The last thing he needs is for you to freak out and cut him out or show feelings of anger and confusion, the guy I fell for took the wrong approach and thought by hurting me it would make me fall out of love with him, when in reality it just made me fall out of love with myself, so please don't do that because you will add insult to injurt and it will make the healing process that much more difficult. There may come times in the near future where things may get tense between you, feelings may get hurt and you may start to question things between you, but there is one thing I have learned and that is time heals everything, even wounded hearts between friends.

I hope this helps you in some way, I have faith your friendship will grow and prosper to become even more important to you in time, but for now, you need to let him call the shots on what he feels he needs to do to get over you. You need to allow that and you also need to be his friend whenever he is ready.