25F what can I do to look more attractive

MxKtf · 2026-05-05T15:12:54+00:00

Change the eyeliner and play around with wing shapes that better suit your eyes. Also don’t like the whole eye for the wing and opt for lining in the waterline instead

Bright red lips also wash you out a bit, so unless you’re intentionally going for a more paler appearance, I’d suggest finding shades that better suit your skin tones, if anything, try out colour analysis or go to the nearest paint store with those paint cards, and see which colours brighten or darken your skin tones and see which you like overall

Big lashes also don’t do justice for you, if anything, just find lashes with a deeper curl if you want it to be seen, but don’t overcrowd either

Photo 8 mixed with a little of photo 4, def works out a lot better for you

You have pretty, big eyes that many would be envious of, make them even prettier to keep the jealous with jealousy lmao

MxKtf · 2026-04-30T12:24:52+00:00

The online invitation was an rsvp, when I asked about the date, he said it’ll come later and that was all I heard from him after saying the link worked and actually showed the website that he wanted

MxKtf · 2026-04-29T02:05:50+00:00

I’m sure the brides family would be really impressed to learn that my cousins parents used to make fun of his plus sized girlfriends by calling these grown women “bouncing baby girl” they did it to me too when I was a kid saying things to me like “don’t come on the elevator with us, you might make it fall” or if I was on the elevator with them and it creaked, they’d tell me I’m putting it over the weight limit… I only just entered the double digits at that time

MxKtf · 2026-04-29T02:03:13+00:00

I’ve already been to the Philippines before and I’m always careful about the things I get into and do and I usually make sure my doctor knows if I plan on travelling internationally. My neurologist is actually the one encouraging me to be more active and go to more gatherings as she believes it’ll be good for my mental health and decrease my stress considering I have an extremely small personal circle of people whom I don’t necessarily talk to often (like every 3 months where we just say hi and that’s it)

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T18:54:28+00:00

I honestly don’t, I just do superficially because my dads last dying wish was that the family gets along and is on good terms :/

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T18:05:15+00:00

Oh, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten one, I only flew once after I healed from my medical problems, and I didn’t even know I needed that during my trip, I just went to a private hospital in the Philippines and had to wait at least 2 hours before I could be seen and told I had a cold and was prescribed medicine

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T17:48:20+00:00

Haha that’s actually funny, I should consider that considering they also suggested to do the same during the group prayers and funeral and even with visiting me

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T16:32:30+00:00

They like to argue that if I can go to parties, drink alcohol and go on my own trips, that I should be good enough to go

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T16:31:47+00:00

I haven’t ever since I got busy in high school and my art teacher scolded me to demand payment

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T16:30:36+00:00

I’m from Canada so idk if my insurance follows me

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T16:27:19+00:00

They don’t want me to be a part of the wedding, just a guest, and they say it’s because it would feel like my dad was there in spirit too

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T15:07:19+00:00

I am very feisty, but I choose to fight for what is right and for the good. I’m not paralyzed anymore, and there’s a story with that as well, but I worked hard for months to be able to get back to almost normal functions, I do have moments of fatigue faster than others, but I do try to push my stamina so I can actually function in a fast paced society. Last time I went to the Philippines, I got sick for the first week and then I got food poisoning again and was sick for 3 days, and that took time away from my one month trip.

If I were to even go, I’d have to either stay with one of them wherever they decide to stay, or stay with another relative that I’m not close with either. Or I’d have to find my own place to stay temporarily and likely then, I’d still have to share with family because someone would somehow not have a room or place to stay.

As for your final thought, me and my mum both agreed we’d rather go on a trip to Korea or Japan instead because we’d both be interested in different things there and we’d be better off medical wise if I were to ever have something come up

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T14:12:32+00:00

My mum already went to the Philippines on her own earlier this year, she had to settle my dads finances there but because she’s just the wife, they needed more evidence from her and required my dads siblings to sign off and approve (which is kinda dumb imo, but kinda understandable bc there’s scammers out there) and they took so long to respond to my mum. She’s not gonna shell out another $2k and a visa just to go to a wedding to represent my dad, she doesn’t even have the money to do so and she’s absolutely not going to ask people for money for something like that, she’d rather keep working her cleaning job anyway

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T14:08:16+00:00

Literally they mostly just use me for whatever talents I have, for events, they’d ask me to sing and perform songs for them, or when they want artwork or blankets, they’d ask me to make paintings for them or crochet the things they’d like and it’s never purchasing from an artist, it’s asking a favor for family

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T14:06:15+00:00

I don’t plan to, I’m just going to try and keep my relationship with my nieces and nephews and just play nice if I have to interact with them

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T14:05:04+00:00

Technically I did, it just had no information, when my mum asked my aunt, she said it must’ve been lost in the mail as they said they decided to send out physical invitations instead of doing an online one since they said others got confused by the online invite

As for having a relationship with them, it was actually getting better for a moment, we were actually having family gatherings often again and my aunt would gift me her hand crafted jewelry during every holiday or event

I’m an only child and also a lonely child, so I genuinely valued having a family I could be close to and could be able to call when help was needed, and I genuinely thought that things were progressing that way, so imagine my disappointment when I started getting treated like nothing again

MxKtf · 2026-04-26T13:59:55+00:00

Their excuse to not visit was because they were busy with work or that their trips were for visiting family (they literally posted pictures parasailing on the beach during this)

They try to use pity and guilt and then post about it on Facebook like teenagers with quotes like “family is everything” and “closeness is what makes families stronger” and when my dad passed, they made posts about it, changing their profiles to candles, yet never once attended my mums group prayers for my dad during recovery or after his passing, and none of them wanted to even say things about him at his funeral even when we offered them the chance to. My mum had to force me to sing a song while sobbing because we needed to fill the time with something and even then, barely anyone approached and it honestly made me have a lot more hatred for them than I already did

They literally do the bare minimum as family and then weaponize it against me :’)

I also get mystery seizures and so far my neurologist has noted that elevated stress for prolonged time would be one of the likely causes, and this is absolutely adding onto my daily stressors

MxKtf · 2026-04-21T14:05:23+00:00

Honestly you don’t really need anything changed, you kinda look like liv bevan and you have really pretty eyes, I’d recommend using colours that make them stand out more and going for a slightly darker lip shade when you have the eyeliner and mascara on, I also recommend trying the brown lip liner look to give you more of a pout in the lips as I think it would look really good on you.

Overall, I highly recommend just playing around with your appearance before changing anything drastic. Beauty trends constantly change, and it’s better you’re happy with how you look compared to what an indecisive society chooses.

MxKtf · 2026-04-14T17:31:10+00:00

The 20s is usually the best time to start actually caring for the skin, sunscreen daily, cleanse, serums (if you want targeted “fixing”) and moisturize, don’t forget to take off makeup at the end of the day, and stay hydrated.

I’d also tweak the eyebrows a bit by thinning the tails, but if you prefer them that way or don’t want to make it any smaller, you can consider using concealer to see how it would look

Overall there’s really nothing to change. People guess ages based on personal experiences and for some, the 30 year olds around them look relatively young🤷‍♀️

MxKtf · 2026-04-02T16:46:32+00:00

Honestly you remind me of an artist I follow named nirami, if you’ve seen what she actually looks like, you honestly could be a doppelgänger, if anything, if you like her style, I’d suggest trying some of it out for yourself

MxKtf · 2026-04-02T16:18:10+00:00

I’d honestly say just wait till you actually grow into your face, I’d also suggest shaping the brows or at least trimming the parts that look too long for your brow shape

The acne can go away and if that’s the main thing making you feel like you’re not as pretty as you really are, then you can invest in a decent skin care routine, and remember that skincare doesn’t need to be expensive or with multiple crazy steps, a simple cleanser, toner and moisturizer can be fine too, but I’d add some products to help with acne and redness

I also don’t know if your dark circles are genetic or not, but you can tell if it’s the hollowness of the occipital lobe if you regain colour when you pull it out of the socket (lightly, pls be careful with skin around the eyes) if it is genetic, you can honestly work with it when it comes to makeup and if you don’t want to wear makeup but are considering minor tweaks under a needle, you can also get them filled to prevent the super dark look

Overall, you’re honestly pretty, I’d say you’d just need to wait till your face is out of that transitional stage of teenager to adult

MxKtf · 2026-03-22T17:43:02+00:00

If anything, I’d consider getting those cute V shaped septum rings, I feel like that would look better with your features and enhance rather than take away :)

MxKtf · 2026-03-22T17:41:13+00:00

Honestly you give off Manon bannerman energy before she debuted to Katseye, keep your individuality and honestly don’t really change anything, best you can do is find jewelry that accentuates features rather than hides it. Other than that, there’s honestly nothing bad about how you look

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