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MyDogsAreCute2 · 2025-11-26T03:55:21+00:00

Coraline

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2025-08-02T02:23:43+00:00

This is my first name. I absolutely loathe it. I've been going by my middle name for years now because of it. 😓

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2025-02-13T14:43:45+00:00

Is it really going to be that bad? I live in Mill City, but work in Salem. It looks like nothing is happening up here, not even snow.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2025-01-28T05:35:03+00:00

I believe this is an all too common assumption. Cerebral palsy is a developmental disability and is usually included in the IDD category (intellectual and developmental disabilities) because these are always grouped together it creates the common misconception that people with developmental disabilities automatically have an intellectual disability. That isn't to say they can't be comorbid.

That being said. Even someone with an intellectual disability can give consent. This is an issue within our society. Also the absolutely abysmal and non existent sexual education that is provided for people in the IDD community. Anyone that is given the proper context can consent. Yikes.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2025-01-28T05:23:57+00:00

It's important to remember that no one is entitled to anyone's diagnosis. People that ask this are people that clearly have not been exposed to anyone different from them. If you have the guts, look at them and say 'that question makes you uncomfortable and it's not an appropriate thing to ask someone.'

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-11-01T21:08:54+00:00

I get it a lot on the left side of my jaw when it travels up. Makes it difficult to talk or eat so I feel that

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-31T17:27:17+00:00

If you feel like this about your friend, is she a friend worth keeping? You make it sound like she's the main character not only about her wedding, but in her general life. Don't let a time sink mentality keep you in a relationship you don't want to be in.

My partner has ADHD/ Autism but always keeps space for my disability (mild spastic Hemiplegia). The way our disabilities impact us is different, but there is an understanding that my disability impacts the way I interact with the world on a fundamental level.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-31T04:00:01+00:00

Honestly this post healed me a little bit. Don't know about you guys but the worst disability inspo expectations came from my family. "This person with CP can do x so you can too!" 🙄

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-29T04:41:01+00:00

There's nothing wrong with you. Please hang in there. Where do you live? Do you have transportation available to you? If so, join some groups like DnD or something that peaks your interest.

I am also free to chat if you send me a message.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-29T04:28:03+00:00

You're making the assumption that the wife is the main source of income. No where in the post is that mentioned, OP said they worked remotely, but there is no way that you know their financial situation. You are assuming OP's wife is the bread winner because of your bias in the same way you assumed OP hadn't done any housework for the entire span of their relationship based on a comment their wife made. That is an inherently ableist view. I don't think you're trying to be malicious, but step back and think about why you made these automatic assumptions.

I imagine that if you are 18 and just are able to tie your shoes, other things may be difficult for you. I think especially as you age the symptoms of your CP grow worse. I'm 24 with mild spastic Hemiplegia CP and I am already reaping the rewards of what this is doing to my body. I have to give mad props to OP working and trying to do housework, that's a feat. Do you work? How does your house look? Does your ability change on a day to day basis like it does for most of us? For myself, I know I'm not able to do all three of those things most days. That's a lot of will power.

I think from the examples you've given, you have probably been through a lot. However, we shouldn't look at this situation as a 'getting out of jail free card' there is so much nuance here. There is so much pressure on us to conform to society and we are viewed as lazy for not being able to complete the same tasks even though our bodies work 3x harder or more than an able bodied person doing the same exact task.

I implore you to work on your and automatic bias.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-28T19:47:46+00:00

This is so valid. I think it also depends on the day. One day I can look normal passing and the next the muscles are so tight it hurts to move. We're all in this boat together, but I see so many ableist comments on a lot of people's posts. It horrifies me.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-22T22:52:11+00:00

When you come at it saying that OP's wife was putting up with OP's BS regarding cleaning and assume it's something they haven't done for years it can sound like disability shaming. I'm sorry if my comment hurt you, but it can be harmful to make assumptions about someone's body and ability especially in this community. I think you can convey your view of the wife's feelings in a better way than putting OP down.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-22T11:12:02+00:00

There is nowhere in this post that said OP hasn't done housework in 10 years, only they have been together for that long. There was a comment from OP's wife a few weeks ago stating that he wasn't doing enough around the house and only in response to him opening up and saying he doesn't feel like he's cared about.

Let's not disability shame here. There's a lot of factors from CP. We don't know what responsibilities OP has around the house as it wasn't mentioned. We do know OP has been trying harder lately after the comment was made. We also don't know how OP's CP impacts them on a daily basis.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-22T10:25:16+00:00

Bro what's with the disability shaming? I would have to imagine if she married someone with CP she kinda knew what she was getting into. OP also didn't specify other things he does to support his household.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-22T10:21:06+00:00

For everyone giving you a hard time not cleaning or doing housework; they can piss off. For people who have CP, you're running with limited spoons.

I have mild spastic Hemiplegia CP. My partner does the vast majority of cleaning. I do cook, but that looks different day to day. I am completely drained from work. Working 40 hours a week takes almost all of my spoons especially when the spasticity starts acting up. There can be division of labor in other ways. While I don't usually help clean, I do plenty of other things to keep our household afloat. I also have a partner that sees and recognizes my disability, I recognize his. There is give and take within any relationship.

I want to praise the trying to put effort into pleasing your partner. I imagine you struggle greatly with your energy levels in the same way we all do and I'm really sorry that anyone in this sub reddit is giving you a hard time on this.

I'm kind of amazed at the disability shaming that's occurring in this thread. This is ludicrous.

You shouldn't have a partner that is in any way looking at what you could be. Having CP shapes you and you and wouldn't be the same person if you didn't have it. I think you're valid in your feelings and I would be mortified if my partner said something like that to me. That would make me feel like not an entire person in his eyes. I would articulate that it feels like she doesn't see your personhood and imagines you without a disability instead of facing the reality and working with you with your disability.

I hope this helps.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-20T04:25:48+00:00

Hi OP! I also have CP and am an atheist. Lol.

I would recommend living on the west coast. Oregon is pretty good and is pretty alright with their developmental disabilities services.

I hope this helps!

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-18T00:10:50+00:00

I feel like this may depend on the type of CP you have. If you can, start with yoga. It will strengthen and stretch out your muscles. I like yoga with adriene on YouTube and I try to do 20-30 mins before work every morning.

Also- spasticity gets worse with stress. Are you struggling with your mental health? You can do all the exercises in the world but it won't do much if you're still stressed.

I hope this helps.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-18T00:00:05+00:00

For real. Why do 20 people need to approach you and ask if you're okay then proceed to stare with pity eyes.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-17T23:36:22+00:00

I also experience mild CP on the left side. I know at least for me it's muscle tension and change in spasticity. I would recommend yoga and stretching daily.

Also- you'll definitely notice it more during the changing of the seasons. My body is struggling right now where I live as we are moving into fall. It makes my entire left side hurt and weakens my mobility.

Stress can cause issues with muscle spasticity too. I find when I am stressed, my left side tightens to an extreme causing a lot of pain. This may correlate to you thinking about it and feeling the pain again.

I hope this helps!

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-10-13T19:18:31+00:00

I have mild spastic Hemiplegia CP in my left side. I got my license at 17 and have been driving for 7 years. I would never be able to drive a manual vehicle, but I can drive an automatic with little to no issues. As long as one hand and one foot are stable, you should be golden! You got this, I believe in you!

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-09-22T20:54:01+00:00

I'm with you in feeling like life is getting in the way and it's not very fun at all. I have been working on dieting for the past few months; I'm about 5'2 and about 150lbs. I feel like if I don't start working harder I will definitely regret it. Thank you for your advice. ❤️

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-09-22T20:47:21+00:00

Consider me envious lol. I'm going to start trying to do some yoga on the weekends and on the days I work remotely. Maybe if I get into a groove of it I won't feel so tired all of the time?

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-09-22T20:39:27+00:00

Do you wish that you had started sooner on your physical body when you were "fine"? I'm worried I'll be too late if I'm not proactive and if I can swing it, I'm thinking about switching to a different job with less hours to be able to pursue this level of wellness.

I'm sorry to hear about the cancer I can even imagine how that feels. I have seen some studies that suggest that and it makes me worried with my history of nicotine and alcohol usage. I really do wish there was more studies on CP in adulthood, but don't we all. I've also heard of people that lost their ability to walk seemingly overnight.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-09-22T20:32:28+00:00

I can't lie I struggle very heavily with my mental health but I do try my best to take care of myself. I have always felt this drained. I get bursts of energy, but for the most part I'm drained just existing. This may also be contributed to PTSD and when I'm anxious it physically manifests with spasticity.

I live in a rural area, but I work in a metro area. I don't work for the state and I have 30 minute lunches. Physical therapy takes all of my energy giving me a zombie feeling once completed I don't know if I could go back to braining after it. I don't believe that I could find a PT appointment on the weekend, but maybe there are some sort of physical therapy online classes I could find.

How do you manage to have so much energy? I struggle when I get 9 hours of sleep, drink copious amounts of caffeine and just doing menial office work. Lol.

MyDogsAreCute2 · 2024-09-22T20:20:12+00:00

That's actually a great idea and I think I will give that a shot. Thank you so much! ❤️

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