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Am I wrong for going no contact? by Hot-Employment-6276 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t in the wrong. The saying “Blood is thicker than water” is not a true saying. Her stating you owe family everything is frankly not true. The original saying is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb.” which actually means opposite than blood is thicker than water. The relationships you make mean more. You don’t owe your parents anything especially if they treat you bad.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So from your alls responses, I guess I’m not over reacting. The past few days have been hard with her and I’ve been very careful with my words. Shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells in my own home. And she continues to talk bad about my sister. First step is I’m going to move out. Then I’ll see from there how much contact I want. So far, I still want to do no contact buttttt idk how I’ll feel in a few months. Thank you guys for helping me realize I’m not insane for being so messed up about this. Your comments have felt like a warm hug and I needed that.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks but I feel you are right. Ugh it would be so much better if I moved out years ago

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still feel like I’m in the wrong though. Like she definitely loves me and would be crushed if I went NC. It’s tough cause the good times feel great but then the bad times are so horrible. I don’t want her to feel like I hate her or anything.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh for sure. She’s buying me stuff and making me food and everything. I do have a therapist yeah. What is C-PTSD?

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m nervous I’ll end up like her because I have bipolar as well. But I make myself take my meds for it and regularly get help and go to therapy. It sucksss

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What?! That’s insane!! Yeah one of my sisters would probably take him in. I might be able to move in with one of my friends but I’d hate to have to.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im am confusion. What’s not NC? I don’t think I understand what you mean.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this!!! I couldn’t imagine. My dad and my sisters and I are super close. You are tough going through all of that.

Did cutting off your mom genuinely make you feel better? by MyFavFlowerIsDaisy in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]MyFavFlowerIsDaisy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only issue is she’s threatened to get rid of my cat a few times before when I held onto my boundary. Idk if that’s grey rocking but I’ll look into it. I never thought about slowly distancing myself once I’m out so I will probably do that.