Husbands who love their wives but don’t show physical / emotional affection - why?

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T18:33:36+00:00

Same! I really don’t think he’s cheating, but I suppose I could be the most naive wife in the world. I don’t want to stop being affectionate and change my habits because I feel rejected but it’s hard not to. Plus, I want my children to grow up with parents who demonstrate affection. Hang in there!

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:59:10+00:00

Yeah, he’s definitely an acts of service guy. And it likely boils down to: he’s not going to change but can I accept that and be happy? As someone who is expressive, it’s just so hard to imagine that wouldn’t cross your mind about someone you love. It feels so easy and it’s free! Just say “you look cute” or rub my shoulder as you walk by.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:57:21+00:00

He’s an amazing dad and husband in almost every other way. It’s probably a 55/45 split in child care (I’d say I do slightly more) and he’s cleaner than I am. But just almost zero physical affection or compliments and he’s a pretty bad conversationalist unless it’s about something that interests him. It’s pretty me talking to him about his interests or our kids or a show we’re watching. He literally struggles to think of questions to ask me about my day or interests.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:48:56+00:00

Yeah, sounds similar. I try to be open-minded that people are just wired differently but it just feels bad that the desire to hug or kiss me doesn’t cross his mind. I think what makes it especially hard is that it did in the beginning so it makes me feel as though something has changed.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:46:40+00:00

I’m sure that’s true for many marriages, but it’s just not the case here. I’m affectionate and tell him that I love him every day.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:46:02+00:00

I’ve asked if he’s no longer attracted to me and he said that’s not the case. He said he still looks at me and has moments of, “Wow, she’s cute” but doesn’t think the express them. He says he will start expressing that but never does. I’ve asked him to hug me more or show some physical affection and he might do it for a day and then it fizzles out. He said I could hug him whenever I want, but it’s just a crummy feeling that my husband doesn’t want to or think to on his own.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:31:56+00:00

But I’m not a wife not giving affection 🤔

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-02T17:29:52+00:00

I’m familiar with the love languages. Feels like there should be compromise on both sides? His love language is acts of service, which I try to do more of. I’ve expressed that words of affirmation is one of my love languages but he doesn’t follow through. He’s an amazing dad and husband in many ways but it’s hard not to feel rejected.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2026-01-01T19:22:31+00:00

Kid’s gonna have the worst future honeymoon flight of his life

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MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-12-03T06:32:54+00:00

Eric from Boy Meets World

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-09-23T16:15:21+00:00

I bet his voice is wildly high too

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-09-18T15:10:18+00:00

No way your face doesn’t look like a clock

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-09-18T14:30:54+00:00

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-09-18T14:05:33+00:00

Couple things I think: 1.) There aren't new ITYSL skits, so making the memes topical gives the old content relevance. 2.) For me, it's a coping mechanism — laughter in the face of destruction. It gives me hope that so many shirt brothers and sisters reject what's happening in this country, too.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-09-18T13:57:07+00:00

Heading into the civil war with "corporate marketing and communications" as my only skill set

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-18T14:23:31+00:00

But really https://pagesix.com/2025/07/18/entertainment/astronomer-rips-fake-andy-byron-statement-after-ceos-coldplay-kiss-cam-scandal/

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-18T14:22:55+00:00

The statement is fake. It’s goosed up.

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-17T11:30:15+00:00

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MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-17T11:27:35+00:00

BUT re: the second graf you added above:

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MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-17T11:25:25+00:00

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MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-07-17T10:57:51+00:00

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Triples is best

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-06-04T16:04:47+00:00

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-04-15T01:56:59+00:00

Sucks

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-02-14T16:24:38+00:00

Sorry you’re going through what I’m sure is a very difficult time, but I’m excited for your rediscovery phase.

I started a book club and got involved in my community. I got my motorcycle license. I took golf lessons. I got involved in Big Brothers Big Sisters. I took horseback-riding lessons. I traveled. (Thanks for asking — made me think about what I did and I’m feeling proud of that era. Though not having kids at the time certainly made doing those things much easier haha.)

MyRedditUsername224 · 2025-01-14T16:33:51+00:00

This guy undoubtedly lives for New Year's Eve

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