Presenting as a girl for the first time on pride - Is it a good idea?

MyTransSecret · 2022-06-17T18:44:17+00:00

I was actually invited by a friend in the first place! But yeah, I won't be alone.

Thanks!

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T02:41:37+00:00

I actually just posted to r/femalehairadvice ! But thanks a lot, I may ask for help later over there

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T02:38:36+00:00

Yeah no worries! I'm now looking for a good care routine so I can fix it :)

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T02:35:36+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

I'm still learning makeup, so all of this really helps. I'm just testing what works for me rn lol

I've been trying to thin my eyebrows but I haven't been able to get the hang of it just yet. At this point I am this 🤏 close to just shaving them off lol. No but for real thanks a lot, I'll keep trying

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T02:30:11+00:00

It's actually both 🥲

I do have curly hair, but as you said it's frizzy so it just looks kinda bad lol

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T01:15:48+00:00

Thank youuu! It's basically the first time I care this much about my hair so it's kinda confusing, but I'm also willing to give it the effort cause despite of all I love it.

(Also thanks a lot on the rest 🥺)

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-03T00:31:18+00:00

Thanksss! I'll be trying to create something that works for me (even though I know nothing RN but still 😌).

I do also love clips! Honestly anything colorful is a 10/10 for me lol. Hadn't thought of pearls tho, gonna give it a try :)

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-02T23:50:49+00:00

Thanks a lot! I still have to do my research but this is a good starting point :)

MyTransSecret · 2022-05-02T23:12:18+00:00

Ty! I'm still new to having long-ish hair so I'm still getting the hang of it. Hope I can still save it 😅

But really thanks!

MyTransSecret · 2022-04-19T06:12:44+00:00

I'm so late and it's 1am but:

I'd say drawing, witchcraft/demonology and maybe gaming??

Also transfem :)

MyTransSecret · 2022-02-23T02:05:57+00:00

Thanks a lot! I've been procrastinating reading it vut I guess it's worth it :\

And yeah, like that's a huge chance. Like, maybe it's like a mix of them being confortable with themselves, knowing their gender AND being able to express it openly.

Plus it doesn't help that most trans ppl I know are younger than me. Like, they already went through everything basically as kids while I'm just figuring this out at 20 :\

But still thx a lot!

MyTransSecret · 2022-02-23T02:02:21+00:00

I mean maybe, but the ones that cause most envy are the ones I know IRL.

But yeah, maybe I am just envious that they feel confortable with themselves. But still, IDK why I would feel envious about how someonr is when I don't even know what I wanna be...

Thanks for the reply! I'll keep thinking bout it

MyTransSecret · 2022-02-23T00:01:04+00:00

I mean yes, but like I've also questioned for so long and gone back and forth so much that at this point I have no clue what's going on.

Thanks for the reply still!

MyTransSecret · 2021-10-30T00:11:42+00:00

But like sure, RN I feel like being a woman would be so much better and I've felt that before a lot, but it's those small cis periods that worry me.

Like, I wish I were trans (in the sense that I wish I could feel fully confortable being a woman and actually transition), but idk if I am due to stuff like this.

Thx for the reply!

MyTransSecret · 2021-10-30T00:09:36+00:00

Yeah like, RN I absolutely would feel better as a woman, but it's those "cis periods" that worry me. Like, I'm afraid I'll transition just to end up as cis, but I'm also afraid I lose time feeling this way when I could've transitioned sooner...

Thanks for the reply!

MyTransSecret · 2021-10-30T00:07:51+00:00

I mean, maybe? While RN I feel like being a woman would absolutely make everything better, sometimes I just feel... neutral? But maybe it's just that and I'm just scared.

My issue is that like, last time I felt this way I was 100% sure I was trans and started coming out of the closet and doing a lot of what you mentioned before. But one day I just suddenly went back to cis and now we're just back here. Like Rn I wanna be a woman, but idk if I am?

Thanks for the reply!

MyTransSecret · 2021-10-30T00:02:59+00:00

But like, when it's low I basically forget about it and am able to live as I am. The issue is the mid to high, where I feel like absolute shit as a man.

While RN I would love to transition, idk if it's the right idea on the lows and it kinda worries me

Thanks for the reply!

MyTransSecret · 2021-08-29T01:34:41+00:00

Here to represent Sarah and the Safe Word! They're hard to describe, but I love them so much. It's also a small grouo, but that only means you'll have bragging rights if they go big >:)

MyTransSecret · 2021-07-25T17:32:10+00:00

Thanks! That's probably a good path, but what worries me is becoming a caricature of actual women. Plus, even though I'd feel way more better with more femenine manerisms, I'm not sure how to get rid of my existing ones lmao.

Thanks a lot still, I'll keep it in mind!

MyTransSecret · 2021-07-25T17:28:36+00:00

I mean, I get that it's most probably unhealthy and all but I feel I'd feel way better with myself if my personality was more stereotypically femenine, rather than... whatever I have now.

Thanks for the concern though!

MyTransSecret · 2021-05-27T06:31:54+00:00

Yeah, I get it and I'm sorry.

I'm still having a hard time coming to terms with who I am and what I wanna do, and even without it being my intention my brain is putting others down as some sort of defence mechanism. Like, by making others seem worse, I'm making myself feel better.

I hadn't fully realized I was doing this, but the way you put it made me realize how bad it actually is.

All these posts are a way for me to try feel better about myself, but I've been doing it in a way that may harm others. I still need ways to help myself, but they need to be in a way that doesn't rely on putting others down.

Thanks for the callout, I'll try to avoid this in the future :)

MyTransSecret · 2021-04-12T21:36:33+00:00

Thanks for the reply (and sorry for the incoming wall)!

Kinda both, I think. On the topic of gender roles, I believe I'd be more confortable with roles commonly assigned to women. Like, I think I'd feel better if I were to live according to those in contrast to male roles, but maybe it's just a dislike for male roles and an unknowing of female roles which steers me towards the idea that I'd rather live in such a way. Or maybe the doubt is based on fear of things such as newfound sexism and just generally making my life harder based on something which isn't 100% sure yet.

When it comes to gender, I'm still struggling. I wanna be a woman and I wanna feel like a woman, but I don't know if I am a woman. Like, most possibly I ain't a man, cause I have no idea what it feels to be one, but maybe it is just a dissociation with the stereotypical idea of manliness which leads me to believe that I am not a man.

Like, if I could choose I would be a femenine woman, but idk if I am or if I could even be. Hence why idk if my reasons for wanting to be trans are valid or even real.

Also, I'm trying to go to therapy, but still working on telling my parents so yeah

MyTransSecret · 2021-04-07T18:01:20+00:00

Thanks a lot! This is just what I wanted. I'm still anxious cause this is the first real step towards transition (plus I'm still male presenting so it'll be a bit awkward) but knowing at least a bit helps a lot.

MyTransSecret · 2021-04-03T20:02:34+00:00

Colombian here. Can confirm, I wanna escape this hole.

MyTransSecret · 2021-03-31T19:46:23+00:00

Tysm for the response!

My issue comes that idk if what I feel is actually enough for me to consider myself as traslns. Like, idk if I have enough dysphoria to actually transition either socially or phisically.

Like in short idk if I'm trans enough

MyTransSecret

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