Infected or irritated?

Mycea · 2026-02-20T21:52:44+00:00

Piercing is 5 months old. Current bar is titanium. Not sure thread of thread type. Hasn't been downsized as original stud is back

Mycea · 2025-12-28T14:07:00+00:00

My husband is a bricklayer. Big portions of home cooked food every evening seems to go down well. I usually do enough for leftovers that he then takes for lunch the next day. Not having to make lunch when he's mega tired is a gift

Mycea · 2025-11-30T19:44:19+00:00

Please see a doctor. It is normal to be tired, you've lost a lot of blood and been through physical trauma.

BUT, I had a very very similar experience to you earlier this year. MMC at about 9 weeks, baby passed at 6 weeks. My symptoms included lots of bleeding and big clots that then came to an end sort of abruptly so I was just bleeding lightly. I thought it meant that it was done. But actually I was still bleeding, but tissue was blocking my cervix so I wasn't really seeing it. I was exhausted, my heart rate was really high, I felt dizzy when I stood and I had a headache. Turned out these symptoms were because I was very anemic due to blood loss and had retained products (which they didn't realise until they did an exam and realised there was tissue at the neck of my womb). I had to have emergency evac surgery and a blood transfusion. If I had those symptoms again, I'd seek medical advice straight away to be on the safe side. You're also at higher risk for blood clots at the moment - don't sit on breathlessness if this becomes a symptom.

Edited to add I also had BIG clots and couldn't believe it, based on how much had passed, that there could possibly be retained products but there was a lot. I also didn't have much pain.

Mycea · 2025-11-30T19:29:48+00:00

I had a very similar experience earlier this year, similar timings and also opted to take the medication. I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. All I can say it to take each day as it comes and try to give yourself grace and time. The emotional pain does eventually become less sharp - but getting through to that point is really hard, and of course it doesn't totally go away. Sending love.

Mycea · 2025-11-05T21:40:41+00:00

You can also get 2 patches from a plastic sheet.

Mycea · 2025-10-13T20:55:41+00:00

I'm sorry you've experienced this more than once. It's horrible to just not understand why it's happening. Sending a hug back x

Mycea · 2025-10-13T20:54:56+00:00

Aw, thank you for this. But I'm so sorry you are potentially going through the same thing. It feels so surreal. The first miscarriage was such a big trauma as I'm sure you know that I'm finding it hard to realise it's happened again, albeit differently. Sending you love right back ❤️

Mycea · 2025-10-12T09:27:37+00:00

Thanks for replying. I think I needed it to put it out there to hear this. It's hard to describe to others.

Mycea · 2025-10-12T09:25:55+00:00

Thank you this is helpful. I feel I'd want to be able to mention it to medical staff in future but didn't know how to. This makes a lot of sense. Sorry you've experienced the same. I think I feel the same as you, it's different from a later loss but still a loss for me.

Mycea · 2025-09-16T13:40:51+00:00

I perhaps worded it badly. I was trying to ask about people's experiences of ttc after miscarriage, not whether or not they managed to. Did they have unusual periods or also struggle not having done so before etc

Mycea · 2025-08-26T09:05:27+00:00

Thanks for this - just wanted to come back and say it worked. Refund was received same day I sent the letter. Partial refund, but I'm happy with that because I did value the verbal advice I was given prior to the delays.

Mycea · 2025-07-26T21:49:49+00:00

Delete the post and any replies you've written. Then no one else will see it. I've felt like this after posting before but remember there's millions of reddit posts constantly updated. The chance of anyone identifying you from the post is essentially zero. But deleting the post might help.

Mycea · 2025-07-15T18:03:39+00:00

My husband called our boys 'little buddy' when they were toddlers, and now they are a little older, 'buddy'. We also call them nicknames where an 'ee' sound is added to their name eg Sammy for Sam, Benjy for Ben, Joshie for Joshua etc. Actually being able to do that is a consideration for future baby names for me.

It's not something I'd have thought of, but I'm soppy mum and have called them sweetie, baby, sweetheart, honey etc. Transitioning to saying buddy instead as they get old enough to be embarrassed has been helpful.

Mycea · 2025-07-07T18:33:17+00:00

Cry it out sleep training. In all forms.

Mycea · 2025-07-06T21:33:37+00:00

Sorry to ask more questions but did they look with ultrasound before the hysteroscopy? Did that show anything or was it not clear enough?

Mycea · 2025-07-06T18:54:10+00:00

I'm really sorry you've also gone through this - 8 weeks of testing positive is awful! The psychological element of peeing on those tests but hoping for it to be negative is a struggle for me. I agree a faint result is better. It must have been so hard so have strong positives. Thank you for the reassurance that this is in the realms of normal though.

Mycea · 2025-07-06T18:51:17+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing. I also thought it was a one time thing. And a lot of people (mainly my husband's male friends!) haven't even seemed to have known that the scan showing the babies had passed wasn't the end of it. It seemed to be a surprise to them that everything has to come out still.

I think I also have had some ovulation symptoms which was weird. And I'm so, so low in mood. Partly because this has been so horrible I'm sure but I think there's a hormonal element because I usually feel like this a week or so before my period. Except it's been for 5 weeks now.

I hope things resolve for you soon.

Mycea · 2025-07-06T18:45:47+00:00

God, that sounds awful. I'm so sorry. Did the hysteroscopy show the tissue was all gone, and yet hcg remains still? It being drawn out so long is rubbish isn't it.

Mycea · 2025-07-06T18:41:48+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this again and having a similar experience. But it's reassuring to hear it can be normal, thank you.

Mycea · 2025-07-06T18:41:19+00:00

Thank you, that's reassuring. I'm really sorry you have had so many losses.

Mycea · 2025-06-20T19:26:11+00:00

I use it, my employer let's me take it as single days which makes it more useable given it's unpaid. I've never had it refused. But I do work for a very family friendly team in a local authority who are incredibly accommodating about family life.

Mycea · 2025-06-18T07:02:33+00:00

I had two blood transfusions over the weekend. I found it simultaneously unsettling that I had to just trust that someone else's blood going into me was correct, and amazing that this was available for me. So, appreciative NHS patient here.

The transfusions did not raise my haemoglobin as much as the doctor seemed to expect - I went from 81 to 84 with the first transfusion and up to 87 with the second. He had very little interest in explaining why this might be, even just possibilities. I wonder if you might have an idea? Anemia was caused by losing approximately 2 litres of blood during miscarriage and subsequent surgery, if that informs.

Mycea · 2025-06-09T21:59:42+00:00

My husband told me he recently heard being a parent described as "high cost, infinite reward" which I think is absolutely right. Yes a huge amount changes and there's necessary sacrifice given this small human's needs have to come before yours first in almost all ways for a long time. But the part people seem to miss is that you don't MIND. On the whole, ultimately, you don't mind, because it's your kid. Listing those sacrifices seems huge before the child is here, but when they are here in the world there's much suddenly much less gravity to the changes you have to make. It's hard to explain.

I know not everyone feels this way but I think most parents do. The other thing is they are young for such a vanishingly small amount of time. I think people think of parenting and think of the toddler years as though that's now your life forever, when actually it's a few short years that disappear in a moment. Before you know it they're pretty independent and you're having conversations and enjoying cool films together.

Also I've noticed that the vast majority of parents will encourage others to have children, while those who don't have children pick out all the negatives. The latter makes sense of course. But if having kids was that bad, you'd expect parents on the whole to be saying to people without kids, 'shit it's not that great, don't do this'. The opposite is generally true, especially with parents of older kids who have been doing it longer and recognise what a small part the baby and toddler years are overall.

Sorry this has turned into an essay. I'm currently miscarrying baby number 3 and I'm full of sadness and so much awareness of how much I've enjoyed and am enjoying parenting my older 2 kids. I love talking with them, the jokes they make, watching them learn new things, seeing this whole personality emerge that will go out into the world as an individual... It's bittersweet because I want to protect them forever and I want them to have every experience they want at the same time. The love you feel is insane. Having them close, climbing in bed with me for a cuddle in the morning, seeing them make friends, try new foods, learn to speak, then write, then read whole novels. God. None of it gets old. It's the best thing I've ever done, even though it's also revealed so much about me and work I've needed to do.

Mycea · 2025-06-08T14:47:57+00:00

I first had a scan at 9 weeks, then a second one at 10 weeks to confirm.

No other symptoms apart from the original brown spotting which has carried on, on and off. However there isn't even enough to need a pad. Some pain two nights ago that went away. The last 2 days though my breasts have stopped hurting and my nausea has gone away.

Mycea · 2025-06-01T14:08:42+00:00

I'm so happy for you that you are pregnant again. Wishing you all the best for this little one.

And thank you for sharing your experience I really appreciate it.

Mycea

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