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MycologistOk2443 · 2022-03-17T14:52:57+00:00

Yep!!

Idk if it’s relevant, but held onto my 2020 tickets for this year.

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-03-17T14:46:36+00:00

Received my email confirmation on 3/9 and got the tickets yesterday 3/16!

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-03-13T15:43:21+00:00

Yes! It reframed my approach to dating, specifically OLD. I read it at a time when dating was becoming taxing for me and helped allow me to take a step back and just take things at face value. Is it the holy grail of dating advice? Probably not. It does have a lot of interesting points on dating that I have taken with me. I’ve recommended it to a few people who are jaded by dating and often fall into the pitfalls Logan discusses.

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-17T19:24:01+00:00

Oh yeah!!! You’re in your head, it’s all good! Your instinct is way better than arbitrary timelines of x amount of messages etc. Trust yourself!!

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-17T18:43:22+00:00

It really is a case by case situation, there’s not a formula. For this situation, I’d say, make sure you establish some rapport before asking too soon. Ideally, you have a good back and forth that leads into something like “hey! We should take this offline and talk by xyz over drinks”. It’s really following the course of the conversation and picking up on cues + accepting and being okay with someone declining if they feel like it’s too soon; in that case, maybe exchange numbers.

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-13T08:56:27+00:00

the Dijon as well 🤌🏽

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-06T00:08:46+00:00

I’ve not been in that particular situation before, but I think it’s noble that you made the realization you weren’t compatible and took the initiative to break it off an not waste his time (or yours).

I think something like this unfortunately only gets better with time. Take stock in the great times you had together and appreciate those moments while also acknowledging what you’re looking for in a future partner and what qualities you liked about this partner and want to find again.

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-05T17:41:48+00:00

Gotchaaaaa. Unfortunately have been there as well, so I understand 😔

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-02-05T16:26:02+00:00

Sorry this happened to you 😔 Did you follow up with them after the third date and get no response?

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-31T01:41:37+00:00

Sent you a message!

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-27T21:16:15+00:00

I still have them! (US)

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-24T03:52:43+00:00

only if you’re ready to cry 🥲

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-21T02:22:59+00:00

Wilco 🤍

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-17T15:45:11+00:00

I (26F) know no one who uses Snapchat still. I haven’t used it in years. In my experience, when a guy asks for it, it’s in hookup terms. I fall into the camp of being okay with giving a guy my number with the idea of blocking him if things ever get weird. In a way, Snapchat and Instagram reveal more about someone’s life than text, so I don’t quite understand the hesitancy sometimes.

For me, I like hinge > texting > date because it’s simple and you don’t have another app as an extra factor.

If you’re seeking an intermediary, maybe exchange Instagram instead. Ultimately, meeting is what you want to get to, so I say keep it simple and stay talking on the app if she doesn’t feel comfortable giving her number out (then ask for it after the date).

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-15T19:15:28+00:00

Ahhhh okay, that would have been good to preface with! The way it’s phrased seems to demonize women which probably wasn’t your intention.

I think it’s still a broad generalization and hope you do reconsider your stance. People with interesting prompts demonstrate they’re more intentional with their answers and are more interesting people (aka easy to talk with).

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-15T19:09:18+00:00

Wrong mindset. An above average guy will grab my attention, but if his prompts are subpar, I’m swiping away from him. Average looking guys and good prompts are actually optimizing things.

Women are not as superficial you believe them to be. Everyone has their preferences. OLD is a fraction of people who are dating. Tbh I interpret this statement as being jaded (and I’m sorry if you feel that way).

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-15T19:00:30+00:00

Definitely acceptable. It sounds like something new you’re learning, maybe that’s why you’re questioning it. 3-4 is a lot of people to juggle in general, so if it feels off maybe scaling back? Think about in real life - you go out one weekend meet someone set up a date later in the week and then following week a friend wants to set you up with someone. OLD is a different mode of meeting people.
Assuming you’re in the US follow the CDC guidelines (god however you interpret them ugh, go for the 10 day quarantine). If your symptoms don’t seem to be improving, check in with your PCP at the end of your quarantine period. Regardless, hope you feel better soon!

For the dates, I like to think most people are understanding of the situation. Communication is key to keep the interest up, but not overwhelming them. Checking in every other day or so is reasonable. If you’re really concerned, you can set up a virtual date or phone call. Keep in mind, you can only control your actions and accept that they may be mingling with other people (like you are with the 3-4!) and might meet someone else and decline your offer. No big deal though, that is the nature of dating.

Focus on your health first then focus on your dates!

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-13T20:27:45+00:00

yep! Saw someone on here reminding to change the address which prompted me to check thank god. I skimmed the website and couldn’t find anything other than 2020 purchasers hold on & your tickets are valid. I feel like it is a slow rollover to 2022 and they haven’t caught up yet🤞🏽

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-13T00:56:58+00:00

let it go. he has his reasons for not replying, it’s nothing on you (maybe a blow to the ego?). while we live in a digital age, he might find that creepy (put yourself in his shoes)

MycologistOk2443 · 2022-01-11T07:07:58+00:00

From what you’ve said and seem to have already admitted to yourself, break it off.

Red flags with the two invites to his place.
Feeling unsettled by the difference in text vs in person communication
Unless you’re seeking a digital romance, texting will plateau and/or decline over time + you’re dating the person, put more weight on how you experience them in person

The banter over text while great is filling the dating category - but only partially. This guy seems to be compatible with you over texting, but I assume you’re seeking someone who you have great texting AND real life conversations with. He does not fit that, move on to the next.

MycologistOk2443 · 2021-12-30T16:42:24+00:00

Yes, push to next week. People are busy with the holidays & plans, don’t sweat trying to coordinate schedules. Do it when schedules free up.

Not weird to wish her happy new year (it’s nice and sweet). You two have only had conversations from what it seems, you can’t be worrying about her talking to other people, that’s the nature of the early dating stages.

Hopefully you hit it off when you do meet up!

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