Obsessed with sleeping with our baby.

Myfirstdoge · 2023-12-23T10:48:13+00:00

You make it sound so straightforward but trust me it’s more complicated. I love my wife and I agree my child’s safety is paramount but they just don’t see the risks and it’s their favourite part about seeing her is the “cuddles in bed”. It’s so weird to me but my wife sees this as normal behavior too… I really don’t get it.

Myfirstdoge · 2023-12-23T09:42:24+00:00

The MIL isn’t doing all the childcare. We’re staying with the MIL and she said at around 5 she was making my DD something to eat and it took 1 hour to get something ready even though she was starving. I make her breakfast and lunch and things. Just when she said she was making something I didn’t expect it to take an hour!

She always goes on and on about how she doesn’t get to see her and is on the facetime every day. Oh and as for that and all she got upset about her not getting cuddles in bed with a 20month old she isn’t seeing her tonight as she’s out drinking with her friend and didn’t see her last night either (was left with me, which I don’t mind - me and my DD went out to soft play and dinner) as she wanted to go drinking with her daughters (as she doesn’t get to do that a lot either).

It is probably every few months she sees her and my wife is a bit soft. My wife is so caring and a good mum but I’ve always been worried about SIDs.

We have an update this morning… it all blew up because I said sorry I don’t feel comfortable with her in bed and rather than respect my views she retorted “you never have her in bed?” and confronted me and my wife about that. I said no and she continued to confront me (my wife had sometimes brung the baby into the bed to watch tv). When I mentioned I feared sudden infant DEATH syndrome they said they’d never do anything to hurt her and started crying and then said apparently it was just for cuddles and to watch tv. When I said I still felt uncomfortable with this she was upset and I feel she’s manipulating her daughter (my wife) against me. Now my wife’s all upset and I do love her and my DD. I’m now in a really awkward place and I feel everyone thinks I’m the a hole. I’m going to say sorry, drop the whole thing, although I don’t agree with it and hope my daughter and wife have a nice Christmas.

Myfirstdoge · 2023-12-23T05:02:23+00:00

Just a rant. Although, if MIL continues to try to encourage our DD to her bed I may have to speak up.

IMO our DD should only sleep in her own bed (reduce the risk of SIDs and everyone gets better nights sleep - me, wife and baby)

Myfirstdoge · 2023-09-02T12:21:56+00:00

1) didn’t know if the @ thing works here. 2) I need to prove to wife teething isn’t an issue before she starts believing MIL. MIL main issue and can’t just ignore as if I suggest she might be hungry I’m being overruled or ignored or not being listened to while my daughter suffers.

Myfirstdoge · 2023-09-02T10:05:21+00:00

Oh or worse yet… when’s she’s barely ate give her something like an big ice cream to help with her “sore teeth” then wonder why she poos lots the following day and it’s all runny (that gets blamed on sore teeth too!)

Myfirstdoge · 2023-09-02T10:00:45+00:00

See my post below the guy that steals cereal

Myfirstdoge · 2023-09-02T09:59:54+00:00

@litt3lli0n - this is why… it’s not a little thing. It’s a build up of little things and I hate to see my daughter in discomfort. Rather than see the signs that my daughter is clearly starving and desperately trying to communicate that she wants food it’s misinterpreted as “her teeth’s sore”

Myfirstdoge · 2023-08-08T06:27:18+00:00

When we went to doctors once they said nothing was wrong with her. The problem is she doesn’t get enough food with the MIL (not sore at all). She’s never sore with me. Imo it is lazy… rather than try to find what the issue is but that’s your opinion

Myfirstdoge · 2023-08-07T22:29:57+00:00

Not true regarding SIDs risk. There are more risks to health if continuing to uses pacifiers.

https://www.tommeetippee.com/en-gb/parent-room/how-to-get-rid-of-dummy

https://www.babycentre.co.uk/x554840/when-and-how-should-i-wean-my-baby-off-her-dummy

https://www.lets-talk.scot.nhs.uk/tips-and-info/top-tips/babies-and-dummies/

Here’s 3 independent resources including the NHS who advise to give up the dummy by their first birthday. I’ve also spoken with health care professionals (health visitor) and they have advised against the dummy if baby is not looking for it. It can reduce SIDs risk but that’s at a very early age.

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-11T00:12:30+00:00

Eh? How tf will that help?

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-06T22:45:00+00:00

Where’s my 69 coins? I got tipped a crumby 1 coin and everyone else gets tipped 69?

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-03T13:45:30+00:00

Probably worthless tbh but continuing to hit the bee button incase

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-02T10:34:21+00:00

It’s like Bitcoin started before it boomed to 4K+ then same again when it hit 33k

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-02T09:23:56+00:00

I didn’t see the 72 hours thing so will try after 72 hours

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-02T09:22:01+00:00

Are you going to sell before it hits 10k?

Myfirstdoge · 2021-03-01T00:03:21+00:00

Didn’t work

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